Is there a dowry in Dafeng's marriage custom? How much is the bride price for ordinary people?

Marriage is divided into two days. The first day is dowry, and the woman pulls the dowry to the man's home or new house. At the same time invite relatives and friends. Have a dinner party. No candy. That night, the groom-to-be wanted someone to take care of the mat. Someone is sleeping with the groom. This man is exquisite. He must be the groom's brother-in-law or brother-in-law. It's still uncle's. If it's not, you can only watch it. If there is no more, you can only twist a bag of rice and put it on the bed.

The next day, the wedding day, is an auspicious day. The man is going to the woman's house to meet his relatives. This is also very particular, such as when new people will enter the house. Of course, this is superstition. But it's a custom. You can find Mr. Feng Shui to do the math. Get the car ready and go to the woman's house. Find a matchmaker (if not, don't, it's better to find a matchmaker symbolically) and the best man, which is not called in the countryside. Basically, they are all brothers of the same generation, and some are looking for good friends. It is best to drink and eat. You can also have one or two elders, such as uncles or uncles. Set off firecrackers on the road.

When she arrived at the woman's house, she closed the door and the groom stuffed money (gift money) through the door. Then open the door and go in. As the saying goes, cut to the chase. Then have tea (snacks and the like) at the woman's house. There is a detail here, which is generally known by the wedding car master who picks up the bride, that is, to press on the mat at the door. I don't understand what this is all about. For example, this woman is packed in a wedding car. But it seems to be rare now. I remember this when I was a kid.

On the way back, firecrackers kept ringing.

Go back to the man's house at the appointed time. This is the most important time. The man must drive all his relatives and friends out of the house. There can only be family members (parents, grandparents) in the house, and some people even close the door. This is also necessary, and you can't guarantee that any ignorant child will jump in. Country people are very picky about these things.

These accounts are good, just to attract new people into the door. At this point, the bride and groom are still in the car. The best man and others must get off the bus and set off firecrackers first. Burn incense in the room. Set the tea. When everything is ready, the bride and groom get off.

What needs to be explained here is that there is such a stress that the bride must first step into the house with her left foot, preferably with a big step. Because there used to be a threshold at home, and the local dialect was called "Five Poles". If the bride touches the threshold or something, it will be considered unlucky.

Go straight to the new house. There is such a custom in the countryside, called pounding red eggs. There is red paper on the window of the new house. When the bride and groom enter the room, they will signal to the people outside. You can pound the red eggs at this time. The man who pounded the red egg must be a boy. Preferably the younger generation. The candidate went from the hall to the table. But now some young people, without such a mistress, have changed to their peers. This is not particular now. The only condition is that it must be a boy. The so-called smashing red eggs means that children are outside the window, taking a bamboo pole with a plastic bag tied to the top to pierce the red paper covered on the window. You have to say, "smash it quickly and raise it (live) quickly." Hehe, that's a bit rude. Then, the groom opens the window and puts the red eggs in the bag in front of the pole. It can be four, six, and generally there will not be eight. Must be an even number. At the same time, there are wedding candy, two boxes or four boxes or six boxes, which must also be even. Have tea in the room.

Of course, you can do something else without drinking tea, no one knows.

After all this is done, I will eat cake with my parents and grandparents. All this is also "closed".

Then, relatives and friends come in to eat sugar rice and give Xi (red envelopes). White rice with sugar is called sugar rice, and all relatives should eat it. The rule is, you can't leave the bowl empty. This means that you must leave the money in the bowl. No wonder you keep saying there is no such thing as a free lunch. The big red envelope given by the elders should be 200 per person at present. Of course, you have money, you like to show off, and at the same time you are not afraid of others "looking at others differently." You can give 1000 or 10000, whatever. Just for the sake of peers, 10 yuan 20 yuan will do. The younger generation should also be interesting, but the younger generation has money to take, and the newcomer must give the younger generation a red envelope. This is the rule.

After the ceremony, the bride and groom got on the bus and went back to their parents' home. Mother's family held a luncheon. There is no need to say this. During the dinner, there was smoke and sugar, and it was enjoyable. Cheers.

Go back to the man's house in the afternoon. Not as grand as in the morning. I'm basically waiting for dinner. Dinner can be held at home or in a restaurant. But now the country is still used to being at home.

Here is a remarkable seating arrangement. Nowadays, people usually eat at the big round table of 10 people. However, even if you have 50 tables, the table for newcomers to eat must be square. This is special. Must be placed in the northeast corner of the main hall. Seating arrangements, seats, the oldest, that is, the one in the northeast corner, must be the groom's uncle. My uncle is the oldest. Of course, if the house is not facing south, or in a hotel, it is opposite the door and the door is facing south. Turn it around.

During the dinner, the bride and groom presented happy cigarettes and candy. In the meantime, cheers.

I almost got married after the dinner. Of course, there are many interesting things in the country. For example, we should play tricks on the bride's father-in-law at the dinner party. There are many ways to solve this problem, so I won't go into details. Then some father-in-law played the missing role at the dinner party. Very interesting.

That night, the bride and groom slept together for the first time. Do what you want. Don't be afraid.

The next morning, the bride must serve tea to her in-laws. The first time, pay attention.

That's basically it. Weddings in rural areas are such a custom. There are others, of course. For example, the bride is not allowed to visit other people's homes within one month from the date of marriage, and people belonging to the family are not allowed to enter the new house within one month, and so on. The former is not so valued now. A few days after marriage, the man's uncle and aunt can hold a banquet to receive the couple. Newcomers must prepare "gifts" (gifts for each other when they go to dinner).

One more thing, newcomers can't look in their own mirrors for a month, including the rearview mirrors in their rooms and cars. Cover them all with red paper. The term is one month.