What are your classmates who were "studying to study" now?

I have a classmate who is really into studying. She puts all her energy into studying. I never see her go out to play during class. She also lives on campus after school because she is afraid of wasting time going home and back. , I didn’t even have time to wash my hair. In winter, my head feels like it's smoking because it's so dirty, and the smell is not complimentary.

Most of the classmates don't like her. They always feel that she is not in the mood to chat and all they talk about is studying. Results are generally not outstanding.

Later I heard that I repeated my grade and got a bachelor's degree, worked in a government agency, married a rich man, and lived a good life. Generally speaking, I was the type who worked hard to change my destiny. Well, if the child is willing to work hard to study on his own, that is a good thing. It shows that he is willing to learn well, and he must be the kind of person who has goals in life.

I have two classmates, both of whom can be said to be typical examples of those who study hard. A female classmate in junior high school has a hair-like hair and a thorn in her buttocks. The other classmates are playing around after class, and she doesn’t care what she does. The environment was always in a state of study, and she couldn't even recall whether she had gone to the toilet after class. Once, her other grades were all first in the class (4 parallel classes, about 60 people in each class), Only her math score was second in the class. The moment she heard the score, her expression was particularly painful. She smacked her thigh with her fist at least a dozen times and lay on the desk crying for a long time. However, later she She has always maintained the first place in the class, beating the second place by at least 100 points. She scored 560 points in the graduation exam, with a perfect score of 600. She successfully passed the first degree, and later went to graduate school. Now she is working in a state-owned enterprise in Jiangsu Province. system. The other classmate is also a female classmate, and her study attitude is as good as the one in front of her. She is not ashamed to ask questions in class, and she is also a bookworm after class. During every small test, even though the teacher has highlighted the key points, she still fails every time. Sometimes it is hard to imagine and believe that she did not fall in love early. Everyone's memory of her will always be that she studied in class, after class, on the walk, and at night, but her grades were always ranked at the bottom! Of course, in the end I didn’t even pass high school.

Let me give you an example. When I was in college, there was a boy in my class. He looked very ordinary and dressed very slovenly. His emotional intelligence was not high enough. He often did things that offended others without even realizing it. Many classmates smiled at him on the outside and rolled their eyes privately.

But none of this matters! The important thing is, this guy loves to learn! Very motivated! How progressive! He always sits in the first row in class. He is always reading books, watching the teacher’s ppts, taking notes, and never going out to play. His roommate said that when he is not in class, he plays library runs, reads various books, and attends classes to learn various things. Courses outside this major.

Is this considered studying to death? You should forget about it. He is such a person. What do you think happened to him later? Do you think such people will be eliminated by society and still can’t find a girlfriend? You are wrong! ! Later, I accidentally saw a photo of him and a girl on his QQ space! He was quite good-looking, but then we discovered that he wasn’t sloppy anymore! The clothes look good and the hair is neatly done! It doesn’t look very good but it becomes refreshing and clean! Later they stayed and worked in the same city.

Most people who study hard are stubborn and honest. Although they are no better than top academics who improve their studies by playing around, they are actually working hard, which is much better than those who talk all day long

I know two There were classmates who were a bit obsessed with reading, one was a girl, and the other was a boy. After the girl entered high school, she still studied hard. She stayed up late every day to study, and even hid under the quilt to read at night, which made her often sick. However, the hard work paid off, and in the end I was admitted to the 985 University as I wished. I still studied very seriously in the university and did not dare to slack off. My academic performance in the university was always far ahead. I received scholarships every year. After graduation, I worked in a small company with a stable job and high salary. , life is good, it is just starting now, and the future is bright.

Another male classmate is also a bit obsessed with studying. He doesn't want friends or classmates. He doesn't serve as a class committee member. He doesn't violate disciplines and doesn't go out to play. He has always been a good student, even withdrawn. In the end I still did well in the college entrance examination. I went to a 211 university outside the province. However, after arriving at university, I was too withdrawn and did not have a good relationship with my classmates and teachers. I guess I was not in the mood to study. As a result, I failed the university and my grades were not good. , I have lost the passion for struggle, and now I am barely working outside, not knowing what my future will be like.

It has been ten years since I graduated from college. Now I can talk about how those people who were considered by their classmates to "study to death" and "study to death" are doing now.

First of all, those who are considered "stuck at studying" are usually students who study hard but don't know how to do it. They are not good at interpersonal communication and only know how to study hard. Now let me introduce the future of these students. Because it involves real people, I will use A, B, C and D instead.

Before the introduction, please also pay attention to an issue, that is, the admission rate from primary school to junior high school in China is relatively high, but there are many dropouts that year. The enrollment rate from junior high school to high school is less than half, and the probability of high school students entering undergraduate universities is only a quarter. Taking 1983 as an example, the enrollment rate at each stage is as follows:

Taking those born in 1993 as an example, the enrollment rate is as follows:

Unit (10,000 people)

It can be seen from this that an ordinary junior high school student has a high probability of not being able to go to high school at all.

An ordinary high school classmate has a one-half or even three-quarters chance of not getting into an undergraduate degree.

As for career, we will talk about it later.

A:

Female, junior high school classmate. When I was in school, I studied at an average level, worked very hard, and was very good at studying. Later, I was admitted to the second-ranked high school in the county (probably paid for by my family). It took two years to take the college entrance examination. In the second year, I was finally admitted to the first batch of junior college of a provincial university. To be honest, in terms of academic qualifications, she is already at the upper-middle level. After graduating from college, she took the civil service exam (her family liked it, and she had no objection). She first became a contract worker for a state-owned enterprise (I remember it was the Highway Bureau), and then she took the civil service exam for six or seven years. Yes, I haven’t passed the exam yet. I was very surprised when I got home this year. Why did I still take the exam? She is very stupid, but she is very tenacious. Even if she is stupid, she will move forward. That's about it.

It should be said that her life was ordinary, but if she had not studied hard, she would be much worse than she is now.

B:

Male, a classmate of two and a half years in high school (arts and sciences in the first semester of high school), well-known in the class as a deadbeat. Now I am working as a quality inspector for a construction engineering company, and my salary is not bad. He just couldn't find a girlfriend. The woman he met on a blind date at home soon got married and had children.

C:

Female, my high school classmate, we have a good relationship. At that time, I was studying in the middle and upper reaches, very hard. Later, I got a very ordinary undergraduate degree. After graduating from college, I worked in Shanghai. Five years after graduation, my income was about 13,000 yuan. It should have increased a lot now. Here I would like to mention a model of learning from her village, a very famous male classmate in the next class. Although this person was very good at studying, he knew how to solve problems and was not very good at life. He was very good at studying and was among the top ten in the class (I remember there were about 75 students in a class in the senior year of high school at that time). Now that I have entered the court, I feel like a duck to water, and I have become a lot more cheerful. According to my classmates, I have really changed. Maybe it is because I was hit a lot in middle school, so my personality is not cheerful.

Ding:

She is also a girl, a classmate in the next class in high school. The people I contacted later were all stupid students at that time, and their test scores were not very high, and they were in the middle and upper reaches of the class. Later, I managed to get into a very average undergraduate degree, and now I am starting a business in Beijing. She must be very rich. I did not go home during the Chinese New Year, so I brought my whole family to Beijing for the Chinese New Year. She must have bought a house in Beijing (she is currently single). This man used to be fat and ashamed of himself, but now he is a fitness guru.

E:

Male, classmate in primary school. After finishing junior high school, I went out to work, and now I am a welder. I used to work as a small laborer, but it was too tiring, so I went to learn electric welding for two years, but my work as a welder was average, and my salary was higher than that of a small laborer, but much lower than that of a skilled worker. She got married very young and her children are eight years old.

Ji:

Female, classmate in the fifth grade of elementary school.

The junior high school was in the same school as mine, but not the high school. I was probably admitted to the No. 2 Middle School (the No. 2 Middle School is a poor high school in our county), and then I went to a relatively poor vocational and technical college. After graduating from college, I looked for a job in Jinan. Because my resume was poor, I had to start at the low end. I worked for a few years with no results, just enough for food and clothing, and then I went home to get married. Life is not bad after marriage. The husband's family mainly does business and is spent in the store (it seems that most of us also spend most of our time in endless work).

You can clearly see that among my classmates, those in high school do very well, while those in elementary school do not do very well. This is not because of what happened to me, but because there were originally a lot of people in primary school and junior high school, and most of the people had to be eliminated when entering junior high school. Those eliminated entered society early and climbed up from the bottom.

We said:

A person who graduated from elementary school actually became a big boss!

We also said:

A person who graduated from a key university actually became a butcher!

These two "eventually" show the attitude of the world.

We know that those nerds who have worked very hard are usually not at the bottom of their studies, but it is difficult to compete for the top. They only hang around in the middle or upper middle reaches in the middle school learning process. Then, basically, they can enter college (including undergraduate and junior college), and their future work and marriage will be much easier.

After all, there are only a few people who are "poor in studies but very flexible in mind" and later become rich. "People who studied well in the past will have to work for those who studied poorly in the future" is even more nonsense.

So here is this old picture:

Student, if you study at a moderate level and don’t work very hard, don’t laugh at or despise someone who studies super hard but is stupid. Those students whose academic performance is only in the middle range should not look down upon those students who get high scores by studying hard. You don't hate high scores, you fear hard work. If a classmate with similar intelligence to you studies hard and gets excellent grades, or if a classmate with much lower intelligence than you studies hard and gets similar grades to you, it will make you angry.

But what’s the use of your worries?

The three top academics I know are all the kind of people who are obsessed with studying.

One is a classmate who has inconvenient legs and feet. He was ill when he was a child and one of his legs is lame. I used a cane when I went to school. It is precisely because of his physical disability that he can only rely on learning to counterattack in life, so he studies very hard.

Later, I was admitted to a 211 school, and I didn’t have much contact with him when I was in college. It wasn't until a class reunion a few years later that I met him again. He said that he couldn't find a job after graduating from the journalism department, and no unit was willing to let him intern. Companies were unwilling to hire disabled people (there was no corporate policy to support disabled people at that time), and I was very worried about what to do.

I came back and heard that I was taking the postgraduate entrance examination, studying law. After receiving my master's degree, I interned in a law firm. I obtained my lawyer's license in the first two years and finally found my own direction in life. But now I am in my thirties and still not married. It is indeed difficult to find a partner, and society still discriminates against people with disabilities.

This inspiring classmate’s family comes from a rural area. If he hadn’t been studying hard back then, how would he be living now? I really don’t dare to think about it.

The other one is my sister, Tang.

It’s really rare to see her smiling at home, and she doesn’t want to talk to anyone. Her parents are usually fierce and care too much about her studies. If you are not in the top three of your grade in the exam, you will be humiliated in all kinds of ways when you go home. Why did you have such a pig brain?

But my emotional intelligence has not changed at all, and I don’t talk to my relatives at home at all. I got married the year before last, to a graduate student who was a native of Beijing. I still don’t want to chat with my brothers and sisters, maybe because I feel sad for my family.

There is no problem with work. After all, I have a master's degree from Tsinghua University (but not a PhD), and my starting point for employment is very high. Overall, reading changed her personality and her life.

The last one is the neighbor’s daughter

In my memory, from the moment I had an impression of her, she wore a pair of glasses with lenses as thick as beer bottles. This eldest sister is also really hard-working. She goes out early and comes back late every day, always holding a thick stack of information.

When I was in college, I was admitted to Beijing, and I also married a classmate from another province at the same school, and I fell in love with her very much. The boy's family was very poor, and he also had two younger brothers. The family initially disagreed, but the eldest sister refused to marry him unless he wanted to marry him. Later, the family couldn't help but agreed.

To buy a house when they get married, the boy’s family can only get 80,000 yuan. Everyone knows the housing prices in Beijing. What can you do with 80,000 yuan? This sister ran home again and worked hard to get her parents to sell two apartments in her hometown, a storefront, and an Internet cafe, and pay a down payment in Beijing.

Later, when she had a baby and couldn’t work, the man couldn’t afford it on his own, and the elderly in the man’s family couldn’t come to take care of his grandson. So he had to call back and ask the woman’s parents to go to Beijing to take care of their grandson. After a trip, I came back and said that the child's life was very pitiful. I made up my mind and sold the last house in my hometown. Repaid part of the loan for my daughter. The two elders also left their hometown and went to Beijing to make a living.

I went to Beijing with my parents a few years ago and made a special trip to visit him. The eldest sister's father works as a security guard at the school and lives in the dormitory. The eldest sister's mother works as a dormitory manager at the school and also lives in the dormitory.

What should I say? The two elders can be considered middle class in their hometown, people who own a house, a facade and a business. For the sake of my daughter, I really went bankrupt, completely broke. Poor parents in the world!

I was critically hit two days ago! We were hit hard by that classmate who was obsessed with studying!

For a long time, those who have high scores, low abilities, and study hard have been called stupid students who only know how to study and have no understanding of world affairs. They have naturally become the targets of ridicule by many naughty students and "smart people".

I used to think they were stupid, but now I know who is really stupid.

Back then, my deskmate was such a person. His talent was not very high, and he relied solely on hard study and hard work to rank among the top 15 in the class.

He does not participate in any activities that naughty children like. We played wildly outside after school, and he read at home. This is true all year round.

The classmates in the class often made fun of him and gave him a codename of wood.

During the college entrance examination, he went to an ordinary university. But in the group, it is still rare to see him talking. According to classmates who were admitted to university with him, he still runs back and forth to school, the library, and the cafeteria every day.

Later, he went to graduate school. Later, I went to a certain research institute.

No news from him for a long time. When the classmates got together, they said that the idiot who was obsessed with studying must have turned into a "walking zombie" with a stooped body, wearing thick glasses, walking with his head lowered, and often thinking deeply.

However, before the Chinese New Year, a classmate who opened a small company insisted on organizing a class reunion and called everyone together. The classmate who was obsessed with studying was also dragged here.

That day, the hotel door was pushed open. He was wearing a decent suit and had a tall figure. He came in with a smooth face and a slippery and heavy windbreaker on his arm.

We didn’t recognize it for a moment.

Yes, where are the pimples on his face, and where is the nerd who always lowers his head in thought? What about the stupid guy who only smiles shyly when meeting people?

Finally we found out that the classmate who opened a small company was the one we really wanted to hire. He is already a technical authority in the special metal materials industry.

When the classmates talked about their situation over the years, we discovered that those who really lived well and achieved certain success were all those classmates who studied hard.

Because, at the age when they "need to study", they spent their energy on studying, which is the choice of the most "smart people". They are like fruit trees. In the first few years, they just take root deep inside, silently absorb nutrients, cut off excess branches and leaves, and endure the wind and rain. In the end, it always bears sweet fruits.

In a person’s life, good fortune is a given. The indulgence and waste in youth will take half a lifetime to repay.

Those who study hard are not stupid, they just don’t want to spend too much energy on useless things. It's not that they are stupid, they just don't want to talk to you.

It’s not that people don’t have emotional intelligence, they just don’t want to show their emotional intelligence to you. It’s not that they don’t understand worldly affairs, they just want to do a good job in studying.

For people with high IQs, how do you think their emotional intelligence will be low? People who can read, do you think they read the book into the dog's belly?

High scores and low abilities are just words used by those with low scores and low abilities to deceive themselves and others. It seems that when someone laughs at others for their high scores and low abilities, it seems that they themselves have high scores and high abilities.

Those students who study hard are much better off than most people.

I was the person who "study to death" back then.

I graduated from college at the age of 20 and from graduate school at the age of 23.

When I was in college, my hobbies were running, fitness, and reading. I dabbled in all kinds of novels, poetry, history, philosophy, society... and all kinds of books.

When I was about to graduate, I saw the working status of many undergraduate students, which I didn’t like. Most of them were doing routine work in the human resources department of a traditional enterprise.

So continue to choose graduate school.

After I entered graduate school, my hobbies were still reading and fitness, but I started to focus on them.

I began to clarify my career development direction, then read systematically around this main line, and started writing at the same time.

I also specially recommended some books to people, and thousands of people expressed their approval and thanks, and more than 10,000 people collected them:

The books I read as a graduate student are quite large, even if they are not even thousands. There are hundreds of books. Every time I move, the most troublesome thing is moving the books.

So what is my situation now?

Now we focus on talent training and career development, we have set up our own studio and brought in a few partners to work as a small team;

If we look at income alone , it’s still so-so at the moment, I can only say it’s still on the way.

However, I am gradually making some progress in my career.

So what do I want to say?

Everyone has their own characteristics and unique talents,

So, go your own way.

Find the path and direction that suits you, and then devote yourself to it to become good at it.

If you like reading and thinking, don’t worry about whether you are introverted or extroverted. As long as you can become good at a certain field or direction and provide services and value to others, you can divide labor in this society. and occupy a place in the exchange.

Thanks to my daughter who studies hard. She has always studied hard in elementary school, junior high school and high school. I never watch TV every day after school, I just study at my desk at my desk, and I can’t sleep for a few hours a day, because I have always been the squad leader in elementary school, and I work in the team. Even in the first and second grade of junior high school, I was able to get into the top three in the class. She often ranked first in English exams, but when she took physics and chemistry in the third year of junior high school, her grades dropped to around tenth in the class. From then on, she never smiled. Every time she failed in a major or small exam, she secretly cried. Her father and I feel heartbroken when we see her. She keeps saying that she is stupid. I also know why my child is not good at science. She is stubborn and never adapts to problems. I often communicate with teachers in various subjects, and the teachers praise her. Study hard, and there is nothing we can do about her bad grades or not being top-notch. The teacher thinks she is under too much pressure in exams, and talks to her before every exam. It is not ideal to pass the high school entrance exam, but she also passed the provincial key exam, but she just narrowly missed it. .

She still worked so hard in high school. She did well in the middle school in her first year of high school. I advised her to study liberal arts, but the child disagreed, and I didn’t force her to do so. However, after her second year in high school, her grades plummeted, and she still studied science. Not good, even failed. My daughter doesn’t talk to me or her dad when she comes back from school every day. She just studies and studies. She chokes both of us when we talk to her. I understand that my child must have a learning disability, and I don’t dare Shen said, I discussed hiring a tutor for her, but she didn’t agree at first. The reason why she didn’t agree was that she was reluctant to spend money and was afraid that she would not do well in the exam. Money, money earned is for you to spend. After discussing for a long time, the child finally agreed. I hired a graduate student from a prestigious university to tutor her in mathematics and physics. Basically, he came three times a week, mainly to answer questions for the child. To be honest, Yes, I have always been grateful to this graduate student. This child is a girl from the countryside. She is very smart, very independent, and full of positive energy. My daughter and I like her very much. After she came, my daughter has a smile, and I feel a lot more relaxed. , this girl stayed with her daughter until the college entrance examination.

However, the college entrance examination was not ideal. She only took two exams, and her major was not ideal. She studied this major and could not find a job even after graduating from graduate school. Her daughter was not willing to work hard for the postgraduate entrance examination in her senior year, so she decided to cross majors. Yes, I applied to a 211 university, and it was a popular major. My children were preparing for the college entrance examination, getting up early and studying late at night. I often say that other people’s children are forced to study, but my children have to be pushed to sleep every night. My daughter is very motivated. After the initial and re-examinations, I finally received the admission call. The moment my daughter received the call, she confirmed with a trembling voice and put down the phone. My daughter cried with joy. Her father and I also shed tears. It is not easy for children. The hardships involved I have always seen it in my eyes. Now my daughter is still working very hard during her master's degree. She ranked first in three subjects in the final exam. I would like to thank my daughter for her hard work and say thank you for your hard work!

Below is my daughter’s study table. I bought her such a big table in kindergarten. At that time, the chairs were short and she couldn’t reach the table when doing homework, so I put a small stool on the chair. ,

The bottom picture is three pieces of white paper on the wall, written by my daughter to encourage herself, and the number of days crossed out in the countdown to the exam.

There are more than 60 people in our class, and more than 40 of them are college top students, and some top students are like this: they go to Internet cafes to play games every day, stay overnight during the college entrance examination, skip classes and play basketball, and still do well in the exam. ! The paper with a score of 110 in Physics is all over 90, the paper with a score of 150 in Mathematics is at least 120 no matter how difficult it is, and the Science Comprehensive is at least 250. A great master even ranked first in the city. He is my deskmate. I respect everyone equally. At that time, the teacher asked him to teach me. It was me who failed to live up to expectations and did not do well in the exam. Now the great masters are in Tongji, Zhejiang University, Nankai University, Beihang University, and Wuhan University... The great masters are great masters in our class. There is no such thing as studying hard. There are only those who can do well in the college entrance examination even if they stay overnight. Also, studying hard can be considered a skill. Don’t look down on others. At least they know how to work hard. Studying hard does not mean being stubborn. Their future life will definitely be better. He will be happy because he knows that if you take life seriously, you will be rewarded as much as you give in this world. It is so fair. If you have such a person by your side now, cherish it!