I'm sorry, I can never be grateful to those who have hurt me.

I'm sorry, I can never be grateful to those who have hurt me.

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Recently, a video about Yun-peng Yue's past experience was widely forwarded. There are three stories in the video:

The first story is that when Yun-peng Yue worked in the kitchen, he usually did a good job, but the chef's brother-in-law took a fancy to his job, so he lost his job in the kitchen.

The second story is that when he was a cleaner, he brushed the toilet every day, but one day, the boss drank too much and went to the men's room, but at that time, he was cleaning in the women's room. He didn't see it the first time, but the boss came out and fired him. The reason is "you don't have the first time to deal with it".

The third story hurt him the most. 15 years old as a waiter. At a reception, the column of drinks was wrongly written. At this time, customers are not willing to scold him and insult him in various ways. He also said a good word, apologized in various ways, and was willing to pay for his acquittal. But the customer has been pestering for more than three hours, but no one next to him said, "It's almost done."

He said to the camera: I still hate him in my heart, especially him This face, which has been talking and laughing, shed tears, drop by drop, and I can't stop it.

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When I told this story, my good friend Bao Xiao came to my mind. I will probably always remember the time when she walked past the head teacher in junior high school. She said coldly, there are too many people to thank in this world, so there is no need to put those who hurt you on your list.

Bao Xiao was a fat girl when she was a student. You may not imagine how slim she is now. She used to be 165cm in height and 140kg in weight, butterfly sleeve, with double chins forever. The most worrying thing about puberty hormones is obesity. It seems that you will never be able to put on beautiful clothes and walk confidently past the boys you like.

It happened that Bao Xiao's partiality was extremely serious and reached a low point in the second day of junior high school. Every time I answer her so-called physical and chemical problems, I feel ashamed. To tell the truth, my science level is also very poor, but I can answer all her questions like a stream.

I probably know that the head teacher in Bao Xiao is very good. For example, I heard that she can indulge the children of rich families in her class and tear other students' books at will. I also heard that she easily agreed to join the league to evaluate students from powerful families. Therefore, a slightly ordinary family like Bao Xiao can only rely on their own efforts to occupy a certain weight in the teacher's mind.

Bao Xiao studies hard, but her grades are still poor. In a class of 50 people, she is always behind 35, which makes my good friend look anxious. The class teacher seems to be too lazy to write comments, only to write scores. But Bao Xiao's mentality is not bad. She has always believed that she is just a little stupid, and she can still be respected by others as long as she works hard.

One day, Bao Xiao came to my house crying, and I realized that at that time, Bao Xiao was the last in the class in physics. The head teacher insulted Bao Xiao in front of the whole class: You are so humiliated, so fat, and your grades are so poor. You won't have a job, and you can't marry anyone in the future. It depends on what you do.

Bao Xiao almost picked up her schoolbag and rushed out of the classroom. She felt that her self-esteem had been hollowed out by her. At the age of fifteen, she even thought about suicide. Fortunately, her parents stopped her in time, but she didn't go to class for three whole days.

Later, Bao Xiao's parents transferred her to school.

After the transfer, Bao Xiao began to lose weight, run, jump rope and control her diet, from 140 kg to 100 kg; I began to adjust my mentality slowly, and my parents also invited her to have a tutor, starting with the most basic tutor for a whole year. She met a decent class teacher, encouraged her to lose weight and helped her with her homework.

Later, she embarked on the track of being a good student, was admitted to key high schools and universities, and now she has a fairly good job.

That day, she and I met her former class teacher on the road. Her head teacher has retired and her hair is gray, but she is still an ambitious figure. Bao Xiao shouted "Teacher" and turned to leave, but the teacher grabbed her: You are really different from junior high school now. It seems that you have to be strict, a strict teacher's student ... her eyes are slightly contemptuous and her small eyes are always narrowing.

Bao Xiao interrupted her: After the transfer, my head teacher was really nice.

I saw her head teacher smiled awkwardly and left.

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In fact, everyone who lives in the world is a passer-by. From the moment we were born, we started to go to our destination, and everything just ended in the same way.

Along the way, there are already many people to thank. We want to thank those who are willing to walk with you in the dark; We want to thank those who have healed your wounds; We should thank those who show us the way; We all want to thank those who call you when you are sad, give you medicine when you are hurt, and are willing to say comforting words when you are crying.

But we really don't have to thank those who hurt you. For example, when you are walking on the road, a person hurts you with a stick until you are raw and black and blue. Will you thank him if you meet him again a few years later after your recovery? If you have to thank him, it is just to thank him for not killing, leaving you a life to prove yourself in this world.

In this world, there are always too many people who will tell us to thank those who have hurt you, suffered you and hurt you in the past. Because of their existence, they have a strong and hard-working self at this moment. It is not so difficult for us to tolerate and forgive all the injuries, but if we are grateful, it seems that we really just thank ourselves for not giving up and moving forward at that time, and finally stop letting others criticize us at will. As for the person who hurt me, it should never be.

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Tell me something that happened to me.

When I was very young, I was introverted and had no special skills, and then I was easy to talk to. Every time the class cadre can't find a classmate with "poor discipline", I will write my name on it to complete her task.

Therefore, for a long time, the teacher was the one who didn't know the truth and kept writing "love to talk empty talk" in my school contact book. I have also written many self-critical books on this point.

However, I have always belonged to the kind of person who resigned to his fate and silently endured it. I don't care.

But during that time, I also summed it up: First, maybe I was really too introverted, so introverted that everyone thought I could bully at will. Second, I really don't have any talent, so I am a dispensable person in my class. Naturally, I will be in the teacher's heart.

So, that year, I signed up for the host contest in the city. I have prepared reading and dancing. I am very lucky. I was going to make it all the way to the top ten. In the teacher's mind, it is almost like a dark horse. After that, I began to occupy the right of choice in all activities and competitions, and began to participate in all activities of the school by my own temper. The teacher subconsciously thought that my existence was the guarantee of ranking.

I remember once having dinner, talking about my youth, the class cadre who often wrote down my name said with a smile: Fortunately, I forced you, otherwise I really don't know how good you are.

And I only threw her one sentence: so I want to thank myself for not being forced to death by you.

I know she doesn't look good, but I touched her and added, I'm sorry, I really can't thank you.