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Why marry far away? Is it happy to marry far away?

When it comes to marrying far away, most people shake their heads and sigh. Especially parents, they have uncontrollable worries and worries.

My uncle and aunt are often worried because of my cousin's distant marriage. They eat poorly and sleep poorly.

In our understanding, the most important factor in marrying far away is love. Two people are inseparable and inseparable. Despite all kinds of obstruction from the girl's parents, the two lovers were able to overcome all kinds of hardships and come together.

But my cousin did not choose to marry far away because of love. This is also an important reason why my uncle and aunt care about my cousin.

My cousin fell in love with Wang Hui before she got married. My cousin loved Wang Hui to the core, and it was like not seeing her for one day was like three autumns. But Wang Hui's family firmly disagreed.

Wang Hui is a single descendant of the third generation of the Wang family. Wang Hui’s mother went to Baiyun Temple to pray for Wang Hui. The master of Baiyun Temple said that Wang Hui must never marry a girl from the west. For women in the West, Wang Hui would be in danger within three years. Leaving aside the loss of money, the main reason was that Wang Hui's own life was in danger.

Wang Hui’s family believes that regardless of whether what the master said is true or false, they must treat it with caution. They would rather break up their cousin and Wang Hui than let Wang Hui suffer any disaster.

Wang Hui asked his cousin out to break up. Wang Hui said to his cousin: "Xiao Min, don't blame me for being ruthless and unrighteous. I love you, but I can't pass the test of my parents. I am the only male in my family, and I cannot ignore their feelings. I don’t want to make my parents sad. Please understand me and forgive me..."

My cousin ran back crying. When she got home, she locked herself in her room and tortured herself without eating or drinking. When her uncle and aunt knew the reason, they were angry and distressed. They were angry because Wang Hui and his family were ruthless and ignorant, and they felt distressed because their cousin was too pitiful and infatuated. .

My aunt felt distressed and worried when she saw her cousin haggard day by day. She tried every means to enlighten her cousin, but she still couldn't get out of the cycle of lovelorn love. My aunt called me home to comfort my cousin.

I felt sad when I saw my cousin in a daze. I said to Sister Tang: "There are many good men in the world, and Wang Hui is not the only one. You will definitely find the one that suits you." Maybe someone is better than Wang Hui and loves you more than Wang Hui." The cousin said with tears: "I have been in love with Wang Hui for three years, and we get along very happily. , we have designed the future, and we once swore to God that no matter how time changes, no matter whether the other person is poor or rich, even if the other person becomes a fool, a lame, or an idiot and a pauper, we will never be separated. We truly love each other, Wang. Why did Hui forget our agreement?

What makes me particularly sad is that as soon as Wang Hui turned around, our love turned into a blank. He said he was afraid of making his parents sad, but he didn't touch it. Isn't he afraid that I will be sad if he touches his own conscience? Is he worthy of me? I really hate his stupid filial piety..." My cousin told me a lot about her and Wang Hui. I waited for her to calm down and said to her: "Reality is the most real. If things are already like this, don't force it anymore. Even if Wang Hui agrees to get along with you and marry you, Wang Hui's parents also have opinions on you. They I won't treat you sincerely. If something unexpected happens to Wang Hui in the future, his parents will definitely blame you.

It's not sweet to be stubborn. For this reason, you are better than me. I understand that getting married is not just a matter of two people, but also involves the involvement of the family, so in real life, love alone is not enough."

Six months later, Wang Hui followed the orders of his parents and married him. A girl from a neighboring village got married. My cousin went to Suzhou to work. A year later, my cousin met a boyfriend in Suzhou.

My cousin’s boyfriend, Li Yueheng, is a native of Suzhou. Li Yueheng has a younger brother and a younger sister, and his family conditions are very average. My uncle and aunt didn't agree. Firstly, it was too far away. Secondly, the man's family conditions were not good. Thirdly, they were afraid that my cousin would suffer hardship if she married.

But my cousin was determined to marry far away. The night before the wedding, she told us the truth. She said she did not love Li Yueheng and that she married him because she wanted to. To completely escape from this sad place, if I put it more clearly, it would be her revenge on Wang Hui for his unkindness and unrighteousness by marrying far away.

My aunt cried more sadly than my cousin. She said that my cousin was really a stupid and pitiful fool. Wang Hui even kicked her, but she still couldn’t let go, and she also used this kind of What's the point of ruining yourself in this way?

The truth later turned out to be that the cousin who married far away was really unhappy. The cousin and Li Yueheng had no basis for love, nor did they really love each other. Li Yueheng’s family conditions were not good, so he married his cousin purely. Pass on the family line from generation to generation and continue the incense. The reason why my cousin agreed to marry Li Yueheng was to escape and to retaliate against Wang Hui for his ruthlessness.

Li Yueheng's father passed away many years ago, and his mother was paralyzed in bed. The cousin was busy all day long, having to go to work to earn money to support the family, and also taking care of her mother-in-law.

It was my cousin’s choice to marry far away, and she could accept hardships and hardships. But Li Yueheng didn't understand his cousin's hard work. The two often quarreled and fought over trivial family matters. In the most serious case, his cousin's arm was broken by Li Yueheng.

The cousin returned to her hometown on a stormy night with scars all over her body. The cousin and her aunt hugged each other and cried. The uncle did not agree with the cousin to return to her mother-in-law's house anyway.

A few days later, Li Yueheng came to the door. As soon as he entered the house, he knelt down and admitted his mistake to his uncle and aunt. He vowed never to hit his cousin again.

The uncle and aunt did not agree with the cousin to go back with Li Yueheng, but the cousin cried and said that she was pregnant. The cousin said that the child was innocent and she did not want the child to be born without a father. In the end, the cousin went back with Li Yueheng. Arrive in Suzhou.

No matter what the outcome is, marrying far away is a heavy topic. Girls who marry far away may live a happy life, or they may live a unhappy life. In short, they long for infinite beauty and live a happy life. What matters is your own life, but what worries you is always the unquiet heart of your parents... (Characters in the article use pseudonyms)