"Why do I work so hard and still have a bad life?"

Recently, many people are complaining to me about such a question: Why do I work so hard, but my life is still not good? The economy is not rich, the work is not improving, and I can't sleep with anxiety every day ... In short, I am a loser with nothing but an effort. But how long can this unprovoked struggle last? Is it a year, two years or a month?

Perhaps we are all such people, afraid that our vitality and enthusiasm will be exhausted by the unchanging life, but we have not become the people we want to be. Therefore, we always like to blame others and feel sorry for ourselves after working hard for a period of time, pretending to be lofty on the surface, but our hearts will be more serious: Why? Why can others and I can't?

This kind of problem often bothers me, because I am the loser who can't make waves but is unwilling. Once, my life was a mess (of course, it is not much better now), and there was nowhere to put my messy emotions. What I think most every day is "Why do I recite so much? Why am I so bad? " It seems that only I am the worst in the world.

I didn't know how to appease such negative emotions, and then I plunged into a borderless book. Every week I set myself a reading goal to keep myself busy. Over time, I stopped thinking. Then someone complained to me, and I told her, "You are just too free." But in fact, such a voice will always fill my mind. I can't help it I'm just an insoluble contradiction.

Therefore, in order to solve such an old problem, I classify people who are working hard around me, so that the next time someone complains to me, or I am depressed, I will turn this article out and hit my face.

0 1 ? A group of people who work hard and pretend to work hard.

I tried to put aside myself and analyze this kind of crowd from the perspective of a bystander, but in the end I found out that I was the leader of this kind of crowd. This kind of person has a common fault. He often takes "I'm tired", "I'm busy" and "I don't have time" as his mantra, fearing that others will not know how hard he works. But in fact, besides working hours, they still have a lot of time to spend on their mobile phones. The nice name is that I am learning by charging my mobile phone, but in fact, I may brush Weibo, read gossip or play games aimlessly like me. In fact, we just work a little harder than those who are lazy, but we think we have tried our best and even comfort ourselves that we have tried too hard. We are really comedians.

Take myself as an example. In the past few years, I have been diligent. I write articles every day and publish several stories every week. At that time, no matter how busy I was at work, I would make time to write and do what I wanted to do. But in the last two years, I stopped writing stories. It's not that I'm not inspired, but that I'm bored, and I won't be angry anyway, so I just broke the jar. I didn't realize that I was really lazy until recently.

After 00, Muzhi, a beautiful girl, became an instant hit again after the broadcast of Wonderful Congress, and the number of fans suddenly rose to more than 300,000. Before that, she had written many explosive articles, and she was a high school student earning 100,000 yuan a month. Although I don't agree with her, I still respect this beautiful girl after 00. In order not to be old, she has done WeChat business, played cosplay, participated in the draft, made short videos, and so on. She tried n jobs to achieve economic independence and finally found a way to write. At first, no one read what she wrote about the official WeChat account. Later, she paid attention to more than 2,000 official WeChat accounts and read the summaries of other people's articles every day before writing her first explosion.

You see, when others are trying, I am trying. This is not hard work, this is duty; When others are resting, I am trying. This is called trying. But often we are all working hard by others, and you are the one who is resting, so I deserve transparency.

02 ? Three-minute heat crowd

The common fault of this kind of people is that they can't be single-minded and want to fill the gap. Their interests are often unpredictable. They like to write novels, design, take photos, travel and want to walk around. One idea a day, three minutes of heat, can't precipitate in one aspect at all. I don't think such people have figured out what they really want.

My friend eleven is like this. She is definitely the most representative of this kind of crowd. Her ideas are endless. She wants to be a director, producer, screenwriter, photographer, writer and so on. By the way, she still wants to get rich, do her own research and travel to Taiwan Province Province ... Well, I'm afraid her thoughts for three days and three nights are endless. Of course, she did her best. During the time when she wanted to be a director, she was really addicted to movie books every day, insisted on watching a movie every day, wrote a film review, and even bought a SLR to make a movie. But it didn't take long for her to make a sound. I asked her why. She said, "I don't want to be a director, I want to be a producer." To this end, I hate iron not to produce steel, and replied, "Hehe, are you playing house?"

I am incompetent, but I am still pretentious. So, what qualifications do you have to say that you have tried? Look at Forbes list 2 1 richest man Li Ka-shing. Everyone is so successful, but every day besides eating and sleeping, time is spent on work and reading. He said: "Before the age of 20, career success 100% was achieved by two hands; Before the age of 20 to 30, 10% is luck, and 90% is earned by hard work; After that, the proportion of opportunities gradually increased; After the age of 60, luck has almost accounted for 30% to 40%. "Even if he can use one hundred power to achieve something, he will save two hundred power to attack. This is Li Ka-shing, not just us.

03 ? People who work in the wrong direction and are unwilling to change.

In this world, there are not only people who pretend to work hard, but also people who work hard sincerely every day. Such people are usually stubborn, unwilling to change, or not very smart, and their brains can't turn around. After all, sometimes it's not that you don't work hard, but that your efforts are in the wrong direction and you can't sum up what you have learned, just like putting a screw in an inappropriate position, which will only be counterproductive.

Wen Zi, a pen pal, once fantasized about writing for a living, so she forced herself to write articles every day. Some time ago, I saw a big V recruiting a psychology writer, and she was tempted at once and wanted to try. But I haven't studied psychology, so I bought a bunch of books and studied how others wrote them. I am very tired every day, but I have little effect and failed to pass a manuscript. She was depressed and thought that writing was not suitable for her, so she thought of painting. Three months ago, she began to learn watercolor painting from scratch. She punches in the circle of friends every day, and sometimes she draws a picture several times to exercise her sense of painting. So diligent, her skills are getting better and better, and someone has started to pay for her paintings. Wen Zi said that she never thought anyone would buy her paintings, and it wasn't just one person. Yes, so far, she has sold twenty or thirty graffiti.

Look, change the direction and the butterfly will come.

04 ? A group of impatient and eager people.

This kind of person is also the kind who works hard sincerely, but he is too impatient. They may have tried 99%, just 1%. In order to see the dawn as soon as possible, I have become an ant on hot bricks, and I am very anxious. It is easy for such people to give up and deny all their efforts, and some people are even particularly negative, because a blow begins to collapse.

Mango in business belongs to this kind of person. She often feels anxious because she hasn't made a bill for more than half a month. The most common sentence she asked me was "What should I do", followed by "Why?" Why does she work so hard, but she still doesn't pay the bill? Why does she work so hard and her life is still terrible? Why can't she get a foothold in Shanghai after all her efforts?

"You wait for a while. That's how business works. You have to learn to bear the loss before bookkeeping. " This is the most I have ever said to her. Every time she is about to give up and wants to resign, I always enlighten her and let her stick to it. A few days later, I asked her if she had paid the bill. The answer she gave me was "10 1."

You see, the dawn has finally come, so, honey, if you wait a little longer, those who have been working hard will not suffer.

05 ? The loser at the starting line

"You see, your literary talent and study are better than mine, but you are not as lucky as me." This is what my best friend, the witch, often tells me. Indeed, her literary talent and study are not as good as mine, but in the end she was admitted to the undergraduate course, while I failed in the college entrance examination and only went to the junior college. Because I was unwilling, I took an undergraduate course in the self-taught exam, but I still didn't get into the same starting line. Because my best friend looks better than me, if we both apply for the same position at the same time, I will definitely lose. This is the gap, this is unlucky, and this is losing at the starting line.

Such people are usually very capable, and some are even all-rounders. They can do anything but have bad luck. So, what should such people do? I think, only by continuing to work hard, specializing in a certain aspect and becoming an expert can we always. Just like me, although I can't become a writer or publish a book, I never give up on the road of copywriting. But if you want to be mediocre, don't try.

"Why do I work so hard and still have a bad life?"

I think you can always find the answer in it.