Nine modes of family education, which one does your family belong to?

With the improvement of living standards, and now the families are all only children, parents have more energy and ability to train and educate their children, especially those born in difficult times, and always want to give their children the best learning and growth conditions to make up for their childhood deficiencies.

However, I didn't expect that people's thinking is limited and nature is infinite. This way of education has caused children to become flowers in a greenhouse, unable to withstand a little wind and rain, losing the care of their parents, but unable to adapt to the external environment. In the end, parents can only worry about their old age.

Second, the mold manufacturing type

Parents of such families are very strict with their children, from their living habits and activities, to their learning methods, hobbies, and even the choice of college entrance examination majors and the type of graduation work, all of which are mandatory guidance. Because they always think that their ideas can't be wrong, they love their children and do their best for them.

As we all know, under this educational model, children's independent learning and creativity are virtually obliterated. Although there is no denying that some children will achieve something, more children are just "products" made by models. The cloning of parents' prototypes, independent thinking and creativity of people have faded in these cloned products.

Third, economic stimulus.

The real society is becoming more and more materialistic, and many families' educational methods are also based on material stimulation for their children: first, rewards100; Before the exam 10, 50 and so on. So that in the end, there is only one word "money" in the child's head, doing housework? Yes, give money; Buy cigarettes for dad? Yes, give money; Help you with your homework? Yes, give me the money. ......

Fourth, the extrusion type

This kind of education is mainly reflected in the process of children's reading. Under the current situation, higher education and high school education are not popular, and the employment rate of college students is very low, forcing parents to put forward various harsh requirements for their children, so that their children can go to prestigious schools and have a good future. In normal times, children will be forced to study until after 10 in the evening, and on holidays, there are various cram schools and extra-long classes waiting for the children who have been drained of oil and water!

Five, their own radish type

As the saying goes, "my radish is so big." In the eyes of some parents, my own children have done well in all aspects, which is a genius. Even if the grades are not good, it is the fault of others, teachers and schools. Anyway, my own children will never be bad. I believe you also know what kind of consequences this kind of harm will cause.

Six, gentle nagging type

Some parents are gentle. When their children have problems, they start to talk, just like the Tang priest in a Chinese Odyssey. Finally, the Monkey King couldn't take it anymore and had to leave. If children grow up in such an environment, it may be good for their character formation and psychological development.

Seven, the original indulgence

Some parents have no time to take care of their children because they are busy working to earn money, or because their marriage has broken down; Some parents think that reading is useless, even if they are admitted to the university, they may not be able to find a job, and they can make a lot of money without reading, so they just let it die. Even put all the responsibility of education on schools and teachers. Although there is a theory of "education is omnipotent", there is no omnipotent teacher!

Viii. Irritability and violence

Although today's educational philosophy does not approve of hitting children, there are still many parents who still educate their children in the way of "don't hit children". Especially when children do something wrong and don't listen, parents will add their fists to their children when they are angry. Children who are trained by violence are either particularly rebellious or become weak, which will make it difficult to eliminate the psychological shadow caused to children.

Nine, the ideal type

This is a summary of the ideal family education, and it can also be used as a suggestion to make up for the above shortcomings of family education.

Pay attention to children and love them, but don't spoil them; Meet the child's reasonable requirements, but let him know what is not encouraged; Strictly demand children, but give them moderate independent space; Preschool education and primary education are particularly important, which are important stages to determine children's behavior habits, ways of thinking and cultivate children's hobbies; A good study habit, living habit, thinking habit and good economic concept will affect a child's life and determine his future achievements.