If a child is young, he should have no sense of aesthetics? Stop it!

When the season changes, buy a pair of shoes for the deer. When buying shoes for your children, you have to go to a physical store to try them out. So, a family of three went to a store near the community to look at shoes. I found a pair of maroon shoes with orange decorations on them, which looked very autumnal. I asked the little deer to try them on. If the little guy doesn’t do it, he will die or die with those shoes.

I took another pair and asked Xiaolu if he liked it. Xiaolu happily agreed: "Yes". When the shop owner helped him try on the shoes, he took the initiative and said, "Auntie, help you put on the shoes." The young man couldn't tell the difference between "you" and "me". After putting on those shoes, I ran out. We need at least two pairs of shoes when changing seasons, so we bought a pair of shoes that we thought were beautiful and a pair of shoes that Xiaolu liked.

Our calculation is that after we return, he may wear the shoes that the deer doesn’t like to wear under the appropriate temptation. We were wrong. We "cheated" in various ways and used various beautiful words to describe the beauty of those shoes, but the children turned a deaf ear and ignored us. It seems that Xiaolu already has his own aesthetic.

The child doesn’t know how much hatred he has accumulated with shoes in his previous life. He always doesn’t like to wear shoes at home. We warned him many times, saying that he was getting cold and his bare feet would slip easily. The little guy then changed his strategy. Take every opportunity to ditch one of your shoes and walk around the house in just one shoe. There are shoes here and there. So the family fell into a cycle of constantly looking for shoes for the deer.

Back to the topic, because the deer doesn’t like to wear shoes, so I found the floor socks I bought for the deer before, a pair of bright blue and a pair of apple green. I always thought that deer like blue. So most of the things I bought for the deer were blue. So, this time, the little deer was given the blue one to wear first. He put it on without any resistance. When the green socks were taken out, the young man quit, saying they were blue and ugly and wanted to wear green ones.

I went to the store to buy him a new pair of floor socks. There were seven or eight different styles, but Xiaolu didn’t like them. Asked what he liked, the deer replied green. Bring the green ones, said the deer, not the ones with eyes on them.

Simple style is an aesthetic that my mother acquired after 10 years of practice. You kid, you understand it at such a young age.

In fact, Xiaolu already had an aesthetic idea even earlier. A relative gave him a cowboy hat, but Xiaolu refused to wear it. At that time, I just thought this was an isolated phenomenon.

Nowadays, the clothes arranged for Xiaolu also require his approval. If he doesn't want to wear it and thinks it's "ugly", he definitely won't wear it.

Young men have their own standards for what is "ugly" and what is "beautiful". For example, whether his mother is beautiful or not, the young man's answer must be "beautiful".

Mom’s clothes are not necessarily the same. Once, I tried on a black top hat and showed it to the little deer, hoping to get his opinion. Unexpectedly, when Xiaolu saw it, his face immediately changed and he looked like he was about to cry. So, I reluctantly gave up the hat. Last night, I wore a pair of floral pajamas, and Xiaolu said I didn’t want my mother to wear them. When asked why, the answer was one word: "ugly".

Grandma came to take care of the fawn, and she was very shameless about the fawn's behavior of choosing clothes. She often said, "Xiaoxiaozai (hometown dialect), also knows how to be beautiful and ugly." Even if she said this, grandma would still respect it. Deer choice.

In addition to his clothes, the deer pays great attention to the placement of his toy cars. Order is also an aesthetic. He would arrange all his cars in the parking lot, very neatly.

These all mark that children have entered a critical period: the aesthetically sensitive period. A child's aesthetically sensitive period generally appears after the stubbornly sensitive period, and develops in a spiral. The sensitive period for stubbornness begins at the age of 2. The feeling of beauty also begins to sprout at this stage.

Children’s pursuit of beauty and resistance to adults are all telling us one thing, that is, as children grow up, they begin to gradually build their own small world, that is, they gain self-awareness and gradually Develop into a complete person. This is something parents should be thankful for.

Children will be very persistent in adhering to their own aesthetics, and will pursue perfection very much, and cannot tolerate a little imperfection. Isn’t this kind of pursuit the quality we admire?

This is likely to make us feel very troublesome and make our children difficult to take care of. But we have to understand and respect children.

When faced with the paintings of Xiaolu, I often don’t know how to evaluate them. I usually shut up and don’t want to praise them, such as how round and beautiful the paintings are.

After scribbling a lot, the young man will always find objects that match the paintings from his life experience, such as fountains.

The painting is so messy, but it really captures the characteristics of the fountain. The young man didn't wait for me to take a photo, so he drew a few more circles on it without stopping. It's not easy for my mother to show off your work properly.

I took him to Tiananmen Square to see the fountain during the National Day holiday. I didn’t expect that it left such a deep impression on him. It seems that we need to take our children to see the outside world more.

Many modern adults generally believe that children are inferior to us in all aspects, such as intelligence, understanding, creativity, etc. What are the facts?

Guess: Which one is a child's work, and which one is a $28 million work by the American painting master De Kooning?

Guess: Which one is a child's work, and which one is "Number 18" (collected by the Guggenheim Museum (New York)) by the American abstract expressionist painting master Jackson Pollock?

The art and innocence of children's lives are a state that countless people dream of and are a source of inspiration. Regardless of children's recklessness, ignorance and occasional small mistakes, they are their unique spirituality and talents.

Mr. Feng Zikai likes to draw children's comics. The children in his paintings always play games innocently and fearlessly. He loves his children's life and even laments their "growth":

"My children! I look forward to your life more than once a day! I want to say it humbly so that you can know it. It's a pity. By the time you understand the meaning of my words, you will no longer be someone I can admire. This is such a sad thing!"

- Excerpted from Feng Zikai's "Given to Me" Children》

Mr. Feng Zikai has a hobby, which is to observe and record the lives of his children. Like me, he has a proud face. He has seven children, and he is in awe of children who can express their emotions without reservation, like his child Zhanzhan:

"Zhanzhan! You are especially admirable. You are a real person who is open to the public both physically and mentally. You It's like trying to deal with everything with all your energy, like a small disappointment, like peanuts falling to the ground, chewing your tongue, and the kitten refusing to eat cake, you will cry until your lips turn white and you will faint. A minute or two. When Grandma Putuo went to burn incense and bought the clay figurine for you, you worked hard to hold it and feed it. One day you broke it by mistake, and your cry was more sad than the bankruptcy, lovelorn, and broken heart of adults. , the sorrow of mourning a concubine and being annihilated must be real.”

Feng Zikai’s Zhanzhan↓

Maybe you don’t recognize Kawashima Little Bird, but when it comes to Mirai-chan. , that is, the little girl in the picture below. Look through your WeChat contacts, there must be someone who is using, or has used, her photo as a profile picture. That's it.

The photographer of this popular little girl is Japanese photographer Kawashima Kotori. This little girl is the child of his friend who lives on Sado Island.

When he saw her for the first time, Kawashima Kotori felt the infinite possibilities, so he "visited her once a month and stayed for a week at a time" and spent almost a whole year with her. Little Future played together and completed the *** episode "Future Mirai" (Future-chan, pronounced Mirai-Chan in Japanese, can also be translated as Little Future)

"The sense of distance changes naturally. She gradually became willing to face me, and later she seemed to realize that she was being photographed. Of course, she also started to learn to speak, and even though she was so young, she felt like a woman. She was still so young. It’s like the light is shining on you, the gentle feeling of a goddess. ”

——Kawashima Kotori

Children are not something we can teach. Children have to teach us something. The truth, goodness and beauty in forgotten life.

You can try to imitate them, but you cannot make them look like you,

Because life does not go backwards, nor does it stay with "yesterday".

You can give them love, but you cannot give them thoughts,

because they have their own thoughts.