Professional confusion

The person who believes in "ability" will win

"Day after day, I will do better and better in all aspects." This is the famous saying of Emile Cué, a French psychotherapist. In Britain and the United States in the 192s, this sentence was repeated by thousands of British people.

"Day after day, I will do better and better in all aspects." At that time, it was an indispensable thing for people every day. People repeat this sentence within the specified time every day, and they repeat it every time the idea flashes in their minds. They believe that doing so can enhance their mental awareness, mobilize their physical vitality and prepare for the success of their career and life.

This is the early prototype of positive thinking today, which was once popular.

Emile Cué is not the first person to put forward this view. In this respect, there are countless predecessors, one of whom is samuel smiles. After his book Self-help: A Description of Personality and Behavior was published in 1895, it became a popular bestseller in Britain.

In p>198, Arnold Bennett, a British novelist and dramatist, published the book How to Spend Twenty-four Hours a Day. Then, more than a dozen similar books were published one after another, which provided people with happiness and success from different angles by using applied psychology. This trend reached its climax when Norman Vintcent Peel, a missionary, published a self-help book on religious preaching.

Pierre is an honorary pastor of mable United Church in new york. In the 194s, he used the book The Power of Positive Thinking to spread this concept. Soon, his followers and imitators suddenly surged.

This priest's panacea is a mixture of refined Christianity and popular psychology, and the product of the combination of cautionary words and simple self-help spirit in the Bible. However, it is regarded as an effective way to achieve success, and its effectiveness is definitely not due to God's guarantee. Enthusiastic people carefully repeat the words of the apostle Paul ten times a day: "Jesus Christ makes me strong, and I can do anything through him." They were also warned: "Follow God's law of success and you will never fail."

once you believe in yourself

people are full of enthusiasm again and again, dreaming of breaking the stereotypes they are in, but they have been slow to take action. Soon, their dreams have disappeared and their plans have completely failed. They are once again caught in the groping and have not achieved everything that obviously exists in their potential.

They kept making up their minds: "One day, I will do this and that ..." But unfortunately, that day never comes.

why? Because they don't believe in themselves "makes sense, you are right, but how can I believe in myself?" How can I be better? " Anthony robbins told us not to think about the 3.5-mile long-distance race at first, not to be the president, and not to monopolize the big market. To solve the immediate challenge, don't focus on the highest job, but on the next thing. To travel to a distant city, you have to start the first step.

All the great achievements are simple. You can fly a plane when watching seagulls fly. Open a bicycle shop and you will gradually develop a large-scale automobile production line; Learn the multiplication table and you will begin to discover the theory of relativity.

of course, "hope is not equal to the result", which is the key. You must act, you must take the first step. You must sit down and talk to yourself.

"How successful do I think?" "I have the determination to let yourself to strive for these successes? "Is that possible for me?" Meditate for a while, and you will realize that there have been many times in your life when you feel that you have not done much for something, and you have decided to change it: thousands of people have adopted a good lifestyle to promote their health and have been persistent.

thousands of people eat foods with high cholesterol, and as a result, they will never lose weight.

Some people don't want a double martini when they eat Chinese food, or they don't carry a whole case of beer home on Friday night.

Some people swear to be more considerate to their spouses or families, or spend more time with their children, and they all do.

As a result, their lives have improved.

These examples of turning determination into reality prove that it is not uncommon to make up your mind to change yourself, and it is not uncommon to realize your determination. In the past, maybe we didn't keep our promise, which doesn't matter. But the crux of the matter is: as long as we realize that we should change some aspects of our lives, we will take action and achieve our goals.

In this regard, anthony robbins mentioned the story of Helen Keller. She was blind, deaf and dumb since she was a child. She got familiar with the dark and silent world around her by touching with her hands, tasting with her mouth and smelling with her nose. It seems that the limitation is so great that she can't help it. How do you teach a deaf person? She can't talk. How do you know what she needs? She can't see or hear, but how on earth did she know where you were? Helen Keller did not give in to this cold life in spirit. Because it is impossible to curse and complain, she had to lose her temper with her parents and people around her with violent shaking of her body to illustrate her disheartened mood. It seems that she is destined to spend her life in despair in an isolated and silent world.

However, an extraordinary young woman came into her life. This person can be regarded as a strongman in life. She is Anne Sullivan.

Helen Keller's parents hired her to get rid of her daughter's loneliness and soothe her anger, because all this has made them disheartened and depressed. Anne Sullivan is fully aware of her difficulties and that her task is almost hopeless, but she still makes up her mind to teach the child and let her communicate with the world she can't reach. This is a fight against the obviously impossible. Its frustration and disappointment can make the strongest person discouraged and discouraged, but she silently endured it and has been like this for months.

she just refused to fail.

Suddenly, one day, when too many disappointments were frustrating and hope never seemed to come, Helen uttered a voice of understanding. All this was beyond people's expectation. After her first reaction, she opened up like a bud.

Helen Keller's potential was tapped by another belief in her heart, and she began to develop. She made slow progress, suffered a lot, and sometimes stopped, but she continued to work hard and finally became a respected writer, speaker and a shining example of perseverance and courage all over the world. She could easily be comforted and "curse God and die", but she had a different choice. She wanted to overcome her own shortcomings without giving in to it.

then, in the face of our relatively small disadvantages, we can all do it.

how can you believe in yourself

how can you believe in yourself? Look around you first. Are the successful people you know completely different in basic skills? Or did they do more with their only abilities? Although there are many outstanding people in the world, some of them are geniuses, but most of them are people like you. They just make up their minds, work harder, or think more about their responsibilities and challenges.

don't exclude yourself because your education is only secondary school. We can write a book with stories of particularly successful people who have never had a chance to go to college.

because you had a chance to succeed, but you blew it. Many successful people also failed in their struggles, and they have always been grateful for that day. It was failure that opened the door to success for them, otherwise they could not get close to these doors at all.

because you are unattractive. Who is a living woman who is less attractive than Mother Teresa in appearance but more respected than her? Believe in yourself, believe in your potential, surpass your colleagues, surpass your ideals, these are not futile beliefs.

but first you must be able to see yourself implementing these beliefs, and you must believe in who you are. To this, anthony robbins told the following story.

At the age of p>12, on a rainy Sunday afternoon, Charles, an American scholar, scribbled on paper and drew a Philip cat, which is a character in a comic strip that everyone likes. I took the book to my father. It was a bit reckless at that time, because every Sunday afternoon, he took a lot of reading materials and a bag of figs and hid himself in their so-called living room and closed the door to do his business. He doesn't like being disturbed.

But this Sunday afternoon, he put the newspaper aside and looked at the picture carefully. "Great, Chuck, did you draw this painting by hand?" "yes." He looked at the painting carefully and nodded his head in appreciation, while Charles was shaking with excitement. My father almost never said a word of praise and rarely encouraged them five brothers and sisters. He returned the painting to Charles and picked up his newspaper again. "You are very talented in painting, stick to it!" From that day on, Charles painted everything he saw, filled up his exercise books and didn't care about what the teacher taught him.

After his father left home, Charles had to find a way to live by himself. He often sent him sketches that attracted him and waited eagerly for his reply. He seldom writes letters, but when he replies, any praise in them excites Charles for several weeks.

During the most difficult period of the Great Depression, his father died. Charles had no other income except welfare, so he had to leave school at the age of 17. Encouraged by his father's words, he drew three paintings, all of which were famous "junior players" Joan Primu, Harvey, "second-rate players" Jackson and Chuck Connacher, and handed them to Mike Lohden, the sports editor of Toronto Globe and Mail. The next day, he hired Charles, and for the next four years, he painted a sports print for the Globe and Mail every day.

that was Charles' first job.

imagine yourself successful

before starting a journey, you must find out where you are, which is a basic rule. You may have a destination in mind and a map in your hand, but you can't get there unless you know where you are on the map now.

So, before you start to reach your goal, make a personal list, stating where you are, where you want to go, and dissect yourself bravely. What is your attitude, actions, appearance and background that limits your success? What skills do you have and how do you need to move? One of the most effective ways to change your life is to use imaginative skills.

Imagination is a creative act, through which you can form a mental image, which can see something clearly in your mind. The first goal is to look at yourself, at any time, just like you are now.

From the beginning, imagine yourself in various specific situations, and give yourself a mental image: busy with complicated work or taking notes in the workplace.

greet someone in the office.

talk to your boss or colleagues.

attend sales meetings.

discuss business with customers at lunch.

deliberately recall your behavior and attitude in your recent work. What do you see? Have you ever seen someone calm, confident or nervous? Does this person give you the impression of confidence or indecision? A hint of anxiety and lack of confidence? Then, change this image, try to imagine yourself in a situation you like, and then imagine yourself as that person. Knowing how athletes use imagination to promote their movements can help you do this.

That's what a high jumper did at the Seoul Olympics. He was preparing to set a new record. As the TV camera moves, you can see that his lips are moving, as if talking to himself. This body language implies that he imagines himself running to the crossbar, flexing his legs and twisting his body, as if he were thinking about a series of actions. He nodded resolutely. He was ready.

The camera moves closer, and you see the camera aimed at the player's face. When he lit the fuse of thinking, he gritted his teeth, followed by several powerful run-ups, constantly speeding up, lifting his legs and bowing his waist, and finally successfully crossed the crossbar.

what happened? The high jumper has crossed that height twice-once in his imagination and once in the eyes of the audience.

"What a pressure!" You will sigh, "He only has one chance, and he must make it succeed." No, he first saw it succeed in his imagination, which gave him confidence and made him succeed in reality.

four exercises to imagine

practicing to imagine has two advantages: it can prepare you for a certain situation, and in addition, it is actually a rehearsal. Any troupe will never perform without rehearsal. Rehearsal is an early manifestation of experience. As the saying goes, "Practice makes perfect", because every time you do something, you almost always practice it better first.

Does it mean that people should imagine everything first? Of course not. Imagination must be prepared, and the high jumper can imagine that his success is due to his own preparation.

"But," you would retort, "doesn't this brilliant idea about imagination become a braggart? The high jumper doesn't need to imagine his success at all. Through several stages of hard training, he has been able to achieve his goal.

No, despite his training and his skillful skills, he knows very well that he will still make mistakes under certain circumstances, and he must also dispel the distracting doubts. By imagining that he can cross the crossbar, he can enhance his confidence and improve his movements. He kept saying to himself, "I can do this. I have succeeded before, and now I will do it again." Imagination is actually just a means to find your own attention and concentrate it, a means to remind you what is the right means, a means to increase what knowledge and use it.

Five Imaginations for Preparation

anthony robbins has a unique method that he will use whenever there is an important appointment.

here, for the sake of description, let's take a business luncheon as an example.

First of all, Robin gets ready. He makes all the preparations before the discussion.

secondly, he arrived at the meeting place early. Just like us, he knows that nothing is more frustrating than being late for an important appointment. Because you are late, you will be embarrassed and sweaty. You can't concentrate during a meeting; On the contrary, you may be distracted, thinking about how to make excuses for being late.

Therefore, Robin always arrives at the meeting place ten minutes early, and takes it as a fixed habit.

every time he doesn't go directly to the conference table, he goes to the bathroom and checks his meter. After doing this well, his mind will not be troubled by external worries, and he can concentrate on the meeting and its purpose.

Robin recalls the name of the person who will have lunch with him so that he can use it when greeting, take a deep breath, take a long breath, consciously relax, imagine himself approaching the table, greet everyone present, order food and chat. After a while, the topic to be discussed will be put forward.

There is no doubt that if he doesn't mention the preparatory work before and doesn't consider the direction that their conversation may lead, then he