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In the sharing of "The Year of Rebirth Plan-Life boils down to three key words", Li Naran shared her path of self-exploration, from no self-awareness, to conscious but unable to find the way, to trying to find the way to make mistakes, to verifying methods, and it took about 9 years until 20 17 formed the system.

I can't help but recall my own road of self-exploration.

I was born in the countryside, and my middle school is in a small town. Before I went to college in 2004, I had no sense of self, but I had the belief of "study hard and live up to my parents' expectations".

When I finally got into college, I felt like a bird in a cage, and finally flew out of the cage and had the opportunity to see the world freely.

From a small town to a university in a city I have never been to, my eyes are full of curiosity, and I feel that my world has begun to change.

Some time ago, everyone was basking in my circle of friends when I was 18 years old. I was thinking, "What was I like when I was 18 years old?" Looking through the electronic photo album, I can't find any photos of 18 years old.

It suddenly occurred to me that I 18 years old is a freshman in college. That year, it was my first official birthday, I ate a birthday cake for the first time, and I made a sincere wish to a candle for the first time. I remember, I spent time with my sisters in the dormitory. Brother Wu specially took a lot of photos and developed them for me. I vaguely remember myself in the photo-18 years old, chubby and silly, waiting for a while, nothing but dirt.

But in that soil, where others can't see, there is a seed sprouting quietly. The name of the seed is "Be yourself". On that day, I told myself silently: I will be 18 years old from today, and I will live for myself.

To be yourself, you must first know yourself. At that time, there was really no conscious way, so I groped for the stupidest way to know myself and understand myself.

(1) Read:

Go to the library to read books such as psychology, personality analysis, constellation analysis, animal constellation explanation and blood type analysis.

② surfing the Internet:

Go online to calculate tarot cards, leave a positive and good explanation after the calculation, and ignore those negative and negative results. Haha, I think I'm so cute now. Therefore, I gave myself many positive hints, such as: You know your potential. If you fully understand what you want to do, concentrate and use your wisdom, you will work miracles! It seems that this sentence was written in my diary after I counted the tarot cards once, and it has been preserved until now, giving me guidance and hints, and even has become my own subconscious words.

③ Experience:

When I was in college, I chose to take a part-time job as long as I had a holiday in May 1 1. On the one hand, because of poor family conditions, there is a younger brother who goes to college like me and wants to reduce the burden for his parents; On the one hand, I think doing part-time jobs can exercise myself, get to know myself and broaden my horizons.

At that time, part-time jobs required interviews. During the interview, I will introduce myself in front of dozens of people. Such an opportunity can exercise myself. If you succeed in applying for a job, you will find out whether you are suitable for such a job, whether you are willing to deal with people, whether you are good at interacting with people, and whether you have the opportunity to see the world. Once I applied for a part-time job, I could go to Shanghai to attend the 11th Shanghai Wedding Photographic Equipment Expo (I always forgot the name, so I was deeply impressed). This is my first time to go to big cities and Shanghai. At that time, I felt very happy and excited, and had the opportunity to see the outside world, which greatly satisfied my curiosity.

The university also joined the psychological association, but learned nothing except a certificate; The interview campus radio station was not admitted; Go to Qingdao for off-campus oral English training; Going to Beijing and sitting in the Great Hall of the People to attend the tenth anniversary celebration of Taikang Life Insurance ... In retrospect, these experiences were the brightest stars of that era.

We need to experience and collect the world, so that we can know ourselves better, know ourselves, know where we are going, determine what kind of person we want to be and make better choices.

(4) others' evaluation:

From college to graduation, you will know yourself from the evaluation of others at that time. When I was in college, I would ask my classmates and friends. "What do you think I am?" Students look at me seriously, think seriously and give an answer: persistence, seriousness and hard work are the answers I have heard the most. Ha ha! Some students said that they wanted to earn money by doing too many part-time jobs.

After graduation, many people will take the initiative to praise and evaluate their work performance. Some of them are recognized and observed by colleagues, such as: "You have strong summing-up ability", "I like to listen to your training, which is clear and easy to understand", "Your Mandarin is really standard", "You are really serious about your work", "You are a natural coach", "You are very careful", "You walk fast and talk fast" and "You are an impatient person".

The evaluation information obtained actively and passively was an important channel for me to know myself at that time. Looking at yourself from someone else's point of view gives you an extra perspective, sometimes more objective.

⑤ Trial and error method:

When I was in college, I was mainly studying, and my part-time job was all experience. After graduation, I really stepped into the society and started working, so it was not an experience. When you are still ignorant and not sure what you like, what you can do, what you are good at and what you value, you can't do nothing, but dare to try and make mistakes.

I have been trained in cosmetics, responsible for market development, market maintenance, training and management of beauty consultants. Later, there was a special downturn, coupled with geographical changes. I worked as a telemarketer for half a year, took a meeting for half a year, and then returned to the cosmetics industry as a regional trainer, in charge of a province. Later, due to physical reasons, I left my job and the area changed again. ...

I run around in the traveling field of life, experiencing, experiencing, perceiving and knowing myself. My mother has never understood why I have to run around without a stable teacher job after graduation. At that time, I didn't know what I wanted. I just know that the stability of teachers in small towns and the life that can be seen at a glance day after day are not what I want. I didn't know what I really wanted, but at that time I was sure it wasn't what I wanted.

Uncle Nana Ogawa once said: No matter whether the road ahead is bright or not, you have to go on. Even if you take the wrong road, it will only increase the possibility of choosing the right one next time.

I think this sentence is the best interpretation of myself crossing the river by feeling the stones, not afraid of the road ahead, moving forward by feeling, constantly experiencing, experiencing, trying and trying again, and constantly exploring myself.

The first job after graduation, working for four years, the biggest gain of four years is personal growth. My work habit of making lists, my work habit of making lists and analyzing lists, my ability to accept the guidance of professors, my first evening dress, my first flight, my first trip to Guilin, Gulangyu, Xiamen, Hangzhou, Anhui, Nanjing … all these are my growth and experiences from my first job.

The second and third jobs were done for a year and made a short adjustment.

The fourth job, two years. Harmonious team relationship, good team atmosphere, and good income increase every year, which is my greatest gain. Until I left for physical reasons.

20 14 called the police one after another and had a minor operation. Soon after I went back to work, I was diagnosed with lumbar disc herniation. I was treated at home for a month. After I went to work, the company had a physical examination in September. The physical examination results show that my immunity is low, and my thyroid gland has nodules ... successive blows have made my heart suddenly cold and cold. ...

In the month when the lumbar disc was prominent, I could hardly take care of myself at home I can't turn over, cheat or lie on my side every day. I take medicine every day, pull it out every day and eat it in bed ... At that moment, I thought: all my dreams and pursuits are not as important as my body. If I have no health, I can't even take care of myself. What I call giving back to my parents and blindly pursuing beauty will collapse. Without a healthy 1, it's really meaningless to have a few zeros behind.

So I left my job in 20 14, 165438 10. In 20 15 years, I spent a passive gap year in convalescence. During this time, my area has changed again. As my health improved, I began to plan to return to the workplace.

Every time I find a job in another place, I will be confused for a while, and I will consider: what I like, what I am suitable for, what I can do, what I am good at, what I like and what I am good at.

20 15, I met new elites on the way to explore myself. 10 participated in the online course "Building MVP in the Workplace: Enhancing Core Competitiveness" of the new elite. So this opened the door for me to accelerate my self-exploration-I went from self-exploration to career planning, and then I took a series of courses to study in depth. I put what I have learned into practice, applied what I have learned in my career to myself, and started the road of knowing myself deeply and systematically.

I consciously and systematically explore myself. It has been more than two years since 20 15, and I have a clearer understanding of myself every year.

What do I like? What am I interested in?

what can I do? What ability do I have? What am I good at? What ability am I good at and what ability do I like to use?

What do I value? What is the value I pursue in my career? What is my pursuit in life? What is my career ideal? What is my ideal state of life?

Under the guidance of the method, find the answer, verify the answer in practice, and know the direction you want to go.

Finding the direction is the hardest step. When we have a deeper understanding of ourselves and a clearer understanding of the direction we want to go, the rest is to work hard and approach the ideal with actions.

All the experiences and detours we have gone through make us know ourselves more and more, and we should believe that there is no road in life in vain.

"You can't string these points together in advance. Only when you look back in the future will you understand how those dots are strung together. So you have to believe that what you are experiencing now will be more or less related in the future. "

Finally, share this speech by Steve Jobs at Stanford University.

May we all experience, be confused, explore and finally realize. In practice, we will become more and more clear about the direction we want to go, and john young will sail to the destination of this life.