Good intentions are not rewarded. Is it our fault or someone else's fault?

In the workplace, I think many people have the experience that they meant well, but others not only didn't appreciate it, but also made a scene. Sometimes it is really annoying to think about it.

We paid sincerity, sincerity and goodwill, but the other party thought we had ulterior motives. In this case, good people still don't do it.

Many years ago, I was an accountant, opposite the cashier. In other words, this cashier, because of her personal ability and talent, often makes all kinds of mistakes, sometimes data calculation errors, sometimes voucher writing errors, and sometimes Zhang Guan Dai Li. In any case, there is no time when she does not make mistakes.

As an accountant, of course, we must find out the receipt. How else can I book it? So I always take pains to point out mistakes and problems to her. She was very grateful to me in the first half of the year, because it can be seen from her attitude and expression.

However, after half a year, the situation has changed.

I don't know the reason behind the change. It's just that the director of the finance department told me by innuendo that the cashier spoke highly of me.

Why is this happening? I don't seem to have done anything wrong to her. If it weren't for me, she didn't know the result of her accounting mistake! I don't know what other consequences there will be!

The section chief said that this seems to be the problem. She thinks you are degrading her in disguise, saying that she is poor in ability and hurting her self-esteem in disguise. She thinks you just want her to be a moron in everyone's eyes.

Shit, is that still understandable?

The section chief said, no, the company will lay off employees. Although the cashier is the daughter of the old factory director, but the business is not enough, there will always be some anxiety in my heart. And your kindness has amplified her inner anxiety.

Anyway, after this incident, my relationship with the cashier was obviously tense.

What if I see her mistake? Of course I ignored it and returned it as it was. Think for yourself!

Anyway, I can't take the wrong account to account for the reimbursement expenses!

Therefore, it is outrageous to think that mistakes are pointed out with good intentions, but people understand them this way!

Because although your starting point is good, it is also for work, but in the eyes of others, maybe you are deliberately expressing yourself and deliberately amplifying his incompetence.

For example, a colleague said he wanted you to help him because he was about to leave work and was halfway through his work. After all, he knows that he is inefficient and his ability is almost worth it.

At this time, look at each other's hospitality, of course, to help. After all, we are colleagues. But we kindly provide assistance, and the other party may not appreciate it if the work is done well. Why? Because our standards are a bit too high, the boss quit at first sight. So I asked, what's going on? Did you make this?

In this case, our kindness is regarded as the liver and lungs of the donkey.

There is another situation, that is, we are kind enough to help others, but we have done something wrong because we are not careful. But under normal circumstances, the other party will always check it before handing it over to the leader. It happened that those guys who didn't have eyes didn't even look at it, so they handed in the filled materials.

So, when the leader found the mistake, he flew into a rage. Such people immediately said that they were all helped and it was their own fault that they didn't check, but they didn't expect this kind of mistake to happen. Really wrong!

Look, these guys! I'm going to betray myself

It is said that Xiaolin's family is well-off, well-fed and handsome. Therefore, Kobayashi always takes care of his colleague Arvin, whose conditions are not as good as his own. By the way, it is common to take each other to work, and it is also common to give generously to Gao Jiawen from time to time. Kobayashi thinks he is enough for Arvin. But in Arvin's heart?

On the one hand, she feels that Xiao Lin is really good to her, on the other hand, she feels very unbalanced.

Ah Wen thought, why should something good happen to such a shallow person as Xiao Lin? Why does he seem to be fine when he helps me? Why do I work harder for the same job, but I never get the boss's approval? And Xiao Lin's work is always so easy to be recognized by the boss? Is it really because of my poor ability?

You see, because of your good conditions, not only your help becomes a matter of course, although you have no selfish idea to help each other, but your image in each other's hearts is not so good!

In a long year, Cong Fei, a caring singer, was so kind, so sincere, so exuding love and noble sentiments. But for those who have been helped by him, who really thanks him? Words just because Cong Fei met with difficulties and failed to continue to help individuals, he was hated and belittled by the other party!

Therefore, people are unpredictable.

In this case, when we want to release goodwill, we'd better take it easy.

Considering the possibility that goodwill and its release may not be able to do good things, we should first set up a fence for our goodwill. In other words, it is not too late to be a good person when you really need it, after you have agreed on the corresponding conditions and obtained the corresponding protection.

In other words, my good writing is almost recognized by people around me. In fact, good writing is not simply a matter of writing, but because I am particularly skilled in brand marketing, enterprise management and market operation, and I also have some theoretical systems of my own. It is the combination of copywriting style and brand thinking that makes all kinds of copywriting fast, efficient and accurate in brand marketing.

Knowing that I have superb professional ability in this field, a former colleague always asked me to help him.

For my colleague's sake, I will help him appropriately.

But it never occurred to me that whenever he had a problem and a copy needed to be revised, he immediately sent it to me and asked me to help him revise it.

Change today, tomorrow and the day after tomorrow. Sometimes it's a contract, sometimes it's rules and regulations, sometimes it's something else. Anyway, there is always a copy that cannot be changed, and there is always room for optimization.

Anyway, I am not your secretary. Is it appropriate for you to throw it here like this?

But I changed it well before, and suddenly I stopped. How is this appropriate?

So sometimes it really bothers me.

I don't know what kind of psychology the other person is. He feels that he has the right to throw his problems at me at any time and his affairs at me. I have such an obligation to help him again and again.

Everyone said that I helped each other like this, but suddenly I stopped helping. Will the other person thank me in his heart? Thank a ghost! The other party will only say that it is just a little help, that's all. They don't want to help anymore. What a shame! But I decided not to help.

I said to myself, what do you take me for?

It is said that a master photographer opened a wedding photo studio in a fourth-tier city, and the business was booming. In the years when he opened the studio, he also brought out two apprentices. The master's level is there, and of course the apprentice's level is not bad. So I helped the master for three years, and the two went out alone. But business just doesn't work. Business is bad, of course, because the business of the master's shop is too good.

So, one night in 10, two of his disciples came to the master with 654.38+10,000 yuan and said, Master, if you don't close this store, your disciples will starve to death.

After much consideration, the master took 65.438+10,000 yuan and closed the store the next day.

I'm good to both of you. How could you do that?

These two said that without masters, of course, there would be no them today. However, people always have to live, right? Families always have to spend, don't they? Everyone wants to improve their lives, don't they? How can the disciples live a good life when the master suppresses here?

Therefore, the master can only change careers. Instead of letting a friend's photo studio in another city burn down, it is better to "gently persuade" yourself with money. You know who started the fire, but you have no proof.

The master has higher skills and higher standards, and as a result, he brought out his apprentice, but the master has to be passive.

A locksmith master also encountered the same problem, and was also persuaded by his disciples to close the shop with money. So the master locksmith had to close his lock shop and concentrate on studying and selling locks.

It is said that the "poor" apprentices brought out by these masters are uncomfortable when they see that the master's skills are good and his income is particularly high. It seems that the master earned their due money.

In Liuzhou, Guangxi, a master locksmith brought out two outstanding disciples. As a result, a few days after he left home, two apprentices stole his home without a trace. If it weren't for the lock-picking technique, he would never have thought that it was his apprentice who did such a thing.

I'm so kind-hearted, I'll give my apprentice almost everything he wants, but when I teach my apprentice, he starts with him.

Master's power makes the inner humbleness of his disciples have nowhere to hide.

I thought I could repay, but I was remembered and hated. I have done a lot of good things, but actually I have brought unexpected harm to myself.

This is because everyone's inner world and growth process are not affected by the logic of reciprocity. You are good to him, but what he sees is that you are better than him; You help him, but he thinks you have so much, so it's natural to help.

Just like I can tell the time and help the cashier not pay back the money, people are not only ungrateful, but full of hatred for me. Because of my help, it seems to highlight her incompetence and imbecility.

Our sincerity and kindness often bring others different thoughts and feelings instead of sunshine. Because they are not us, we can't stop them from doing whatever they want. Therefore, when paying, I would rather leave myself more discretion. (MZK)