Kneel down and pray for Binzhou’s wedding customs

The phenomenon of "child marriage" in Binzhou's wedding custom continues unabated. According to surveys, in some rural areas, the phenomenon of underage engagement continues unabated. During the investigation, it was learned that the main reason for this phenomenon is to seize a good household, and fear that if the engagement is late, there will be no good households. Some children are still studying in school, and their parents have already betrothed them for life. What's more, some underage girls have been called "so-and-so's wife" in the village. Not only did they not mind this, but they thought it was a matter of course.

Don’t marry unless you are rich. Use wealth as the criterion for choosing a mate. With the continuous improvement of rural living standards, the pursuit of prosperity is commonplace. But some rural girls regard "richness" as the first criterion for finding a partner. As long as the man is rich, other conditions can be ignored. If a girl from any family can find a rich husband, she will feel extremely honored. As a result, some men borrowed money to build a house, took out loans to buy property, and often acted like a fat man.

The girl actually "discussed price based on quality." In some places, when a beautiful girl is looking for a partner, she will ask for a heavier gift, otherwise the marriage will fail. Some men miss out on beautiful girls because of lack of talent. Marriage is a union of equals between the sexes, but it has to be overshadowed by business. Isn't it sad? !

The woman has so many different ways of getting engaged that the man can’t resist them. In some places in rural areas, as soon as a girl gets engaged, she must first ask for "engagement money" from the man. The amount is usually 1,001 yuan, which means picking one out of a thousand. Maybe it’s because “hundred” is too little and “ten thousand” is too much, so I settled on “thousand”. When a woman goes to her husband's house for the first time, the ceremony is similar to that of a wedding: many people are going to the woman's home, and the man holds a banquet to entertain her and gives her a large gift. From now on, the man will pick up his wife every Spring Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival before getting married, but he cannot pick up his wife for free. He still has to pay the girl money, usually starting at 200 yuan. If she doesn't answer the question once, the woman will be blamed for "violating the rules". In serious cases, she will terminate the engagement with the man. When getting married, the man must pay the woman a gift of at least 6,000 yuan, which is usually at least 6,000 yuan. In addition, a large number of household appliances, furniture and other post-marriage supplies must be borne by the man in principle. As a result, some young couples have family disputes and even marriage breakdown due to huge debts after marriage.

Serious money worship. In some rural areas with a slightly higher living standard, after getting engaged, girls ask for the so-called "three golds and one smoke" from their men, namely gold earrings, gold necklaces, gold rings and motorcycles. Some also ask for expensive leather jackets and cosmetics. , the man did not dare to get engaged before he had saved up a lot of money.

Unbalanced "mental balance". Some villagers simply believe that after an engagement, the woman becomes the emperor's "golden mouth and jade tooth", and she can do whatever she says, and the man must let it go. This view is actually recognized by many men, reflecting an inherently unbalanced "mental balance".