Obviously in love, why can't we be together?

It was many years before I understood this book.

This is a story of falling in love but not being together. The book is called "Youth We Have Nowhere to Place".

The title of the book is a bit melodramatic, but the content of the book is by no means melodramatic and naked reality. There was a TV play in this book, played by He Jiang. TV plays are very nice and have the flavor of old movies, but no matter from any aspect, TV plays beautify the images of the characters in the book.

This book describes love, but it is more than love. I remember reading this book in college. In the end, I felt puzzled and even annoyed. Why did you finally choose Du, a scheming third party with a bad style? Because Du is pregnant with his baby? He and Zhou Meng clearly love each other so much, why must they be separated? Let each other miss each other for the rest of their lives? I didn't understand anything until I experienced my own feelings.

The attraction between magnetic fields is unreasonable, but it is rational whether two people can live together.

The story takes place in a virtual city called Jiangcheng.

Li Ran, a 24-year-old reporter from a provincial newspaper, is a frequent traveler. He enjoys the feeling of wandering, likes to see all kinds of life and capture the scenes that move him. He may not be so capable or extremely handsome, but he has absolute charm for women. Li Ran has been in society for some time, and he is anxious about the future. Such a career, such a way of life, doomed him to be unable to settle down in one place.

Zhou Meng, 19 years old, sophomore. When Li Ran and Zhou Meng met, Zhou Meng was still a blank sheet of paper. He knew nothing about society and didn't care. She is well protected. She doesn't like going out, dealing with people, and all the troubles. Her room is empty. She has no feeling for beautiful scenery. She is too delicate to go far away. She just wants to live quietly in a familiar place for many years.

Such two people love each other and must be together. Only one party caters to the other, cutting off the life that one desires most.

If Li Ran gives up his distance and stays in Jiangcheng with Zhou Meng, Li Ran is like a caged bird. Although his favorite person is around, his heart is still far away, so he will not be happy.

If Zhou Meng follows Li Ran to a distant place, they will lead a wandering life. Zhou Meng had to follow Li Ran in various cities. If she can't keep up with his footsteps, she will be a drag on him and become a weaker and thinner woman.

In any case, this is a mutually consuming life.

Since they met, Zhou Meng has been waiting for Li Ran. When Li Ran came back, Li Ran called on a business trip, and Li Ran obeyed the arrangement of the newspaper to shoot in Tibet. He even forgot to call Zhou Meng for a month. Zhou Meng said: "I love you, but even if I love someone, I will be tired of it." Because of love, we should focus all our attention on that person, constantly investing, doubting, rejoicing and despairing. Long-term emotional instability can make a person very tired.

A publishing house in Yunnan poached Li Ran and asked him to be the chief photographer of a Yunnan scenery album. Li Ran asked Zhou Meng to accompany her to Yunnan. Zhou Meng said, "Li Ran, why don't you understand? I don't like going out, I just like staying at home. " Li Ran said, "Zhou Meng, you won't make any changes for me, will you?" Zhou Meng asked, "Why don't you make some changes for me? First Tibet, then Yunnan, then what? Where is it? Have you thought about me? "

In fact, their ending has been included in this conversation. There is no solution to this dialogue.

When two people who deeply love each other can't find a compatible lifestyle, there is no way out for their love.

Besides, there is humanity.

Li Ran has been betraying Zhou Meng. At the beginning of their meeting, Li Ran's girlfriend Liu Yilai, who had not completely cut off her feelings, came to see him. Li Ran and Liu Yi stayed in Huangshan for a few days and finally had sex. If this is an accident before Li Ran and Zhou Meng met, let's just defend Li Ran, saying that he is single is understandable. So, when Li Ran went to Tibet, he fell in love with Zhou Meng. Six months later, he not only had sex with Du, but also had sex with a Tibetan girl. In this case, without the reader's criticism, Li Ran himself could not explain his behavior.

It's hard to call Li Ran love rat by pointing to his nose, because his affection for Zhou Meng has been in the book for so long. There is no doubt that they love each other. Moreover, I also understand that life is not black or white, human nature is not good or evil, and behavior is not right or wrong. The deeper you understand life, the more you can understand the clues of various unreasonable behaviors under the control of human weakness.

Did Meng accept betrayal? It's hard to say. The more you care, the more you can go beyond your own bottom line to forgive someone. But because of caring, betrayal is a kind of pain beyond time. This is a contradictory tear.

Li Ran didn't give Zhou Meng a chance to forgive him. In the days when he returned to Jiangcheng from Tibet to meet Zhou Meng, everything between them was so wrong that it had already heralded the end. Du's pregnancy was just a fuse, which suddenly accelerated his separation from Zhou Meng.

Is it better to marry someone you don't love than to live a mutually consuming life with someone you love?

I am afraid so. Because of love, I am more timid. Because of love, because of being tortured and unable to look at each other. On the contrary, because I don't love it, I can live the life I want without any attachments.

The two separated and missed each other for several years.

At the end of the book, Li Ran said to his friend Li Yue, "You don't have to love someone very much to stay married. But if you love her, even if you know it will hurt her, you have no right to give up. "

Obviously, Li Ran regretted it. At this time, Li Ran has signed up for the on-the-job postgraduate of astrophysics at Peking University. He is divorced and doesn't need women as much as before. He has experienced the prosperity of the world and tasted the fragrance of nephrite. He began to pursue a pure life. At this time, I believe he can give Zhou Meng the life he wants.

But Zhou Meng is married and has a boy with someone else. After a long time, even the faces in the memories have become blurred. They finally met, but Li Ran didn't try hard to save Zhou Meng. Even, it is impossible to spend a night.

They have already missed it.

Readers sigh, regret, regret. But where is this not the norm of "love" in reality? A "love" needs courage, restraint, understanding and wisdom to last forever. Sometimes, it even needs a person to grow up as quickly as a thoroughly remould oneself. We meet love, but we often can't keep it. There are only a few marriages left, and of course, a group of older men and women are still holding on to hope.