Inspirational article: Be a strong parent.

Be a strong parent. My son is the first student and the most loyal student of NBA Yao Ming School.

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My son is taller and stronger, and the smile on his face is brighter. As a mother, I am glad to see more and more bright spots in my son. Thank you very much to the team of NBA Yao Ming School.

I met lenka by chance, and I always saw her carrying a camera to capture the wonderful moments of children on the basketball court. Appreciate her enthusiasm for work and talk to her naturally. Maybe it's because we are the same as "mother", and our topic is more about children's growth and education. In the communication, lenka agrees with me and hopes that our dialogue can help more parents. Of course, my other role as a "psychological counselor" also hopes to spread these seeds in the hearts of more parents.

The growth and education of children is a very complicated topic. Here I want to talk about two points: being a strong parent; Be a parent who is always introspective and constantly learning.

Be a strong parent.

Strong parents make excellent children. Parents with strong inner feelings can not "persecute" their children together with the school and deprive them of the diversity and differences of exam-oriented education. Strong parents can face all kinds of temptation and social pressure to make up lessons, and choose suitable courses for their children with a clear mind. Instead of letting children drown in endless extracurricular classes, just to appease their anxiety. As a parent who has just experienced junior high school, I have a deep understanding of this. Strong parents will not hurt their children's self-esteem for face, money and anxiety. Strong parents can accept their children's imperfections, allow their children to make mistakes, and accept and encourage their children instead of scolding them when they encounter setbacks. Parents with strong hearts will not rush to tell their children what to do, but patiently guide and suggest, trust their children and believe in themselves. I believe that children can grow up well and give them respect and support when they make their own choices and take a different road from ours. I believe that even if there are problems, parents and children have the ability to face and solve them together. Think about how much security and self-confidence such trust can bring to children.

The strength of children comes from faith. Only when parents are strong and free can they give their children real love. "Life is a journey, not a competition. The most important thing is to be yourself! "

Of course, we can't escape many practical problems, such as whether the children's exam results are excellent, whether their qualifications are smart, whether the school ranks high, and whether their performance in school is excellent. Even if you don't care about these problems, people around you will keep reminding you. Even if you don't think these are important, social pressure will make you face up to these problems. Whether to keep your child's little talent beyond the test ability requires you to make a difficult choice. And it's hard to say that you can really be firm and confident and don't hesitate to make all the choices. Who can guarantee the children's future? Living in such a huge confusion, parents need to have a strong heart, so as to do their best to let their children have more beautiful childhood memories.

The 24-year growth experience of the famous writer Chi Li and her daughter may give parents some confidence and reference. Chi Li's daughter, Yi Chi, was ridiculed by her relatives and friends as a wild child who only knew how to play and never entered a gifted class. After graduating from junior high school, she was admitted to a key high school in Britain by virtue of her own strength, and then successfully graduated from the London School of Economics and Political Science with excellent results. At the age of 22, Yilin Publishing House published her first translated novel ... She was not only excellent in academic performance, but also brilliant in painting, playing the piano and photography. She studied in Britain for eight years and participated in social activities such as volunteer fund-raising and work-study programs.

Not only has she achieved general success, but more importantly, she has really grown up! In this long process, all her mother did was conform to the child's nature, respect every choice of the child, resist all kinds of social pressures, and let the child have full confidence to explore his own potential, give play to his own specialties and go his own way. In fact, love itself is education. There is no unified starting line in life, and every child is a unique world.

Be a parent who is always introspective and constantly learning.

I am very grateful to my son, who has opened a door of introspection for the life I have been trying to look outside. He is like a mirror to me, which makes me re-examine myself. Think about it, a child just came to this world, he knows nothing, and his way of dealing with all the problems in life is to learn from the people around him. As Rousseau said, "Our attitude towards others is initially determined by the attitude of others towards us." Children learn how to deal with all kinds of things in life from the living environment (Austrian psychologist Adler called this "lifestyle"). If a child is rude to others, then we can basically be sure: first, the child is treated "impolitely"; Second, no one taught him how to be polite. Similarly, if a child doesn't want to study, we can basically draw the conclusion that, in this child's life experience, firstly, he didn't realize the happiness of learning; Second, no one taught him how to study. A child always blames others, so we can basically draw the following conclusions: first, children are often accused; Second, no one taught him how to tolerate.

Because people's learning ability is too strong, children can easily learn a lot in the living environment. This gives us the illusion that children should automatically learn all the principles of life and correct behaviors without teaching. In fact, any correct behavior of children should be taught, and it needs repeated training to finalize the design. In this process, if our parents don't give their children patient and meticulous guidance, then the children will inevitably have behavioral deviations.

When a child is not properly guided in the living environment, he actually chooses the learning mode at random from the environment, so that he can imitate it at will. What entered his brain depends on where his attention was focused at that time. If good things come into his sight, he may learn good things. If something bad comes into his sight, he may learn something bad. In this process, it depends on his angle and state at that time, that is to say, if his angle and state are different, he is likely to learn good things into bad things, and vice versa. It should be said that without patient guidance, the possibility of children learning well automatically is too small. Therefore, those good children who are praised by others are carefully cultivated and educated, but some parents unconsciously do things right.

Therefore, when children have problems, please ask parents to reflect on whether we have problems ourselves. For a time, I was troubled by my son's difficulties and liked to complain. After introspection, when I find myself in some trouble, I will also mumble a few words. When I talked with my son about this topic, I reviewed myself.

But also because of my little face defense, I think my muttering is lighter than his complaining. My son pointed out to me mercilessly: "Is there a difference?" What a sensitive son, what an itchy son.

After talking and self-examination, on the one hand, I paid attention to my words and deeds, on the other hand, I was tolerant of his behavior. Just remind him to pay attention and face difficulties in a more positive state. Because mom is changing with him. As a poem says: Without words and words, we can tell what kind of people our next generation should be, and only parents themselves are human beings.

There is no job in the world that is more prone to mistakes and risks than being a parent, so we need to constantly reflect and learn; Nothing is more gratifying and proud than being a parent. We can teach our children the wisdom to bow their heads and struggle, look up to the sky and enjoy the journey of life with them.