How to find your "soul mate"

The ideal love and marriage is probably to find a "soul mate".

A girl left a message saying that she had "successfully entered the third year of high school" and was still single. In the second-tier cities in the north, this is a very embarrassing era. Besides being "ashamed" of her parents and family, she has to avoid the eyes of relatives, friends and others. She admits that she often has "inner panic". I am very unwilling. For so many years, I should be waiting for a "soul mate" instead of finding someone to marry myself.

The first time I knew the word "soul mate", I read a report about performance art. On 20 10, Abramovich (Maria Abramovich, a famous Serbian performance art, known as the "mother of performance art") sat in new york Museum of Modern Art for 7 16 hours and received/kloc-0. Many strangers were emotional under her gaze, but she did not move. Only one person appeared, which made her tremble and shed tears like a sculpture. Wu Lei, is her soul mate!

I saw that video. Across a table, Abramovich shed tears, reached out and held Ulai's hand ... They were lovers, lived together for 12 years, and then separated. After 22 years, the two met again and announced reconciliation.

What is a soul mate? There is a passage that describes it like this:

Meeting your soul mate is like walking into the house where you once lived. You know the furniture, the paintings on the wall, every book on the shelf and everything in the drawer: even in the dark, you can still walk freely in this house.

It is said that the appearance of soul mate may be a look, a look back, a dream, a unanimous word, or a special feeling. In a city with a population of tens of millions, meeting the so-called "soul mate" in the vast sea of people is definitely a small probability event, or even "impossible to meet".

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Now when I see the word "soul mate", I always think of The Bridges of Madison County.

Francesca, a housewife living in a quiet town in Madison, USA, met Robert, a photographer of National Geographic magazine who traveled all over the world and stayed at home, during her husband's four-day trip with two children, and struck a spark of love.

Cervical discomfort requires massage for more than an hour. I put my mobile phone on the bench under the bed, buried my face on the special massage bed, and lay there and watched the film again.

I first read The Bridges of Madison County in the early 1990s. I clearly remember that I bought the Chinese translation of this novel in the foreign language bookstore on Wangfujing Street. Later, it was made into a movie, and Mei Yi (Meryl Streep) played the heroine Francesca. I was a little disappointed when I first saw that movie. In my previous aesthetic, Robert's actors were old and ugly. I wonder how "Yimei" has a crush on him. Later I learned that he was the famous Clint Eastwood, the director and actor of The Bridges of Madison County.

Twenty years later, I saw a helpless life in The Bridges of Madison County. That kind of feeling can only be interpreted by middle-aged people, right?

Robert, the last cowboy, is the soul mate of Francesca, an Italian girl. She has a romantic temperament. My husband is kind and caring for his family, but he doesn't understand amorous feelings. His life is quiet and boring. Because of some chance, he was awakened by the passion hidden in his heart, and his dream of girlhood was realized. He has been to the town where she grew up, taken the train she took, watched the pedestrians coming and going from the seat in the corner cafe, and she also took that seat ... so many common languages, so beautiful love words:

"I came to this planet at this time, just for this, Francesca. Not to travel, but to love you. I understand now. I have been falling from the edge of a wonderful place high for a long time, many years longer than my life. And I have been falling to you for so many years. "

This exact love is only once in a lifetime, and today I know that wandering is for you.

She packed her bags and asked Robert to "take me away, go now, take me where you have been, and go to the other side of the world", but in the end, she chose to be with her husband and children instead of letting the family fall apart.

This is a film about "extramarital affairs". Responsibility to the family, but also the fear of secular vision, made her give up the idea of following love, or return to and surrender to ordinary life itself.

After many years, they miss each other, but there is no intersection.

It's raining outside the window, and Robert's car is waiting in front. Francesca gripped the doorknob tightly. If the traffic lights had changed a second later, she might have rushed out of the car ... The green light turned on, and Robert's car drove away. She also gave up the courage to rush out and burst into tears.

When the film was seen here 20 years ago, it was probably indifferent; Twenty years later, lying on the massage table, big tears fell to the ground, feeling Francesca's feeling of "reluctant to give up what she loves", which blurred her eyes.

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What is the ultimate significance of this film? It's not about the love of soul mates, is it? If Francesca abandons a pair of children and elopes with Robert, can they grow old together like a fairy couple?

Throughout the ages, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign, the reason why love is charming is probably because of its diversity and imperfection. Especially in literary and artistic works, love is destroyed for people to see. Jia Baoyu just can't marry Lin Daiyu, Romeo just can't marry Juliet, and Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai just want to become butterflies ... "In heaven, I want to be a lovebird, grow together on the earth, two branches of a tree ..." Francesca asked her children to scatter her ashes under the covered bridge in her last words, because Robert's ashes were there.

In fact, it is because of her and Robert's proper restraint that the children whose marriage life is not smooth reflect on their marriage. From the initial anger and unacceptable, they gradually faced, understood and accepted, thus thinking about the meaning of life, love and marriage, and made a move of reconciliation with their wives and husbands. Francesca's daughter called her husband and said, "honey, it's time for us to talk"; Her son ran home, picked up his angry wife who accused him of staying up late, kissed her as if she had been in love, and asked, "Do I make you happy?"

This ending reveals the theme of the movie, right? !

If you can't meet the so-called soul mate at the right age, you should treat the person you have chosen to live with well, and try to become what the other person likes, so that the other person can become better because of your existence and value. You can change people who are not "soul mates" into "soul mates" in the change of years, so that their souls can stand at the same level and height.

This is Francesca's last wish for her children. What is buried under the covered bridge is just her dream.

If you have been looking for a "soul mate" before you are willing to talk about marriage, you may have wasted several years and finally found nothing.

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