Causes and guiding measures of children's reticence.

Some parents seldom talk to their children, and always feel that their babies are too young to understand them, so they always let their children sing a one-man show. These parents may not know that the baby's brain cells describe repeated impressions through the stimuli they get, see and hear in the growing environment, and the brain cells grow up because of these stimuli, which directly affects the child's language development. There are several processes in language development, one is children's pronunciation stage, the other is language understanding stage, and the third is language expression stage. After the baby is born, it can be trained to guide the baby's pronunciation. Parents should constantly communicate with their children and leave language information in their minds.

Therefore, for newborn babies, parents should also give rich language environment and adequate language stimulation. For example, talk to your child when changing diapers, taking a bath, feeding, playing with your child, sleeping and getting up. You don't need too many languages, but focus on accumulation. Simple words and sentences will become the cornerstone of children's language development and lay the foundation for deepening the affection between children and parents.

2. Encourage your baby to talk more.

Children can't speak yet, and they can only express some needs with their actions or eyes. If parents see the child reaching for the cup, they will quickly feed the water; The children point their fingers at the fruit, and their parents immediately meet their needs ... After such a long life, the children will feel that if I don't talk, everything can be met. What is there to talk about? Yes, this behavior of parents makes children lose the desire and motivation to talk to others, and finally communicate with others with their own body language instead of oral language.

There are not a few such families now, especially the elderly with big children. Another reason why children speak late is that parents don't know how to give their children language stimulation suitable for their abilities. For example, teaching children to speak is not through concrete, vivid and colorful objects that they often come into contact with in their lives, but because children are over one year old, and they are also shown some pictures and words. Children need direct, vivid and vivid stimulation in the language learning stage. The vocabulary in the book is more abstract, and the children's acceptance effect will be worse, so the speed of learning to speak is very slow. When a child wants something, tell him the name of the thing he wants, and also tell him the characteristics of the thing, such as: apple, red … so that at least he can say "fruit" several times. Therefore, we must give children a language environment, stimulate their hearing and give them a chance to speak, so that their language will develop rapidly.

It should be noted that teaching children to speak should have goals, otherwise more haste, less speed. This orientation is that teaching children to speak is slightly beyond their actual language expression ability and can be done with the help of adults. For example, children can speak one word, parents had better teach two words, children can speak two words and parents can teach three words, so that children's language ability can be greatly improved. If children can only speak one word, and parents teach phrases or sentences, it is meaningless.

3. Don't let your baby disagree.

Now some families have many languages or dialects, and the confusion of languages or dialects is also a reason why children can't speak. In the family environment, both husband and wife speak dialect for a while and Mandarin for a while, and the nanny's dialect will stimulate the child's brain cells. This kind of stimulation process is not in line with children's language ability, which eventually leads to children's differences on language and they don't know which language to choose.

4. Don't force your baby to talk.

Children's language expression ability is still very poor. Parents sometimes use "coercion" to let their children learn to speak. For example, if a child wants something, parents threaten the child with it, and the child will not give it if he doesn't talk, which will cause the child to have an aversion to talking. Especially when children talk later than their peers, parents often use the killer weapon of "forcing words" to intimidate and lure children to talk. Children's understanding of language is a process before they can express it. If you push too hard, children will feel a lot of pressure to speak. For this kind of pressure, children can only use silence to resist.