Feifei is angry: teach children how to deal with their emotions.

Translation/Li Kunshan

While Feifei was having fun, her sister caught the gorilla. "It's my turn to play." My sister took the gorilla away. Feifei felt very angry. She kicked and screamed, trying to smash everything. She is like a volcano about to erupt.

She ran out angrily and cried for a while. She saw rocks, grass, trees and heard birds chirping. She climbed up the tree and felt the breeze gently blowing her hair. She looked at the running water and waves. The wide world comforted her and she felt much better. She went home again, the home was still so warm, and the family was together again.

Feifei is Angry won the Cadillac Silver Award and the Charlotte Zolotov Gold Award in 2000.

This story can be regarded as a classic picture book of emotional management. Many years later, my daughter will still remember that when she was a child, she liked the picture of Feifei running to her mother with open arms. Every time I see this photo, she can't help but want her mother to hug her. Every child has a bad mood. When children are in a bad mood, parents' mood can't get worse together. Parents should calm down, give their children some time to vent their bad feelings and give her a hug. This is the right way to grow up with children. A child's bad mood will not affect him as a mother's darling at all, which is also an important way to help children build a sense of security.

The picture of this story is also very metaphorical. With the change of Feifei's mood, the main color of the picture gradually changed from strong red border and red shadow to pink, blue gray and emerald green. It was not until she returned home that the outline of Feifei's body changed from bright yellow to warm orange, which made us more clearly understand the process of a child's emotional change. It is the homework of parents and children to understand and accept children's different emotions and learn to control their emotions with their children.

Feifei was having fun when her sister caught the gorilla. "It's my turn to play!" "

"no!" Feifei said.

"All right," mom said, "Feifei, it's her turn to play."

My sister took the gorilla by force ... Feifei fell on the truck.

Hum! Feifei is very angry now!

She kicks, she screams, and she wants to break everything.

She gave an angry roar.

Feifei is an erupting volcano.

Bang! She ran out of the door!

She ran and ran until she couldn't run any more. Then she cried for a while.

She looked at rocks, trees and ferns. She heard birds chirping.

Feifei came to the old beech tree and she climbed up.

She felt the breeze gently blowing her hair, and she looked at the running water and waves.

The wide world comforted her.

Feifei feels much better. She climbed down the tree. ...

go home ......

The room is warm and fragrant. Everyone is happy to see Feifei back. The family is together again.

Feifei was having fun when her sister grabbed the gorilla. What happens when children concentrate on playing with a toy and watch it be taken away? She doesn't care about any rules ... her eyes are wide open, her nostrils are wide open, her hair stands on end, and even her ears stand on end.

What about out-of-control children? Kicking, screaming, trying to smash things. Her anger can only be vented by roaring, roaring to roaring, and she is extremely angry. It is an erupting volcano. Feifei is angry ... very, very angry. ...

Every child will grow out of control, and every parent will face such an angry child again and again.

Children's emotions can't be controlled as soon as they erupt. How will she vent her emotions? Run until you can't run; Cry, cry loudly, cry until you can't cry; It will be better to release your inner dissatisfaction and excess energy and look at the surrounding environment: mountains, trees, stones, birds, wind, running water and waves on the beach. The vast world calmed Feifei's angry mood and made her feel much more relaxed.

When I came home again, everything was the same, and she was greeted by the warm embrace of her family. The story ends with a warm picture, completely forgetting how angry and angry Feifei is.

It is the homework of every parent to let children learn to control their emotions, and learning to control their emotions is also a gradual process. Some emotions of children are related to self-awareness, such as happiness, sadness, anger and disgust. And some emotions are related to self-evaluation, such as pride, shame, guilt and empathy. With the development of children's self-awareness, children's emotional control ability has gradually developed. We can't ask children to have no emotions, nor can we ask children to be emotionally stable. Emotional fluctuations are the norm for every child.

What we want children to learn is to know when their mood will be bad, what to do when they are in a bad mood, learn to be calm, learn to vent, and learn to express, so that their mood will get better. If they are in a good mood, she may not remember what she was angry with or lost her temper. Parents should give their children time to vent their bad feelings, which does not mean that they can meet his requirements unconditionally. Parents should also let their children know that "crying is useless", and crying can't solve the problem. If they are in a bad mood, they should say, "I am in a bad mood, so don't talk to me now" and "let me cry for a while" ... teaching children to express their emotions and learn how to calm themselves down are the key points we want to convey to them.