The story of a rural girl who worked in Shanghai after 1980s.

19-year-old Wang comes from a poor rural area in Anhui. After graduating from technical secondary school, she came to work in Shanghai from the countryside with 240 yuan money. She has no good education and skills.

When she first came to Shanghai, she was a stranger, working as a domestic helper for her classmates' relatives so as to stay on their floors at night.

A month later, I finally found a job to help people sell socks. I went to various communities to sell them every day, but I was rejected and given a cold shoulder.

She took the elevator to the top floor first, then went down from the top floor and sold it layer by layer. She is often found by patrolling security guards and driven out of the community.

It's cold, because she has no money to buy shoes, and she is still wearing a pair of sandals. A kind sister gave her eleven yuan to buy a pair of socks and asked her to use the extra money to buy a pair of shoes. She still remembers this sister and is especially grateful for her help.

She sent most of her hard-earned money back to her hometown, because there are two younger brothers at home who are at school and have a heavy burden.

She raised her two younger brothers by herself. 10 years old, parents go out to work. She takes care of her two younger brothers while going to school, doing all kinds of farm work and housework, cooking for them, lighting a flashlight at night, washing vegetables by the river, and her hands are unconscious with cold.

Parents are extremely patriarchal. Even though they have done so much, they are often beaten and scolded by their parents. They think that all this is what she should do, just because she is five years older than her sister and spent her whole childhood in the dark.

After graduating from secondary school, in order to get rid of her parents' forced marriage and leave this warm home, she came to Shanghai to work alone.

After working as a salesman for a while, she later worked as a waiter in a restaurant. Although her income is not much, she is always homesick. Even if she is wronged, she always sends as much money back as possible.

But she found that no matter how much she paid for her family, she would never be recognized by her parents, who never thanked her and often called her for money, just squeezing and demanding endlessly.

Once, on her way to work, she was knocked down by a car. At that time, she just wanted not to be late, or she might lose her job. After struggling to get up from the ground, she wanted to rush to work at once. Even the police were surprised. Aren't you going to check your injury?

She didn't notice that she was black and blue, and then the perpetrator asked her what she wanted, and she said to give her 200 yuan. Even the perpetrators did not expect that the little girl was so stupid that the police came to ask for such a little money, and she immediately agreed.

Afterwards, she used the 200 yuan to invite her colleagues to KFC for dinner and didn't tell her parents about it, because she knew that even if she did, she wouldn't get any comfort from her parents.

She met a tea bar employee by selling socks, asked someone to teach her skills, and then went to a tea bar smoothly.

When working as a waitress in a tea bar, she spent a few days copying down the names of all the drinks and took the initiative to do all the chores, and learned all the work in one week.

She said that for a long time, she bent like an earthworm, trying to find the light ahead.

Later, someone asked her to work in a Japanese restaurant. The salary can be 1500, which is much higher than that in a tea bar.

She was moved, so she went to a Japanese food store as a waitress. When she worked in a Japanese food store, she found that the head waiter and the store manager were well paid because they could speak Japanese and communicate with customers.

So in her spare time, she constantly taught herself Japanese, learned to talk with guests, and later took the Japanese Level 1 exam.

The turning point in her life was that after learning Japanese by herself, at the age of twenty-five, she moved to a Japanese company to do general affairs. Although her job was similar to that of a handyman, she finally became a company clerk.

She was glad that she didn't go to the factory assembly line, but went to the restaurant as a waiter, because being a waiter brought her into contact with more people, so she had such an opportunity.

To this day, Wang still keeps her notebook when she was a waiter, which neatly records the practices and precautions of various teas in Japanese food stores.

When she taught herself Japanese, she met an English boyfriend. She returned to her hometown and happily told her parents that she was getting married. But the parents mentioned the bride price as soon as they spoke. Wang told her parents that she didn't want a bride price, and she didn't want any money at home.

Today, she still clearly remembers what her father said: "Even if you have a pig, you can still sell it!" It's disappointing to call her.

For so many years, she has been fantasizing about winning the love of her parents with her own efforts and dedication, but at this time, she is completely desperate.

She howled and rushed out of the house and fled her hometown by car overnight. She wants to prove to her parents that she can still live happily without their blessing.

From then on, she got along with her parents in a different way and learned to refuse their unreasonable demands. She became independent and strong, and she vowed to live a different life.

At the age of 30, she taught herself English, then learned to draw, and ran a photography company with her husband. At the age of 38, she also published her first book, Grassroots Women, and learned to make short videos from the media. She used her personal experience to help those women who were caught in the mire of marriage and encouraged them to stand on their own feet. There are 2 million fans in the whole network, and they are mixed in various fields.

Over the years, she has never stopped studying by herself and updating her knowledge. She is very determined to know what kind of life she wants and has been working hard in that direction.

None of the sisters who worked with her studied Japanese as hard as her. Now most of them have returned to their hometown and are arranged by their families to get married and have children.

Now, at the age of 40, she has finally established herself in Shanghai and found a husband with harmonious feelings. But they didn't buy a house or a car or have children, but they felt very satisfied.

She told reporters that if your parents don't love themselves, learn to live independently and don't depend on them mentally and economically.

Now that she has come out completely, she said that she can understand her parents' thoughts and ideas, which was influenced by that era and environment, and she no longer blames her parents.

She wrote in the book: "The most practical shortcut in life is to build your own home brick by brick with your hardworking hands, take the initiative to eat the hardships of life, and patiently polish your ability to settle down.

Life will not pity you because you are a woman. Only when you become stronger will the world be kind to you. "