Xu Zheng Tao Hong educates his son to have a clear division of labor in the family

Introduction: Xu Zheng and Tao Hong are a celebrity couple who are loved by everyone. They have been very low-key for many years when they got married and had children. Their daughter Xu Xiaobao is rarely exposed to the media. When it comes to her daughter, Tao Hong does not hesitate. Sharing the experience of raising a daughter, she and Xu Zheng have a clear division of labor. China's patriarchal family education takes root in their family. Dad...

Curved eyebrows and sweet smile. The silent Tao Hong looks like the little dragon girl who whispers "Brother Pig" in "Brother Pig". But when it came to speaking, her loud voice and hearty laughter made her instantly down to earth. Because of the same name, everyone tacitly called her "Little Tao Hong". Over time, the word "little" sounded more affectionate when pronounced. From the moment she appeared in people's sight, Xiao Tao Hong's four identities are impressive: champion of the National Synchronized Swimming Team at the National Games, winner of the four major awards of Golden Rooster, Hundred Flowers, Golden Eagle, and Feitian, Xu Zheng's wife, and Xu Xiaobao's mother. From an athlete to an actress, to a woman, to a mother, every turn she takes is a growth that makes her what she is today.

An accidental curtain call and opening

Xiao Tao Hong said that she took up the path of synchronized swimming at first because she had no place to go during the summer vacation and wanted to have fun. As a result, she made a promise that she kept for 10 years. In 1983, 11-year-old Tao Hong was officially selected for the Beijing synchronized swimming team. In the past 10 years, it has won various awards at home and abroad, large and small. The end of an athletic career was as accidental as the beginning. In 1993, little Tao Hong was selected by Jiang Wen to star in "Sunny Days" and has since entered the film and television industry.

The characters created by Xiao Tao Hong are all solid and profound. She has the strength of a first-tier actress, but does not have the ambition of a first-tier actress. "Actors are different from hosts and singers. We have to shape characters rather than ourselves. It's useless for me to play 'Tao Hong' so well. My task is to shape several characters. I can make you believe that I played Every character is because people don’t know what Tao Hong is like. Once they fully understand what Tao Hong is like, they will look at every character I create through colored glasses, so it doesn’t matter what I am like. "My job is meaningful"

Simple love flows over the years

Xiao Tao Hong and Xu Zheng were cast in the TV series "Spring Lights". "Brilliant Pig Bajie" met each other and then came together. There were not many flashy embellishments, but they seemed to be a down-to-earth match. She said he was both a teacher and a friend. "Both of us have relatively gentle personalities, share the same philosophy of work and life, and appreciate and respect each other. If we had not become a couple, we would definitely have become close friends."

The two did not create too much tension. romantic memories, but the simple love flows slowly over the years. "Xu Zheng and I both hope to downplay our roles in life, and let the audience focus more on the characters we create. We have a tacit understanding on this point. From the beginning, we did not want others to Pay attention to our lives."

Although she is so low-key about their lives, she has never been careless about Xu Zheng's career. Mommy and Baby: "Traveling in Thailand - Thailand" is director Xu Zheng's first work, right? Xiao Tao Hong: "To be precise, this should be his first independent directorial film. In fact, he has done a lot of similar work before, but because he did not complete it independently from beginning to end, he asked not to be credited. I I think this is right. He accumulates silently in order to one day be able to hand over a complete thing. This is not a pursuit of fame and fortune, but a process of realizing a wish for a person, no matter what he does. Yes, realizing your wish is the greatest reward and value." She understood his efforts and supported him to silently accumulate strength and move towards success. They have each other, and their tacit understanding is their biggest show off.

The halo of maternal love overshadowed the crown of the best actress

When Xu Xiaobao was born, Xiao Tao Hong was considered an advanced maternal age. But it seemed that the little baby had arrived before she had experienced too much hard work. Pregnancy in ten months is like a lingering shadow for many mothers, but she talks about those days with particular brilliance. "I think maybe I'm lucky. I haven't vomited, I don't have any pregnancy reactions, and I'm in a good mood. I just feel like I finally have a legitimate reason to eat haese all day long, and gain as much weight as I want! By the time I reach 78 I didn’t work at all for a month. I think that was the most leisurely period of my life! My friend said that she couldn’t even get up from the sofa when she was 6 or 7 months old. I can’t imagine how much worse it was. How pitiful!”

Speaking of the timing of having a baby, “Being mentally mature is a good thing for the child’s future education. It can make you take less detours and be more rational.” But she also admitted that if she could do it over again, she would have children sooner. "Being a mother at this age is really tiring, and I can't keep up with my physical strength and energy."

The born "King of Children"

Xiao Tao Hong has played the role of mother in many TV series character, and have interacted with many children. When she talked about her children, she was so excited that her eyes lit up. "I have been particularly fond of children since I was a child. The other actors in the play were too busy with their own affairs, but I would play with them whenever I had free time.

"She was once recognized as her girlfriend by a little boy she was cooperating with in a drama, and she even started a serious "love" with him. She laughed from ear to ear when she told that story. The deeper the conversation, the better I feel the simplicity and innocence of her character, and the innocence of children complements her perfectly. No wonder she is so popular with children.

The role of "mother" gives her new insights.

When Xiaobao was born, her mother had just undergone a major operation. On the one hand, she was facing a new life waiting to be fed, and on the other hand, she had to face her mother's aging. She had a deeper understanding of her mother and life. Understanding. “The time from conception to the age of one year can be said to be the essence of life. As soon as I got pregnant, my mother's health began to deteriorate. The baby was born half a month after my mother's surgery, and her legs were affected. It is precisely because I am going to be a mother that I understand the importance of my mother even more. My mother is very strong and very afraid of dragging others down. The more she behaves like this, the more I feel sorry for her. No one could love her more but me. "

Xiao Tao Hong said frankly that after becoming a mother, her tears became lower, especially when it came to things related to children. When she was acting in "Four Generations Under One Roof", a member of the crew heard that The very sensible little actor I have always loved actually comes from a single-parent family, and tears fell from her eyes. "She doesn't have a father, but she has a big family in the play. She can call us dad, mom, and aunt every day. It seemed to her to be a particularly happy thing. "Then she lamented that she really had no future after becoming a mother.

This change of roles gave her a new understanding of the role. "When acting in the pregnancy scene and the mother's scene, she had a new understanding of the role. The penetration is more mature and can be grasped better. Because actresses have to start playing mothers when they reach a certain age. Actresses who have truly become mothers will have a more down-to-earth feeling during the acting process, which is different from when they were young. I have played a mother before, but at that time I needed to rely on observation and association to understand the role. But now I have a lot of experience in saving myself, just like saving money, I can spend it now. "

The division of labor is clear, he is in charge of "teaching" and I am in charge of "education"

When talking about the division of labor in taking care of Xiaobao with her husband Xu Zheng, Xiao Taohong changed his mind and laughed. attitude and earnestly shared her experience with us

“I took many parenting classes before giving birth. I learned a very Chinese theory: in education, father should mainly be responsible for ‘teaching’ and mother should be responsible for ‘nurturing’. The meaning of "teaching" is to teach children knowledge; the other is to be a role model for children, which means that what kind of person the father is, the children will imitate him in the future, because he is the first person the children admire. Mother's control means that the mother is responsible for giving the child a sense of security. For example, when the child makes a mistake, he will instinctively cheat or ask his mother for help because he is afraid that his father will tell him. At this time, the mother should stay away and let him face it on his own. Dad, the child will know the pros and cons of this matter through his father's seriousness. But after it is over, the child still needs his mother to comfort him because of his inner grievances. This is to give him a sense of security. So mom and dad should have a division of labor.

Another point is that if you don’t want your child’s gender to be confused, the father must first establish paternity at home. This paternity is given by the mother, which means that the mother must respect the father in front of the child. In this way, children will have a stronger gender awareness as they grow up. ”

A father who is captured by a child will exude sexy qualities

At this point, the photographer may have been infected by Tao Hong’s happiness, and couldn’t help but interrupt. He proudly said: “I’m going to be a dad soon! "Tao Hong then chatted with him warmly about her feelings back then. "You are the happiest at this time. You don't have too many trivial things to worry about, and your mind is full of free thoughts all day long. ”

She demonstrated to us the new method of burping the baby that she had just learned. It is not difficult to see that she is actively accepting new parenting concepts, and the speed of knowledge updating in the information age has also made her I have to sigh: “Knowledge ages too quickly, so mothers must keep learning. ”

While chatting with the photographer’s father-to-be, Tao Hong recalled with a happy smile that when Xiaobao could not speak, she sat face to face with Xiaobao and chatted with him, feeling that the whole world was The two of them were left alone without anyone to disturb her. She said she also particularly liked to see the father holding his child. She used the word "sexy" when describing it, "Every father is holding his child. It's like holding one of your own masterpieces, with eyes full of tenderness and pride. When a father is captured by a child, his sexy qualities come out. ”

I am lucky to have such a mother-in-law

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a difficult problem for many families, but it seems that little Tao Hong has never had such trouble. Every time this point is mentioned, Xu Zheng was also full of gratitude and pride. How did she do it?

“Every family’s situation is different. My mother-in-law has lived in France for many years. She is a very romantic person, so she understands me in some ways. I often call her: ‘I’m drinking coffee outside, do you want to come? ’ After a while, my mother-in-law came dressed up very delicately. Usually mothers-in-law can’t understand this and they think it’s a waste. She accepts this, and I consider it my blessing.

I think the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who get along well with each other are usually because the mother-in-law does a good job. Young people sometimes act impulsively, and sometimes do things without thinking. A good mother-in-law will know how to tolerate her daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law will become sensible because of her tolerance. So every time someone says you are such a good wife, I would say it’s because my mother-in-law is good and she knows how to be tolerant.

I think that respect should come first when treating mother-in-law. When she reaches this age, her life experience and experience determine that she is such a person. You have to recognize her and accept her. She just has her own logic, and there is no need to worry about whether she is right or wrong, because it has been formed by her over the years. So respect her first, and then discuss it between you. "

From the beginning to the end of the interview, Xiao Tao Hong looked smiling and without any worries. But she also said that everyone's life is not easy. Perhaps the difficulties in her mouth were dispelled by her hearty smile After many gorgeous turns, and then blooming, the glory of motherly love has surpassed the crown of the actress. As she said, nothing is more important than love. The down-to-earth "Little Dragon Girl" really brings us more than a little surprise.