How much is the "betrothal gift" in Putian?

Many people often say that gifts in Putian are very expensive, costing at least 500,000 to 600,000 yuan. Is this true?

I have summarized the general situation reported by netizens, and the details are as follows:

Netizen @Heylazhu: It seems that the price is not this at my place. Of course, if you have money, it will be different. Never mind. Generally speaking, urban areas are more expensive. I have a classmate from a technical secondary school who got married two years ago. It seems to be from Zhongmen or Licheng. They say the bride price is 800,000, but this is a case where the conditions of both families are pretty good. .

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Netizen @陈达山人: It mainly depends on the other party’s family situation. There is no standard for the bride price. If the other party is from an ordinary family, you will always Can't we ask their families to pay the same amount of bride price according to the standards of wealthy families?

Netizen @伊斯娜蒂: To be honest, my two cousins ??got married during the Chinese New Year this year, one for 888,000 yuan and the other for 988,000 yuan.

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Of course, some netizens said that it would cost at least 300,000 yuan to start. Compared with tens of thousands or hundreds of thousands of yuan in other places, the betrothal gifts in Putian are indeed so high that everyone knows.

But the girls in Putian are also famous for being nice. If you want to marry a Putian wife, you have to save money carefully. (Huang Xiaoqun from Strait Network)

First of all, there are many towns in Putian, which are close to the urban area. The bride price is generally around 100,000, excluding cars and houses. After all, the concept is relatively mature. Click down, Huangshi Town, about Between 200,000 and 300,000, Watstone Town, because it is close to Dongzhuang Town, has been getting higher year by year in recent years. According to last year’s fluctuation, it is about 500,000 yuan. Going further down, Dongzhuang Town, In the entire town, many families are in private enterprises and are relatively wealthy. A few years ago, the betrothal gifts there ranged from 30 to several million. There is also a known town, Zhongmen Town, which was the star town of Putian in the early days. Most of the wood, ceramic tiles, and steel materials come from this town, and the bride price is usually as high as the sky, ranging from 1.8 million to 1.8 million yuan. This is still the market for ordinary families. You can imagine how abnormal the local wedding style is. By the way, it is also There is Beigao Town, where all the country's precious jewelry such as gold, platinum, and diamonds come from. However, generally speaking, the average value is not as high as that of Dongzhuang Zhongmen. Unless there are some very wealthy families who like high-end styles, the single bride price is not enough. Millions. In short, the wedding culture in Putian is really undesirable and has caused suffering to most families!

How much is the bride price in Putian?

Putian City has jurisdiction over counties and districts: Xianyou County, Chengxiang District, Licheng District, Hanjiang District and Xiuyu District, but the bride price in each district is different. For example, the bride price in Hanjiang District is You can marry a daughter-in-law with about 120,000 to 30,000 yuan. Of course, this is the price of the bride price alone, excluding gold and banquets. The bride price in Chengxiang District and Hanjiang District are about the same, but the difference in Licheng District is huge. Licheng is in the city It's also about 120,000.

There are also differences between Huangshi Town and Beigao Town. Huangshi’s price ranges from 350,380,000 to 410,450, but Xiuyu District is the most expensive district to marry a girl. In the past few years, Dongzhuang local tycoons have been rewarded with sky-high bride prices. In Dongzhuang and Zhongmen towns, the bride is a beauty pageant school beauty. As long as the girl is not short of money, the woman can agree to marry her for seven to eight hundred thousand yuan. Family, in this way, the following towns have relatively average economic resources and cannot keep up. Dongqiao Town, Daitou Town, Pinghai Town and Nanri Town. The bride price of these towns is about 420,000 to 460,000. The time does not include golden banquets, so now there are many men and women left, and the betrothal money is expensive, and one party is unwilling to marry and the other is unwilling to marry.

Everyone knows that the economy can’t afford it. Many young men’s parents are farmers. Some of them work part-time, do small businesses, and do small crafts. They work hard for a year and can only save 50,000 to 60,000 yuan in the end. I am reluctant to give up food and clothing, but the money I earn in a year is not enough to increase the price of bride price. Nowadays, many boys are single in their 30s, and there are also girls who are 20 or 30 years older. Because the man cannot afford to marry, the woman will not marry if it is cheap. , as each year passes, everyone reaches the age where men and women are left.

Xianyou County also has unequal betrothal gifts. The betrothal gift in Licheng is about 120,000, including 350,000 to 380,000 in Jiaowei, Linan, Bangtou, Basia, Duwei, Daji, etc... In the meantime, such an expensive betrothal gift means that the man's family can't afford it, and if he marries a wife, he will be poor until liberation.

Okay, I’m not talented, so please forgive me if I don’t say something right! You can also go to the comment area to comment and communicate!

Putian’s wedding gifts can’t be described as “sky-high”! The prices of betrothal gifts vary widely among towns in Putian City, and are increasing every year. This bad habit has become a criticism.

The highest betrothal gifts in Putian are in Zhongmen Town and Dongzhuang Town; the starting price is 1 million yuan, and then the price varies according to the family conditions of both men and women. The main reason is comparison. The higher the price, the better the man. family economic strength. It is said that the highest one has reached 2.18 million yuan! This is just a bride price, and the woman also requires gold jewelry, etc.; it does not include additional conditions such as a house or a car.

The second level of Putian’s betrothal gift is in Licheng District, with the general price ranging from 300,000 to 900,000. Taking Huangshi Town as an example, twenty years ago, the betrothal gift was only several thousand to ten thousand yuan. However, in Shouxiuyu Affected by local customs and habits, the price gradually rises every year, reaching hundreds of thousands of yuan now; the high betrothal gift puts a huge financial pressure on unmarried boys! Some poor families will borrow money or even take out loans in order to find a wife.

The "sky-high" betrothal gifts in Putian City, Fujian Province have attracted the attention of the government, but there is no legal basis to stop them. They can only call on everyone to voluntarily lower the prices through publicity, but with little effect. Putian's business is very developed, and the gap between rich and poor is huge, so the price of betrothal gifts is often prohibitive.

As more and more young people go out to work and study, in order to reduce the financial burden, many Putian boys choose to marry girls from other places, and their parents also enjoy the results.

Let us wait and see how the issue of betrothal gifts in Putian will be adjusted in the future.

I describe the issue of bride price in Putian from a factual and objective standpoint, and hope that this bad habit can be changed in the future. (Pictures are downloaded from the Internet)

I don’t know how much the betrothal gifts in Putian are.

Fujian is an economically developed area, especially along the coast. Most of them are engaged in business. There are many people who have money. Putian is a famous place in the country, but marriages are arranged according to traditional methods. During the engagement, the man gives the woman gold and silver bracelets, and the minimum betrothal gift is 200,500,000. It should vary from person to person. < /p>

With the improvement of social living standards, what parents are most concerned about is the marriage of their children. Marrying a wife and a daughter is a very happy thing. Most young people in Putian are doing business, of course. They have less time to fall in love, as long as they can find the person they like, hundreds of thousands of betrothal gifts are nothing to them.

I think in economically developed areas, the more expensive the betrothal gifts are, because there are more rich people. Of course, the woman’s requirements are high. Who is willing to let their daughter get married? Moreover, some places in Putian pay special attention to etiquette, the traditional custom of burning incense and worshiping Buddha. Some people marry their daughter, hold banquets for a few days, and even give her a house and a car. Not to mention that marrying a daughter-in-law will naturally cost a lot of money. We have less money. In fact, the bride price is also a kind of consumption. According to our own conditions, happiness is the most important.

This is from last year. This year may be more than that, but we also give more in dowry.

Are the "betrothal gifts" in Putian "exorbitantly expensive"?

I checked and found that this question was asked before February 13, 2018, more than two years ago. , we have experienced many changes, and the amount of betrothal gifts is different. I will answer according to the standards of two years ago:

The average betrothal gift in Putian is about 500,000-600,000. As for whether it is " Sky-high prices"? This mainly depends on which region.

The bride price in Chengxiang District, Hanjiang District, Licheng District and Xianyou District is relatively reasonable and acceptable. The bride price in some industrial parks is obviously higher. Also in In Xiuyu District, Dongzhuang, Zhongmen, the northern shore of Meizhou Bay and Beigao, which are close to the coastal areas, generally have higher betrothal gifts. The folk economy in these places is active and the trend of comparison is prevalent. There are fewer places like Shi and Lingchuan, and the ratio of marriageable men and women is now seriously imbalanced. If a boy from an economically developed place goes on a blind date in an economically underdeveloped place, he will negotiate the price based on the local situation. Rural people have a saying that is very straightforward. : “The rich marry their daughters, and the poor sell their daughters. "To put it bluntly, it is a marriage transaction!

This marriage "sale" is divided into two types: one is "full marriage" and the other is "receipt."

"Full marriage" "Marry" is a Putian dialect. As the name suggests, the two families have agreed on a betrothal gift, including household appliances, mahogany furniture and other large items that the woman needs to marry. All are purchased according to local customs, which is an all-round dowry. This kind of betrothal gift is slightly higher, mostly for Million-level; but the remaining bride price after purchasing the dowry is actually not much different from the "actual receipt", but it looks better in appearance; anyway, the wool comes from the sheep!

"Real receipt", then It means that the girl is not given a dowry, or some bedding and some simple daily necessities are given as a dowry, and the actual betrothal gift received is at the control of the girl’s parents. This kind of betrothal gift can be less than the previous one. In my area, these two kinds of betrothal gifts The difference is at least more than ten or two hundred thousand yuan. The financial conditions of the "actual" betrothal gifts are generally a bit tight for the men. Some use this method as an excuse to relieve the financial pressure because the house is not decorated.

Regardless of whether it is "full marriage" or "receipt", the girl's parents will give their daughter a "package". It depends on the conditions of the girl's family. In our place, it is usually more than 100,000 yuan.

To understand whether the betrothal gifts in Putian are sky-high, as a Putian native, I will introduce what I know about the wedding customs in our Xiuyu District. After you read it carefully, you can make your own judgment. Is the betrothal gift here "extremely expensive"?

The coordinates are in Yuetang Town, about five kilometers away from Zhongmen Town, five kilometers away from Watstone Town, eight kilometers away from Dongzhuang, and close to the north shore of Meizhou Bay and Daitou. , Beigao, Dongqiao, Pinghai and Lingchuan are all within a radius of ten kilometers, but the size of the bride price is different.

There are those in the million level, there are those between fifty and one million, there are those below fifty, and the lowest ones should be around thirty. In other places in Putian, the general market price is between 300,000 and 800,000. Of course, there are also tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands, or 200,000 in urban or mountain areas. The requirements for the "million-dollar gift" are very high: focus on virginity complex, no love experience, girls are between 18-22 years old, college students can relax the age, height is about 165MM, good looks and high IQ can get high betrothal gifts. It usually occurs in relatively affluent rural areas, and urban office workers receive less betrothal gifts, but the woman will ask for a house, a car, and a career.

In recent years, Putian has vigorously advocated "changing customs" and put an end to the propaganda of high betrothal gifts. Betrothal gifts have returned to rationality. For the extraordinary and refined Jiao Jiao, it is inevitable to operate in the dark, which smells like a secret auction with a high price. The size of the bride price is mainly linked to the people's economic income and the ratio of men and women of marriageable age; of course, the bride price is also directly proportional to the girl's appearance, figure, and academic qualifications.

There are reasons behind Putian’s high salary that outsiders don’t understand. Where I live, after a woman gets married, she no longer enjoys the inheritance rights of her natal family and the obligation to support the elderly. There is an old saying that "the daughter who is married is the water that is thrown out." Therefore, Gao Beili became the daughter's main supporter for her parents! This is a problem left over from history. Of course, many sensible parents now have changed this traditional concept and treat both men and women equally.

In Putian, the most important thing is to be "well-matched". In fact, I think the betrothal gifts from wealthy families are just for outsiders to see. The betrothal gifts are millions, and the dowries often include villas, luxury cars, shares, cash, gold bars, etc. The shadow of the local tycoons in southern Fujian mainly focuses on face and lizi as well as engineering projects. Of course, there are exceptions: a few years ago, when my neighbor married his daughter, the man was from Wat Shi Wendong, and the bride price he paid to the girl was 588,000 yuan. At that time, the price of Wat Shi was considered to be a "sky-high" betrothal gift. The bride's family will have a Mercedes-Benz to accompany their daughter when she gets married, a suite in the city, a cash deposit of 5 million, not to mention other furniture. You said, is it a "sky-high price gift"? The boy works in the Beijing company of the woman’s family. The two of them know each other well and are not a “match”.

Another point is that rural people are very realistic! The girl's parents will know about the boy's social background, as well as the boy's family's economic and housing conditions, and whether the boy has brothers and how many brothers? Is it the eldest son or the second son? Do you have a sister to be married? Is it a big family or a small family? Wait, wait. These are all considerations when talking about betrothal gifts.

In ordinary families, "arranged marriage" still exists for a long time. After the woman goes on a blind date with the man, both parties agree to get engaged. As long as the man's family has a house, he will generally not be required to buy a house or a car in the city. The man's character and work status are the main factors. The bride price also generally depends on both parties. Family conditions will be matched by matchmakers within an acceptable range.

Most people in Putian like "local cows eat local grass", but in recent years the divorce rate has been rising, and there have been cases of marriage fraud in some places. "Sky-high betrothal gifts" will naturally make people shudder! Therefore, today's young people are no longer limited to the traditional way of dating, but pursue happy marriages through free love. As for the amount of the bride price, it is usually discussed by the young people themselves, and the parents only provide reference suggestions. The betrothal gifts for long-distance marriages are generally based on the customs of the woman. When girls from Putian look for boys from the Northeast, they mainly use the betrothal gifts from the Northeast. When it comes to marriage in a long-distance relationship, the parents of both parties are relatively open-minded and will not be like those in their hometown. Like comparison.

If a man and a woman truly love each other, they should think from each other's perspective, and don't miss out on your marriage because of "sky-high" betrothal gifts.

Finally, I would like to add one point: the question about Putian’s “sky-high betrothal gifts” seems to be just for girls’ high betrothal gifts; but, is it also true for boys’ “sky-high betrothal gifts”? Let me answer them all here. How to say it? Most Putian people prefer boys over girls. If there are no boys, superbirths are inevitable. Some are afraid of being fined for having more than one child, so they have no choice but to think about recruiting "two care" or recruiting a son-in-law. "Lianggu" means that neither party has any betrothal gift, and they must have at least two children, one for each child. In order to continue the family tradition, both men and women can discuss and choose which party to live with. Those who recruit a son-in-law are usually boys who have multiple brothers and cannot afford a wife, so they have no choice but to go to the door-to-door son-in-law. In Putian's saying, it is "to be someone else's son." The man's parents have worked so hard to support their eldest son, are they just given to the woman like this? This also involves "bride price". As for whether it is a "sky-high price"? Every place is different. In our jurisdiction, it is not fully disclosed that the woman will probably have to give the man a gift of around 100,000-300,000 yuan. The specifics will depend on the man’s conditions before discussing. The bride price will rise and fall every year as the market changes.

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Betrothal gift is indispensable before marriage, but the price of betrothal gift is different in different regions. What is the price of betrothal gift in Putian

y Some places have even issued proposals to boycott high-priced betrothal gifts. The proposal states that the maximum betrothal gift shall not exceed 180,000 yuan.

Compared to the 300,000 or so betrothal gifts in Putian, this wave of government proposals can be said to be really conscientious!

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In recent years, various places and township governments have been trying their best to resist high bride-prices, and in some places there are even zero bride-prices. Now, Putian's scene of high bride price has also changed. The bride price in various places has also been reduced, and there are even zero bride prices in some places.

The era of millions of brides in Putian is about to exit the historical stage

Nowadays, the bride price in many places cannot exceed 180,000

What is the bride price in your hometown?

The betrothal gifts in Fujian can be said to be among the best in the country, especially those in Putian, which are at least 800,000, and they also have a car and a house! It can already be regarded as one of the regions with sky-high betrothal gifts!

Case 1:

A colleague of mine from Hanjiang District, Putian, often says in front of us that he cannot afford to get married. His cousin got married in October and said The woman wanted to receive a gift of 880,000 yuan, thinking that with her colleague's monthly salary of 5,000 yuan, he would never be able to afford a wife for the rest of his life!

Case 2: One of my fans is from Xianyou County. Their starting price for marriage is 680,000, and the lowest standard is 580,000. Fujian is a coastal area, so it is normal for the economic level to be higher than that of other provinces. Putian is a large place, and the betrothal gifts vary from place to place! But overall it’s more than 500,000-800,000! There are more than 1 million families with a good economic level!

If you want to marry a Fujian woman, you have to work hard to make money! If the bride price is cheap, it is recommended to marry someone from Guangdong or Guangxi. You can get a wife with 10,000-100,000 yuan!

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Putian’s bride price is very high. There is a lot of pressure on boys to get married. Moreover, Putian, Fujian Province has a serious mentality of favoring boys over girls. When a girl gets married, it means she has nothing to do with her mother's family.

Moreover, Putian is very concerned about having a son. If a girl does not give birth to a boy, she will be under great pressure. Girls wear red clothes after marriage to prove that they are married women.

To get married, a Putian boy needs a betrothal gift ranging from 180,000 yuan to 500,000 yuan. Putian people splash water when they get married, which means that their married daughters are like water poured out.