Dutch dad Weidisi: Raise your children as "little" friends

Dutch dad Weidis has been living in Taiwan for 8 years. He has been writing a parenting observation column on the website for a long time, comparing the different practices and concepts of parent-child relationships in the two places. Recently, he published a new book "The Truth About the Parenting of Dutch Dads", which is quite popular. It’s worth thinking about for Taiwanese parents.

"If you don't behave well, that foreigner will take you away!" Thijs Velema, a Dutch father, heard the father at the next table using himself to intimidate his children. He felt ridiculous and asked him: " Are you talking about me?"

Wei Daisi wrote about this experience in Shangzhou.com's online column "Dutch Dad's Parenting Weekly in Taiwan" to analyze why this type of "intimidation-based parenting" is ineffective.

Wei Daisi also challenged Qiaohu, who is regarded as a god by almost all families with young children in Taiwan: In Qiaohu’s world, children go to their mothers to sleep and play with toys, and the father’s role is really unimportant. , Dad is just the driver and photographer on family outings, "I hate Qiaohu!" he wrote humorously.

Wei Daisi, who has moved to Taiwan for 8 years, can speak and write fluent Chinese. Unlike many foreigners in Taiwan who express their love for Taiwan by "reporting good news but not bad news", the tall, thin and gentle Weidisi has the open-minded and reasonable characteristics of the Dutch. He has observed and pointed out many systems, concepts or concepts in Taiwanese society that "can be better". Behavior. In addition to upbringing, topics he has discussed include euthanasia, diverse families, the workplace and talents, etc.

Wei Daisi was born in a middle-class family in the Netherlands. His father is a director of a pharmaceutical factory, his mother is a family physician, and he has an older sister and a brother. When he was in college, he came to Taiwan to study Chinese and met his girlfriend at the time and now his wife. After returning to the Netherlands to complete his master's degree, he applied to study in the doctoral program at the Department of Sociology at National Taiwan University. He is currently an assistant professor at the Department of Business Administration at Sun Yat-sen University. He has a 3-year-old daughter and a nearly 1-year-old son. Most recently, he published "The Parenting Truth of a Dutch Dad."

In his new book, he described that Taiwanese people like to nickname their children "little friends," while Dutch parents view parent-child relationships by raising their children to be friends from an early age. The Dutch also attach great importance to cultivating children's "conflict resolution skills" because "the adult world is full of disputes." Wei Daisi recalled that the conflicts she had with her siblings and relatives at home since childhood were excellent opportunities for practice. Through the process of emotional catharsis, listening to each other's explanations, and apologizing to each other, they understand the negative feelings their actions have brought to the other party and commit to avoiding further conflicts.