What do you think of a girl who doesn’t work for half a year?

What do I think? I think your family is very happy and your parents treat you well.

I am much worse off than you. I graduated from high school at the age of 20 and became unemployed after graduation. I can’t stay in my parents’ home (my parents each have a new home), and nowhere is my home. There was a time when I was so bored that I went to my grandma’s house every day to chat, bought myself liquor and peanuts, and drank until I was dizzy and couldn’t think about anything else.

A month later, my father paid for the back door and arranged for me to enter the factory. The salary was very low. At that time (in 1998) it was only about 200 yuan (part-time work-study), which was not even enough to buy food. The factory requires girls to be clever and handy. It's a pity that I'm not very clever and I can't always get the job done, so my master hates me. The workshop director arranged for me to sweep the floor. I swept for a long time, then packed up and left. (I have been studying for more than ten years, not just to sweep the floor.) My father was very angry at that time, but I couldn't help it.

My cousin took me to Guangdong. I served the plates right in the restaurant. Later, someone introduced me to a boy, and we got married six months after we fell in love. After I got married, I didn’t have a job. I felt like I didn’t like the job, but I had someone to support me anyway. But later, I gradually felt that this was not the marriage I wanted, so we separated. During that time, I worked as a hotel receptionist and as a photography assistant.

Half a year later, I was promoted to a master, and my salary was finally higher. However, the good times did not last long, and I did not get along well with my colleagues, which led to me being squeezed out and fired by my boss. So I came to Shenzhen alone. Unable to find a job, I became a massage therapist. This is a very hard and frustrating job that most people cannot do. However the salary is pretty good. Once I did it, I did it for five years.

I do this job for a purpose. The first is to save money, and the second is to find a Hong Kong husband. When I was 30 years old, I found a suitable partner and we moved in together after dating for half a year. After that, I stopped working and cooked a meal for him every day. I had time to play around and read books. After three years of this, I got pregnant and gave birth to a baby. When the baby was one year old, I registered our marriage with him.

So far I have not worked for five years. Take care of your baby at home. I am also introverted and don't like to talk. I don't have a high degree of education, and I haven't found a particularly promising job, so I had no choice but to get married and change my destiny.

You can immigrate to Hong Kong in a few years, and then find a job.

Before graduation, I told my classmates that there is no job I won’t do for a thousand dollars in the future. As a result, you don’t have a choice at all. At that time, I saw other girls who had finished their studies, worked outside for a few years, earned some money, and then returned to their hometowns to get married and have children. I don't want to be like them. Therefore, the path I took was rather tortuous.

I have been married to my ex-husband for 7 years and have not had children because that is not the marriage I want. I married my current husband again because I love him and trust him. It's boring to stay at home and take care of the kids. But there is no way, it is much better to take care of yourself than to take care of a nanny. A friend of mine started doing insurance the year before last and now earns 20,000 yuan a month. I thought, if I had entered this industry right after graduation, what might I be doing now? . .

Fate plays tricks on people. Girls like us who are not highly educated, not smart, capable or enterprising are not born strong women. They can only find a good husband and build a good family first. I like to live peacefully like this, doing laundry and cooking for my family, reading books and surfing the Internet in my free time. If you feel really bored, go out and find an interesting job, regardless of the salary.

People still have jobs and are much happier.