Do you have age anxiety?

No matter how old you are, from post-80s to post-90s, you are arguing that you are old.

In 2020, after 90, we will start to run three, and after 80, we will start to run four.

"Age anxiety" is heavily placed in front of everyone.

Some people laugh at themselves, while others are genuinely anxious.

The act of feeling old:

I used to ask my mother to remind me to wear long pants.

There is no need to remind you now.

Put it on consciously.

Now stay up late to work overtime. The next day, I was trapped as a dog, and the whole person was a walking corpse.

I used to treat money like dirt, but now I feel too young. Now I think about money and dream of counting it.

Can't get out of bed, can't stay up all night.

Be sure to have porridge for breakfast and soup for dinner.

Be prepared for danger in times of peace.

Jujube and medlar, massage to relax muscles.

..... At this moment, I am really "old"!

"30-year-old single, will you be anxious?"

What does the growth of age mean to you?

Different stages of life face different pressures, and as women, these troubles are similar.

There's always someone whispering "What to do at what age". When the signs of aging come, they will inevitably feel insecure. After crossing these hurdles, they will feel different.

Almost everyone will feel anxious in different periods and fields of life.

Some people are worried about the uncertainty of the result.

Some are anxious because they feel that they are not good enough.

Some are anxious because they see others being nice.

Some people are anxious about the shortage of resources such as time and money.

Anxiety is also a "disease of the times". People without money are still anxious.

The growth of age is a natural phenomenon, which most people can accept, and the life and achievements you already have will not disappear.

And psychological aging, in addition to making you feel empty, will also make you narrow.

People are solidified in a state that excludes more wonderful possibilities.

Fear of aging will not be different because of your occupation, your gender, your actual physiological age and other factors. Aging is everyone's deepest anxiety. Only when you face it can you find your inner strength and spend the rest of your life calmly.

Resistance is inevitable, almost a habit engraved in human DNA, resisting death, resisting separation and resisting aging. ...

One day, at a certain moment, what we have been resisting will suddenly come and drown everything.

In fact, the essence of age anxiety is to know that you don't have enough age-matched accumulation, including ability, experience, savings and other aspects, rather than aging itself.

"People like me who are confused, people like me who are looking for, people like me who are mediocre ..." Mao is not easy to sing in the song.

In fact, the essence of anxiety is our deep uncertainty about the future and our identity.

There is a saying in China: No one in downtown asks if you are poor, but you have distant relatives if you have money in the mountains. This sentence sharply exposes people's snobbery.

One of the factors of our identity anxiety is caused by this, and we are always worried about being treated differently by snobs.

You are 30 years old, and you still have no house or car?

At this age, look at your hair, classmates and children.

The cruelest aspect of society is that convention has become a kind of "standard" for each of us.

At the age of 30, you must get married and have children. At the age of 40, you must have a car and a house. If not, there will be many voices reminding you to do these "should" things quickly.

People often can't help asking themselves: "I have nothing but getting old." Am I wrong? "

The main reason for anxiety lies in our pursuit of conspicuous identity.

The reason why we yearn for identity is because we pursue "love" in addition to the wealth, fame and influence related to it.

We treat people of different social status differently.

As the labels of "big man" and "little man" convey, those who have status are ignored, as if we can treat them rudely, ignore their feelings and regard them as nothing.

Humble status affects not only the hardship of material life, but also the blow to self-esteem from realizing one's low status;

Similarly, glamorous identity brings not only wealth, but also social respect and dignity of survival.