What if the child is frightened?

Adults will be willful and lose their temper, not to mention children. Losing one's temper is "reasonable" from the perspective of development, and it is a part of growth. There is not a child (or a few) who has not lost his temper. It is also related to innate temperament, which is why some children get angry more easily than others.

Losing temper is a phenomenon that children appear around 1 year old. Once they are unhappy, they will be "angry" and sometimes point the finger at themselves. The peak of losing temper is at the age of two or three, which is related to the initial formation of their self-awareness and limited language expression ability. Children have their own opinions, but they can't express them well. At the same time, parents of children of this age should start to regulate their behavior, which is called socialization. During this period, parents and children tend to fall into prominence. On the one hand, parents should respect and satisfy their children's needs and feelings. On the other hand, we should carefully choose ways that don't hurt children's self-esteem to regulate and correct their behavior. Generally, this phenomenon will last until the age of four to five, and it will be better in the future. Just because a child loses his temper doesn't mean he is "bad". He is doing what he wants at his age.

Count the six reasons why children lose their temper

1, overindulgence. If parents spoil their children and let them do whatever they want, children will tend to use their parents' failures to realize their wishes. This indulgence and lack of education will develop their grumpy character.

2. Suffer setbacks. Frustration is also one of the main reasons why children lose their temper and cry. Two-year-old children grow up quickly and have a strong desire to stand on their own feet and "master" things, but they are often hindered by adults or their limited abilities. At this time, children will feel depressed about their limited ability and angry about their incompetence, so they should vent.

3. Imitate adults. Some adults get angry easily when things happen. If parents or teachers get angry easily, children will imitate them. Many parents see their own shadows in their children, including lovely shadows and hateful and irritable images.

4. Physical exhaustion. Physical fatigue may be caused by lack of sleep, excessive fatigue and so on. 2-3-year-old children may have stopped taking a nap, but their physical strength is still not enough to support them for too long, and physical fatigue is easy to make people angry. Babies may get angry easily if they are wet, hungry or weak.

5. Health problems. Physical discomfort and illness can affect control. When children encounter some unpleasant things, it is easy to lose self-control. In addition, during the illness, children will receive special treatment. Once he is well, the special treatment is cancelled, but if it is not cancelled in his heart, the child will lose his temper.

6. Diet status. Some diets may cause children's sensitive reactions and make them lose self-control. Sensitivity to food varies from person to person. Foods that generally cause sensitivity include dyes, preservatives, chocolate or excessive sugar.

Clever parents are clever at losing their temper with their children.

When a child loses his temper, parents must first understand why the child loses his temper; Secondly, it is necessary to understand how children get the expression of their needs by losing their temper; Then communicate with children to understand and meet their reasonable needs; Finally, you should clearly tell your child that his response is not welcome.

1, show him love

▲ Be sure to stay calm. Angry parents will make their children angrier. Remember, you are only facing a child-your own child, not a monster coming to catch you. You can vent your anger, but don't take it personally against your children. After all, children have poor self-control.

▲ Talking to your child gently is good for him to calm down. If the child is yelling, pay attention to simplifying your language and talk to the child calmly. Don't let children complain or be too childish.

▲ Close to the child, hug him and love him. Physical intimacy can achieve good comfort and ease the atmosphere. Sit your child on your lap, or sit close to her to help her calm down.

▲ If the child loses his temper because of illness, you should show sympathy for him at this time, and you can find out the toys you usually collect for him to play with. Because it is not unreasonable for him to lose his temper.

▲ When he shows a little self-control, you should praise him in a targeted way. For example, when he loses his temper, he throws things. Although I lost my temper this time, I didn't throw anything, which should be praised.

2. Ignore it

▲ Sometimes a child will cry on purpose because he wants to test you. At this time, as long as you stand firm, he will see that there is no hope to control you, and he will be quiet and will not cry at will.

▲ The child lost his temper because he couldn't get anything. Never give him anything just to keep him quiet. If he can get what he wants when he loses his temper, he will lose his temper more freely in the future.

▲ If the child cries at will, and you can't stand his crying, you can go to other places to do loud activities, such as sucking the floor and nailing things. Never mind what the child said or did when he cried. Let him know it's no use shouting. Only by talking well can you concentrate.

Step 3 divert your attention

▲ Music has a calming effect. Playing some music can attract children's attention and stop crying.

▲ You can suddenly propose a new thing. If you ask the child to do it with you, he will forget to lose his temper.

▲ Whisper something interesting in your child's ear, or start telling a story, and the child is likely to stop crying in order to listen to the story.

▲ If you feel that your child's mood is getting more and more tense, let the child play an interesting game, read a book or simply take the child outdoors.

4. Segregation policy

▲ Take the child to another quiet place calmly and tell him to come back if he doesn't cry. When he comes back, tell him what he just said.