A mother’s self-growth is the best love for her children

When my daughter was 2 years old, I showed her the wedding photos of my husband and me. My daughter said the man in the photo was her father. When I asked who the girl in the photo was, she said she was her aunt.

When I heard my daughter say aunt, I felt very sad. I couldn’t help but look in the mirror. She was wearing sloppy pajamas, dark circles under her eyes, and a chubby figure...it was completely different from the one in the wedding photo. Two people.

After I had my children, I focused all my energy on them. I used to love dressing up and learning so much, but I haven’t bought any clothes or touched a book in the past few years. I voluntarily gave up on growing up. In my world, apart from housework, there are children.

I have heard many mothers say that their world has completely changed since they had children. Before becoming a mother, all I brought with me when I went out was foundation, lipstick, and cotton pads. Apart from work, I can do whatever I want, even if I sing karaoke until midnight, it doesn’t matter. After becoming a mother, all she takes with her when going out is baby bottles, water cups, and wet wipes. The daily routine consists of breastfeeding, coaxing to sleep, changing diapers, and going to early childhood education...

Some people say that after a woman becomes a mother, her world will have children and a family, but she will not have herself. However, is a mother’s love of “suffering from herself and fulfilling her children” really what her children want?

Song Qian, a single mother in the TV series "Little Joy", sacrificed all her personal life and launched a "surrounding" style of care for her daughter. He even quit his job as a teacher at a prestigious school and devoted himself to taking care of his daughter's life.

However, such dedication caused great pressure on the daughter. Misunderstandings and conflicts between mother and daughter continued to break out, and the daughter even suffered from depression because of it...

In fact, when a mother needs to sacrifice herself to love her children, she has already embarked on the wrong path. My mother has never thought about how much of the love that "suffers from herself and helps her children" is really needed by her children? Therefore, mothers who truly love their children are those who can lead them to grow healthily. Only mothers who love themselves more and allow themselves to grow will contribute to family harmony and the growth of their children.

Grow into a strong mother and give your children the best example

In 2020, Nazina, a 43-year-old herdsman from Siziwang Banner, Ulanqab City, Inner Mongolia, participated with her son. Passed the college entrance examination and both passed the undergraduate level! Use your own actions to become an inspirational role model for your children.

While growing up with her children, Narina discovered that her love of reading was affecting her two children. She began to set a good example for the children with her dedicated learning. When her son entered high school, Narina, a mother, suddenly had a wonderful idea. It would be very meaningful if she could take the college entrance examination in the same year as her son. When she thought of it, she took action. While asking her son to prepare review materials for the college entrance examination, she went to a repeat school in Hohhot to sign up to repeat. In this way, Narina once again started a decent student life, racing against time. Seeing my mother study so hard is very motivating for my children.

Finally, the college entrance examination results came out. Narina’s son’s total score was 520 points, and she herself passed the second line of liberal arts in the Mongolian course with a score of 404 points! Admitted to the tourism management major of Inner Mongolia University of Finance and Economics.

Dong Qing once said, "Because of my child, I think I should work hard to make myself better, so that when he really understands you in the future, he will love and respect you, and he can learn from you. I learned some good qualities from him. My child is not the reason for me to stop moving forward. I want to grow up with him.”

The word “mom” is just a title and an identity, not a label or a shackle. . Only by learning to love ourselves can we relieve the burden on ourselves and embrace this interesting world with enthusiasm. Only by loving yourself can you have love in your heart, light in your eyes, and love your children better.