It is difficult to buy a house, to start a business, to be afraid of getting married ... young and confused! What is my ultimate goal?

Most bosses have experienced the pain experienced by young people at present.

Yesterday was the May 4th Youth Day, and the whole circle of friends was showing "My Youth Photos of the Past". Various photos of the Republic of China are constantly being screened. In the photo, talented people and beautiful women are full of heroic spirit and have their own styles. Why is this P-picture activity popular? Not only because of the occasion, but also because of people's yearning for youth. Youth is immature and restless, but it is also synonymous with courage and blood.

However, young people nowadays, especially those in China, are trapped by "anxiety" in the process of pursuing their dreams. In their twenties, they started a "middle-aged crisis" and were driven away by social pressure. They are exhausted, but their social wealth and personal achievements are far from their expectations. Confusion and anxiety constantly plague young people.

As a veteran who has worked hard in business for many years, most bosses have experienced the pain experienced by young people. How do they break the confusion and anxiety of young people?

Misunderstanding of choosing a job: Do you choose to work nine to five or quit your job?

Nowadays, many young people don't know what they want and have no clear career plan. They can't stand the nine-to-five life, but they want to break the mediocrity but don't have the courage to resign and start a business. Especially when we see that the self-made post-80s entrepreneurs have mastered the scepter of wealth on the rich list and are still struggling in mortgage and car loan, the entanglement and myth of life are even heavier.

So, should young people start businesses? What qualities do you need to start a business?

Wang Jianlin Photography: Pan Deng

20 15 Wang Jianlin shared his entrepreneurial story and advice to young people when he gave a speech at Taiwan Province Provincial University. He believes that all entrepreneurship and scientific research are "28 laws", success is always within 20%, and failure is definitely the majority, but it is precisely because of this that we have to work hard and struggle.

"If you want to succeed, you should start a business. Of course, it is ok to live a well-behaved life from nine to five, but that kind of life is not wonderful. We should take this step bravely, start a business bravely and face life bravely. Whether in business, scientific research or painting, we should always give ourselves a relatively lofty goal to struggle. If you have struggled and achieved it, then you have no regrets in this life. You have struggled and failed to achieve it, and you have no regrets in life! If you don't struggle for anything, you don't have any ideals, and you live a dull life, this life is really meaningless to you. "

Of course, entrepreneurship itself is a narrow escape. Although Ma Yun said that if he succeeds, 80% of people in China will succeed, he also said that if one hundred people start a business, 95 will die quietly, and the road to starting a business is difficult. Without a certain quality, it will not last long.

When Ma Yun gave a speech at Taiwan Province Provincial University on 20/0/5, he encouraged young people to start businesses and warned them not to start businesses if they were afraid of competition and being scolded. Ma Yun said that he has met many great people in the business world for many years, and they all have some characteristics that make them go further.

"First of all, the best people in business, they must be very optimistic about the future. Second, they never complain, but only check their own problems. You should be happy to hear others complain. This guy is complaining while I'm working. Successful people seldom complain. Third, they persist beyond ordinary people. You can't go far without these qualities. Take more time to learn from other people's failures, stick to it for a while, and then stick to it for a while. "

The myth of buying a house: use all the money to buy a house or rent a house?

Young people who work hard in big cities have a puzzle: wage growth will never catch up with housing prices, and the first and second lines will not hold the body, and the third and fourth lines will not hold the soul. Where is the road?

China has a saying since ancient times that only when you buy a house can you have a sense of belonging. However, whether young people want to buy a house or not has caused a lot of controversy. Most entrepreneurs disapprove that it is unwise for young people to rush to buy a house, spend all their savings and take on mortgages.

When Li Ka-shing answered the reporter "Do you want to buy a house" at the retirement meeting, he said, "Buying a house should not be taken too seriously. If a girl says she doesn't get married without a house, I will say, it's better to find another one while she is young. It is impossible to buy a house at a young age. "

At the 20 17 global summit, Ma Yun's assertion that "the future house is like green onions" caused quite a controversy at that time. Many people think that the richest man stands up and talks like a baby, but in Ma Yun's view, striving for a career is the primary task of young people. "The future house is like green onions! In the past eight years, the overall house price in China has been rising sharply. After eight years, the cheapest house in China may be. Young people should not overdraw your youth for the house, but should fight for the cause. "

Liu Chuanzhi also does not support young people to buy a house. "Young people are in no hurry to buy a house. Although the house price has risen sharply. After buying a house, you become a house slave and a humble residence. Life is very unhappy. If you rent a house, you don't have to go to the bank for a loan. If you are under great pressure to buy a house now, it is better to adjust your mentality, work hard, and wait until your salary is high before pursuing your favorite house. "

Wang Shi, who made a fortune in real estate, once threw amazing words and advised young people not to rush to buy a house: "For those young people who have not yet finalized their careers and have ambitions and ideals, it is better to rent a house before the age of 40."

Andrew Zong, founder and CEO of Finney Technology, mentioned in Fission Entrepreneurship that young people with ideals should not buy houses easily. A house is enough to destroy a great hero. "If you have a sum of money in your hand, if you have an ideal and passion, use this money to start a business; If it is not the material for starting a business, follow the people who can start a business and invest a little in their own business, and there will be a wonderful life. "

Li Bin, founder of Weilai Automobile, is worth tens of billions. He has rented a house for many years. In his view, the ultimate goal of entrepreneurs should not be material satisfaction, but should do something more important. Recently, in the program "CEO Comes", Li Bin admitted that he recently bought a 50-square-meter house for his wife to settle down, but renting a house is still meaningful to him. "People are easily infected by the environment. If you live in a big house with many empty rooms, the use efficiency is not high, but you will give yourself a hint and you will feel satisfied. This is a bad psychological suggestion. I still want to remind myself that I have many more important things to do, and these are not my ultimate goals. Maybe I won't think so when I'm in my fifties, but at present it may be a way to keep making progress. "

Myth of life: struggling in first-tier cities or going back to third-tier cities to live a "similar" life

In Beijing Women's Picture Book, the heroine leaves her hometown and becomes a North drifter. Even if she crowded the bus and lived in the basement every day, she didn't want to go back to her hometown. Why? Because in her hometown, she can only live a life similar to that of the people around her, and she can see herself twenty or thirty years later at a glance, but she can't see it in Beijing.

Stay in the third-and fourth-tier cities and live a comfortable and stable "almost" life, or go to the big cities to work hard? This is a common confusion among modern young people.

When Fu, chairman of Cheetah Mobile, came to Beijing, only 400 yuan's money was in the passbook. He lives in the basement and spends several hours commuting to work every day. Before joining Zhou's 372 1 company, he never thought that he would have the opportunity to start a company or even go public in the US stock market. After leaving 360, Fu Sheng passed the difficult competition period of 18 months. Later, he and his partner, Xu Ming, spent only100000 yuan, and set up the image of a cow in a private house in the suburbs of Beijing. People live in the upper floor of the house, work in the lower floor, find an aunt to cook, and sometimes they can't afford it ... It was not until Lei Jun, who admired him, set up Cheetah Mobile that his life took a real turning point.

On the day when Cheetah Mobile was listed on the NYSE, Fu Sheng said, "I don't care how many times you think your dream is far away from you because of practical difficulties, but I really want to tell you with the true story of Cheetah Mobile, as long as you stick to your dream and as long as you are in Do not forget your initiative mind, your dream will come true one day!"

If you stay in the third-and fourth-tier cities, it is nothing more than getting married, having children, and staying with dying units. This kind of life can be seen to the end, stable, but tasteless. Sudden life won't surprise you, it will only be panic, nothing more than unemployment and divorce.

In a big city, not to mention 30 years, the next three years are not expected. If you bump your head forward, into the sky, or into a bag, you still have a dream. What if it comes true? Even if there is a shadow in a big city, it is also a shadow under the sun, and there is always a moment of direct sunlight.

Li Ka-shing said at the graduation ceremony of Shantou University in 2006, "My life will be full of the brilliance of spiritual strength and the eagerness of flesh and blood. I will never be Mr. Almost. " Let's work hard, don't be Mr. Almost, and don't live a "almost life".

Marriage myth: in the daily fear of marriage, should we choose love or bread?

Buffett said that the most important investment in life is not which stock to buy, but who to marry. Marriage is indeed a proposition worth thinking about.

Fear of marriage has become the daily life of many young people. Love can be free, but marriage is inevitable. When there are more and more rules and regulations of marriage, the older single young people are, the deeper their myths are.

In the fire movie "Later Us", a couple drifting from North China came together because of love, but were separated by reality. The hero made many assumptions about the past, and the most heartfelt one was "If I had enough money at that time, would we live in a big house with a big sofa?"

Some people say that love is full of water, and some people say that love without material is a mess. Should we choose love or bread? The marriage of Wang Zhonglei and Wang Xiaorong with Pan Shiyi and Zhang Xin may give us some enlightenment.

In 20 14, Wang Zhonglei, president of huayi, married his wife Wang Xiaorong for the second time on the 20th anniversary, which caused a sensation in the entertainment circle. It is reported that Wang Zhonglei and Chongqing girl Wang Xiaorong fell in love at first sight and got married in Chongqing after three years of long-distance love. The man is a typical "naked marriage", with no house, no car, no family and friends.

After the "naked marriage", Wang Xiaorong and Wang Zhonglei went through a "career transition period" of eight months. She quit her job in Chongqing and came to Beijing to support her husband, working in a restaurant and trying to maintain this family. She only eats noodles with gravy at noon every day. Fortunately, eight months later, Wang Zhonglei's career took a turn for the better. Now that Wang Zhonglei has a successful career, Wang Xiaorong has put away the "vigorous" spice girl demeanor when she was young and willingly became a "gentle and virtuous" full-time wife.

Different from the mutual support of Wang Zhonglei and Wang Xiaorong, Pan Shiyi and Zhang Xin have achieved and shaped each other. Zhang Xin once told the media: "Without me, the modern city would definitely not be what it is today." "When I fall, Zhang Xin always helps me up," Pan Shiyi said of his wife.

In Zhang Xin's eyes, "sharing the same values and life goals is the most critical link". Neither of them likes lazy people, and the pursuit of Excellence keeps them together. "Life will be smooth and challenging. If you quit a challenge, it won't be long. When every challenge is solved, then we will grow up and get married. "

There are too many social variables in the rapid development, so the phenomenon of fear of marriage is becoming more and more common. If you are not ready, don't get married in a hurry. If you are ready, don't flinch because you think too much about the material foundation.

Social myth: Do you want to mix "circles"

Zhou Zeng once said, "I am withdrawn by nature. Most of the time, I either find the other person boring, or I am afraid that the other person will find me boring. But I don't want to stand each other's boredom, and I don't want to look interesting. That's too tired. I am the most relaxed when I am alone, because I won't feel bored. Even if I am bored, I will bear it myself, and I don't need to feel uneasy without involving others. "

Contemporary young people are maverick and like to be alone. These words are regarded as the standard by unsociable young people, but if they come from China, they must be inseparable from the circle. A person can walk very fast, but a group of people will certainly go further, so the circle must be "mixed", and the key is how to "mix".

One conclusion of the book Chaos written by economist Tim Harford is that we are always attracted by similar people, like to be with friends, and everyone cares more and more about their own circles and the world. Economists call this phenomenon "same type matching". If this pattern is repeated endlessly, we will lose the opportunity to listen to many different voices, just consolidate the old interpersonal relationships, and it is difficult to develop new interpersonal relationships, and we will always be locked in the comfort zone.

How can I jump out of the circle? My advice is: walk into a crowd stronger than yourself. Yu's principle of making friends is "I'd rather be a cow's tail than a chicken's head" He would rather be a cow's ass and run with a group of cattle people than a chicken's head. With a group of dreamers, he kept jumping out of the familiar small circle and opening up new big circles.

After the listing of New Oriental, Yu's circle of friends became the most famous entrepreneurs in China: Liu Chuanzhi, Ma Yun, Ma, etc. Yu said that when he was eating with these friends, he couldn't say a word, and it was no problem to bring them tea and water, but what these people said might be that he was the guiding light of New Oriental. Therefore, the key to mixing circles is to break the comfort zone, learn the strategies of better people and improve themselves.

Conclusion: Young people, try your best anyway.

This is the worst time, and the social environment is extremely bad for young people; This is also the best time, as long as you are down-to-earth and willing to work hard, you will always break into a sky. Don't waste time in confusion and hardship and miss opportunities. San Mao once said, "Waiting and hesitation are the most ruthless killers in the world." Just put it down when you think about it.

I hope we young people can work hard to recognize the real world, don't ask ourselves what we want now, just bury ourselves in what we can do, constantly strive for strength, get rid of air conditioning, and keep going up and up.

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