"Han Interpretation: Fearless Truth": Her life has gone through ups and downs, but she has lived a life that many people envy.

Speaking of the life experience of Zhao Han (hereinafter referred to as Sister Han), it is a bitter history that makes people unable to help but feel sympathy:

When I was a child, my parents were busy with work and often went on business trips at the same time. , she could only live in the neighboring houses, and the life of being almost dependent on others created her sensitive character;

Out of guilt and compensation, her parents often took her with them on days when they were not on business trips. Eating high-calorie Western food turned Sister Han from a beautiful girl to a fat man, and she was bullied at school;

She originally scored well in the college entrance examination, but she chose to "disobey the adjustment" when filling out her application form. However, I was unable to go to university in China; when I applied for a foreign school, I performed very well in the IELTS test, but due to official errors, my score from 7.5 was downgraded to 4.5. Not to mention the ups and downs in the review process, which also delayed my reporting time to the university. I was almost postponed for an academic year because of this.

Not to mention the various difficulties in study and life, Sister Han also suffered from a variety of diseases. In severe cases, she could not get out of bed for half a month. The condition was so complicated that she needed to be treated by the most authoritative doctors and doctors. Joint consultation with the dean.

However, this woman who suffered all the ravages of life obtained her undergraduate and master's degrees overseas with excellent results. After graduation, he joined Phoenix TV and became an excellent reporter. After resigning to run a self-media account, he has more than 6 million Douyin fans.

Many people asked Sister Han about ways to get out of suffering and the secret to self-achievement, so this book "Han Jie: Fearless Truth" came out. This book is not only a testimony of Sister Han's growth and transformation in the first half of her life, but also a summary of the life wisdom she realized in her suffering.

Next, let’s follow Sister Han’s growth trajectory and witness the wisdom and unlimited potential of life.

01 Campus bullying is common, and the flower of evil has never been exclusive to adults

The 25-year-old photographer Deer Dawson committed suicide on his birthday. He wrote in his suicide note that when he was a child, Because he has a quiet and well-behaved personality and is not as lively and noisy as other boys, he is considered a sissy by his classmates and suffers ostracism, verbal violence, and even being forced to kneel down. School bullying gave Lu Dawson an extremely low self-esteem and negative character, which paved the way for his future tragedy.

Our protagonist, Sister Han, also suffered from campus bullying when she was in boarding school in junior high school.

I was often ridiculed for my fat figure, and my victory in the election for class president in the first grade of junior high school offended another class leader candidate from a prominent family. At that time, Sister Han realized for the first time the reality and helplessness of the world: society's insinuations on campus not only make children lose their innocence, but also make so-called people's teachers lose their moral bottom line.

In order to curry favor with another classmate from a prominent family, Sister Han was collectively ostracized by the people around her. Her study and daily necessities are often missing; test papers are always thrown into the toilet; fruit peels and leftover bones are often found on the dinner plate; sharp objects such as sewing needles are often found in the quilt; she even sleeps at night Half of them will also have water poured into their mouths.

The head teacher was very aware of Sister Han's experiences, but chose to turn a blind eye. He often found various reasons to criticize Sister Han by name in class, telling her, "You have no hope in this subject." At that time, all Sister Han's belief in learning the subject well collapsed, and her remaining enthusiasm and confidence in the subjects taught by the teacher were also consumed by the lack of recognition.

At first, Sister Han had a weak character and always chose to tolerate when being bullied, but there was always a limit to her patience. When Sister Han saw that her toiletries and clothes were missing one day, she understood that if she did not resist, she would be endlessly bullied in the future.

So Sister Han walked into the dormitory of the people who often bullied her, threw their toiletries into the trash can, and cut their underwear with scissors... Later, she greeted Sister Han Yes, it is the life of the third grade of junior high school that is calm and peaceful.

As the saying goes: "If you give too many smiling faces, you will get sick." Sometimes expressing anger correctly can make the world treat you more fairly.

When recalling this experience, Sister Han said: "When there is no way back, don't think about anything. Keep moving forward and don't look back. There is a thick wall on every road to success. A thick wall of 'denial', and behind the wall is another world."

02 Medical treatment requires cognition, and pain is also a form of growth

Sister Han suffers from congenital odontoma (supernumerary teeth that require constant extraction), which has been going around since she was 10 years old. between various dental clinics. After the failure of the first orthodontic treatment, he developed a tooth disorder syndrome and spent several months in the clinic every year for dental bone powder implantation surgery.

During junior high school, Sister Han was hit in the temple by a football while passing the stadium, resulting in a moderate concussion. She was unconscious for several days and even left sequelae. But the worst is yet to come.

In 2012, Sister Han encountered a small car accident on her way home. Two cars collided with each other. Although she was a little dizzy at the time, she seemed to be fine. I thought I would be fine if I went back to sleep, but I couldn't get out of bed the next day and was still dizzy and vomiting.

After examination, it was discovered that Sister Han suffered from atlantoaxial subluxation caused by trauma. The frequent recurrence of this disease made her almost a disabled person.

During the attack, she could not do any movements related to lowering her head, such as cutting vegetables or picking up things. She also had to stand while working so that the things on the table were parallel to her line of sight.

The problem of the atlas and axis can also affect the nerves. Whenever the wind blows or the temperature changes, Sister Han will have migraines and neuralgia. She must reduce her intake of foods that can cause migraines, such as chocolate, Cheese, citrus, grapes, red wine, pickled foods, etc. Many people jokingly said to her: "If you can't eat so many delicious foods, what fun does your life have?"

In fact, for Sister Han, it is not only her body that needs to recover after the car accident; Psychological recovery and adjustment. In severe cases, being unable to get out of bed has a big impact on self-esteem. Being unable to lower your head also brings a lot of inconvenience to life and work. Take Sister Han’s words: “Suddenly, the things I was used to became different, and the things I could do became different. In the past, ordinary things like going out, lowering my head to tie my shoelaces, etc., became different. It’s such a luxury until now.”

The experience of many treatments has made Sister Han realize that seeing a doctor also requires awareness. Don’t be too pretentious and don’t always compare yourself with your healthy self. Patients need to lower their expectations for recovery, otherwise they will have the grievance of "Why can't I always get better?" If it develops in the long run, it will turn into resentment towards others.

In fact, as long as the body develops in a positive direction based on treatment, it is a good thing. For Sister Han, illness is more like a way of self-thinking, guiding her to improve her cognition. Because Sister Han has always believed that setbacks and pain can make people grow.

03 Surviving in the workplace is not easy. The sooner you know some rules, the better?

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When she was a reporter at Phoenix TV, Sister Han often had to travel around the world on business . Due to cultural differences, when she felt that she was being treated unfairly because of her female identity, Sister Han failed to control her emotions and had friction with the other staff.

That night, Sister Han sent an email of review and apology to her supervisor. The other party only replied with a short paragraph: "Don't easily regard your luck as your talent, and don't regard your temper as your ability." .

Indeed, talented people are not uncommon, and it is not difficult to find talents who are gentler and smoother than us. If we want to survive in the workplace for a long time, we must understand the thinking patterns of some workplace people. Sister Han gave some suggestions on this:

First, leaders care about the results rather than the process. They focus on how many indicators have been completed and how high the customer conversion rate is. It doesn’t really matter how many classes you work or how many all-nighters you stay up;

Secondly, the company does not support idle people, and it will not use the company’s profits to pay individual tuition fees, waiting for you to grow. If you want to gain a foothold in the workplace, you must be valuable to the company and be able to solve certain problems for the company;

Third, in the workplace, even if someone gives you "little shoes", as long as it does not touch the principles and When it comes to the bottom line, you should basically hold back, because a job usually requires the cooperation of many departments, and you can't risk your own escape;

Fourth, if you want to make progress, You must be altruistic and pay more attention to the overall interests of the company;

Fifth, in the workplace, even if you are the wronged party, you must learn to digest and grow yourself. It is a matter of affection for others to help you, but it is also a duty to not help you;

Sixth, words should be spoken softly, and things must be done firmly.

The so-called "words must be spoken softly" means that we must know how to speak and act appropriately, and be careful about everything we do. When receiving advice from seniors, even if it is a critical opinion, you must humbly accept it, change it if it is applicable, and encourage others if it is not.

"Things must be done hard" means that our own professional abilities must be strong, and we strive to make ourselves "can't do it without you, irreplaceable" in the company's professional fields, because business capabilities are always Your strongest foundation in the workplace.

If you cannot prevent yourself from struggling to survive in the workplace, then try to figure out the "hidden rules" of the workplace to increase the probability of survival and development. The workplace is not a willful place. If you don't follow the rules, you will be kicked out easily.

04 If there is light in your heart, you will not be abandoned by the sunshine

Sister Han’s life experience is full of ups and downs. If you take each section apart and put it on other people, I am afraid it will take A long time to heal and recover. However, Sister Han, who has suffered multiple hardships, not only was not defeated at any level, but was tempered by every setback to become more mature and wise.

While reading this book "Hanjie: Fearless Truth", which condenses Sister Han's hardships and wisdom at all stages of her life, I can't help but admire her positive attitude and super perceptive ability. The delicate inner descriptions in the book always make readers feel a strong sense of joy. The life experiences summarized by Sister Han are also very useful for people who encounter problems in life, workplace, and health. Many problems that have been bothering me for a long time are enlightened by Sister Han in the book with just a few words.

I have excerpted some words that have touched me greatly and encourage everyone:

"Life is wonderful. In addition to the affirmation of others, you should also have inner calmness and calmness." Calmly.

We must learn to affirm ourselves instead of expecting affirmation from others; learn to reconcile with the past, and don’t let the past self fetter the present self, and don’t let the future self hate the present self.

When you become stronger, those around you who used to be cold-hearted to you will naturally become kind-hearted. No one will explore the process of your growth, only you know that you are slowly changing.

We should read more books about life and philosophy, because they will be like a refuge that we carry with us. It will protect you when you encounter sudden changes; it will also allow you to regain the courage to face life after experiencing trauma. ?

You can’t force everyone to act according to your intentions, but you can choose to be soft and principled in your heart, and warm and armored.

Having sex with someone you like is not a skill; but being able to deal rationally with people you dislike and having sex with them is a skill.

The wisest way for adults to live is to be three points warm, two points indifferent, four points indifferent, and leave the last point to do whatever you want. ?

The books we read shape our values ??and worldview, and also bring us many different thoughts. We can always stay awake, repair and improve ourselves. ”

I hope that everyone’s life will be smooth, and I hope that we can all have a sunny mentality, tenacious perseverance, and the determination and wisdom to grow from difficulties.