How to cultivate children's sound personality

Nowadays, raising children can't control them to eat and drink as well as before. In today's competitive society, only by giving children a good environment can they cultivate their sound personality and gain an advantage in society in the future. This kind of good environment not only refers to providing children with better educational resources, but also requires parents to have good educational awareness. The following is what I have compiled about how to cultivate children's sound personality. Welcome to read.

Cultivating children's sound personality

Generally speaking, personality education is to cultivate children into real people, that is, to teach children to "learn to be human". The International 21st Century Education Committee puts forward that the four pillars of contemporary education are "learning to seek knowledge, learning to do things, learning to get along with others and learning to be a man".

and "learning to be a man" is a basic process based on the first three kinds of learning, and it is the fundamental goal of education and learning. Therefore, a main line of family education and a backbone should also be to cultivate children into "people". Here "people" refers to an individual with good moral character, independent consciousness, good interpersonal relationship and good cooperation, and is an independent and gregarious social person. Family education is such a personality education. From the psychological structure, personality mainly includes self-awareness, ability, temperament, personality, interests, needs, attitudes, beliefs, value orientation and other factors.

It is the different combinations of personality factors and different performance levels that make everyone behave as different individuals, and each individual is distinguished from each other by this different performance. For example, in real life, we find that some people are cheerful, can actively cooperate with others, communicate happily, and constantly make progress and improve themselves; Some people are aloof and indifferent, treat people and things negatively, and are depressed, etc. The former and the latter are some manifestations of sound personality and imperfect personality. So, where does a sound personality come from?

In family education, there are many factors that affect children's sound personality. This paper focuses on the influence of parents' personality characteristics, parenting style and family environment on children's personality construction.

First of all, among many factors of family education, parents' personality factor is the core strength of teaching, which has a great subtle influence on the formation of children's personality.

Because children are highly imitative, their attitudes towards people and people all their lives are directly imitated from their parents. The personality characteristics of parents will also radiate to all levels of family life, which will make family life dyed with unique colors, and then affect the formation of children's personality. If parents are enthusiastic and honest, and do things conscientiously and practically, they will often have a harmonious family atmosphere, and children will easily form personality characteristics such as enthusiasm, honesty, friendliness and good communication when they are often in contact with relatives and friends. If parents are narrow-minded, calculating and calculating, children will be exposed to the family life atmosphere of being greedy and cheap for a long time, and they will easily get into the habit of being ordinary citizens and selfish, and they will easily develop the habit of opportunism when they go to the society in the future. At the same time, the educational quality of parents and the ability, knowledge and concept of educating children also directly affect children's development.

Secondly, the family rearing pattern is another important factor that affects the construction of children's sound personality.

Family rearing patterns are the integration of parents' personality, parents' attitude towards children and educational methods. Generally speaking, family rearing patterns can be divided into authoritarian, protective, laissez-faire, democratic and mixed types. Obviously, among all the ways of family education, democracy is the best. Parents of democratic families believe that a child is not only a member of the family, but also a member of the country and society. In the future, he will always live independently and go to the society. From an early age, he should teach his children the ability to take care of themselves, instead of doing everything with respect and affection. However, in the family education of the only child in China, there are still many protective parenting methods, which have caused the children's unhealthy personality such as strong dependence, easy resistance, willfulness and loneliness.

Third, family environment plays a key role in the construction of children's sound personality. "Home" is the cradle of children's growth, and children's life growth will always be branded with the environment. As far as the family education environment is concerned, it includes both the material environment and the spiritual environment within the family. The material environment does not refer to the luxurious decoration of the family, but a clean, orderly, healthy and upward environment. Children should have their own world and activity time. The spiritual environment of the family has many contents, including family cultural atmosphere, value orientation, interpersonal communication, family style and family atmosphere, etc. The spiritual environment is more important for the development of children's personality.

Good family education has a positive effect and far-reaching influence on shaping children's healthy personality. Therefore, as qualified parents, they should pay attention to their children's growth from the following aspects.

1. Pay attention to children's overall health and promote the construction of children's sound personality. "Overall health" refers not only to physical and physical health, but also to psychological and spiritual health, that is, personality health.

In 1981, the World Health Organization defined health as: "Health means being able to engage in daily activities vigorously, agilely, without feeling overtired, being optimistic, vigorous and capable of stress." At present, many children's unhealthy problems are caused by unhealthy lifestyles and improper parenting styles. For example, parents' excessive expectations bring too much hopelessness, parents' excessive protection brings too much incompetence, parents' excessive doting brings too much ruthlessness, parents' excessive interference brings too much helplessness, and parents' excessive accusations bring too much helplessness. It is precisely because of so many excesses that children have too many obstacles. Especially in recent years, with the acceleration of the pace of life and the intensification of social competition, psychological problems among teenagers have spread and increased. The media has repeatedly reported a series of events that should not happen because of the weak psychological endurance of primary and secondary school students, which has sounded the alarm for us. As parents, we must pay enough attention to this and help our children maintain their mental health. In addition to the psychological barrier caused by the lag in concept, another killer of children's unhealthy psychology is unhealthy lifestyle. Parents should pay special attention to cultivating children's good and stable mood and optimistic and cheerful personality in family education, persist in exercise, enhance their physique, improve their quality of life, change bad behavior habits and develop good study and living habits.

Second, pay attention to cultivating children into honest and useful people. Noble morality is the foundation of human beings, and honesty is the foundation of morality.

To "learn to be a man", you must first learn to be an upright person. Tao Xingzhi said that "a thousand teachings teach people to seek truth, and a thousand studies learn to be a real person", that is, to learn to be an upright person. In ancient times, before we talked about "governing the country by keeping the family in order", we should cultivate our morality, that is, we should cultivate ourselves and learn to be a man. Before "cultivating our morality", we should be sincere, which means that internal morality should be consistent with external behavior. Generally speaking, "honesty" means not lying, seeking truth from facts, and taking telling the truth, not hiding it from others and yourself, and not distorting the truth as an unshakable criterion.

"keeping promise" means being responsible for one's words and deeds, doing things with credibility and keeping faith for others, which is a psychological quality associated with honesty. It should be said that it is the simplest, most basic and most difficult to do this. Without this, it is difficult to build other morals.

Some parents use the method of "filial son under the stick" to control their children, thinking that the stricter the discipline, the better the control. This attitude and behavior greatly affect the development of their integrity and honesty. In fact, children's dishonesty often begins with imitating adults' greed for small profits, counterfeiting and hypocrisy. Because children have little life experience, they are vague about some moral concepts. Parents should be good at grasping the educational opportunity of their children's first bad behavior and let them correct their mistakes through targeted storytelling, persuasion and education. Therefore, if adults are dishonest, they will teach children to be dishonest; Adults' rudeness and corporal punishment will force children to be dishonest; Adults with material stimulation will induce children to pursue material enjoyment; Adults' bad faith will cultivate children's bad faith. On the contrary, parents are upright in everything and everywhere, and children learn to be upright; Parents are educated in democracy, tolerance and reasoning, and children dare to be honest; Parents are clear about right and wrong, and with correct guidance, children can easily develop trustworthiness.

Third, pay attention to influencing children with a good image.

Chen Heqin, a famous educator in China, said: "Family education is self-education for parents first". Parents' own personality cultivation will exert a subtle influence on their children. Children mainly learn from adults through imitation'. Children's imitation of adults is not limited to behavior, but also includes thinking mode, emotional orientation, customs and habits, and personal character. As long as the relationship between parents and children is established, parents' personality has a decisive influence on their children.

Parents' moral integrity and hard work can set a good example for their children and stimulate their self-motivation and sense of accomplishment. Moreover, this influence is lifelong and incomparable to any other educational force. Therefore, parents should constantly improve themselves and let their children learn from examples. Parents should also learn to respect their children and establish a good, harmonious, equal, mutually respectful and two-way communication relationship and environment with them.

Modern parents' behaviors towards their children are nothing more than "love" and "control". In infancy, parents' love for their children should be unconditional and whole-hearted, from physical contact to meticulous care in all aspects of physiology and psychology. At this time, the "management" should try to adapt to the state of the child, not to the parents' meaning; In early childhood, children gradually form self-awareness. At this time, parents and children must establish a real interpersonal relationship, treat children as an "independent subject", and make every effort to make children gradually become an "independent subject";

Parental love and care in childhood must also be conducive to children's independence. The core of "love" is "care" and "respect", and the purpose of "care" is to emphasize inspiring children's autonomy and consciousness. By adolescence, children's personality has basically taken shape. At this time, the relationship between parents and children should be friends who treat each other as equals with profound friendship. Children learn to respect their parents and others from their respect, and also learn to think independently and live independently from their parents' guidance. Therefore, parents' exemplary behavior and bad behavior will have a great impact on children. What we advocate is that parents should strengthen their personality remodeling for the healthy growth of their children, set an example in all aspects, match their words with deeds, and set an example for their children in personality education. Contemporary educators generally believe that without a healthy personality, there will be no outstanding talents.

Childhood is the initial stage of personality formation, and every brand given to children by family, society and group will play an important role in determining the personality of adults. Personality training in early childhood can be carried out from the following aspects:

1. Parents should first respect children's personality.

mom and dad should get along with their children on an equal footing, use more "discussion" than "command", encourage more and blame less, avoid criticizing or even beating and scolding their children in public, adhere to positive education, and cultivate children's self-esteem, self-love, self-reliance and self-reliance from an early age.

2. Cultivate children's sense of responsibility and enterprising spirit.

Parents should consciously let their children do what they can, so that they can form the habit of doing things seriously. When children encounter difficulties, they should actively give guidance, improve their ability to overcome difficulties and enhance their awareness of going forward.

3. Strengthen children's awareness of public morality.

Parents should educate their children not to climb flowers and trees, scribble or spit in public places; Respect the elderly and strictly observe discipline. Correct children's behaviors that violate public morality in time, so that children can gradually realize that good social behavior is the external performance of noble personality.

4. Encourage children to actively interact with others.

Parents should encourage their children to actively participate in various collective activities in kindergartens or schools, so that children can get along with their neighbors' children in a friendly way, so that children can learn to treat their peers with sincerity, fairness, modesty and generosity, care for others, respect their rights and interests and forgive their mistakes.

5. Parents should always talk to their children.

Make children gradually learn to treat themselves correctly, understand each other and understand things reasonably; Cultivate children's psychological quality of not being proud of their achievements, not feeling inferior when they have shortcomings and not flinching when they have difficulties.

6. Mom and Dad should live in harmony and influence their children's personality formation with their own good image.

If parents study hard at ordinary times, it is easy for children to form diligent and upward conduct; If children grow up in a family full of foul language, it is difficult for them to grow up without hurting others.

7. Parents should create opportunities for their children to see the world through the storm.

Don't pamper your children. In order to benefit children's future survival and development, we should consciously strengthen exercise for children from various aspects to enhance their independent living ability and adaptability to difficult environments. For example, let children take part in physical exercise and send them to live with relatives in rural areas for a period of time.

to sum up, all aspects of the family are very important to the healthy growth of children and the edification of their personality.

How to cultivate children's sound personality

1. Cultivate children's humorous and optimistic attitude

No matter in study or life, children's energy is limited, and there are so many things that he can concentrate on.

However, some children are always "small-minded" and "not strong and optimistic enough". When they encounter troubles in study and life, they are easily anxious and anxious. The emotions of "anxiety" and "anxiety" will consume a lot of energy of children, making them unwilling to do business.

For example, if a child doesn't do well in the math test, his father can grab the child by the hand and say with a smile, "Son, your math level is a bit inherited from your father and me! I also scored 25 points in the exam that year, and I was dragged to the playground by the math teacher and squatted on the ground to correct the wrong questions, haha! However, your father and I still have a little backbone, and I'm catching up slowly. Let me tell you what I did ... "

2. Let children learn to be grateful and know how to tolerate

a child who doesn't know how to be grateful will never grow up, because he has no sense of responsibility and responsibility in his heart and lacks internal lasting motivation to do things.

So, how can we cultivate children's gratitude? The best way is to let your children experience your hard work-doing housework.

Studies by educational institutions show that children who often do housework as children are generally much higher in their grades after entering school and their wages after work than those who don't do housework!

So, when you give the mop to the child, he will know that mopping the floor will also cause backache, so he won't think that you will hinder him from playing games. Teach the dirty socks to the child, and he will know that his socks are so smelly, and he will not throw them on the ground in the future; Leave the schoolbag to the child to clean up by himself, so that he won't always be sloppy and disorganized.

3. Develop a correct view of money

Some people say that "the earlier children know and learn to use money, the more they will earn money when they grow up", which is not unreasonable.

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