My girlfriend found out that I was having an affair and broke up directly (colleagues with girlfriends always have an affair with me)

There is such a debate in "Seven Pa Shuo":

If you like someone very much, but she is in love, should you tell her?

Jia Kaiyuan said: Actually, it's not that she can't feel your affection for each other.

But she pretended not to know, indicating that she didn't want to break enough paper to make the relationship awkward.

Therefore, confession at this time will be redundant.

The debater, the star of the future, said: The purpose of our love is to get married.

And marriage is to marry the most suitable person, not the one who appears first.

If you want her to be happy, you should confess and let her know your mind.

The final choice is still in her hands.

Although love should be said out loud, when the person you like already has the other half,

Should I make my point?

Colleague Xiaoqing, 23 years old, is at the age of being as beautiful as flowers and enjoying love.

She fell in love with Xiao Li, a colleague in the same company.

Although Xiao Li has a girlfriend, he doesn't keep his distance from Xiao Qing.

I often ask Xiaoqing to go to the Asian Games Town Square to watch movies on weekends, and my words are full of ambiguity.

Xiaoqing thought it was a hint and confessed to Xiao Li. He didn't refuse or promise, but he was vague.

This made Xiaoqing feel hopeful, so she got deeper and deeper.

In the end, Xiao Li didn't break up with his girlfriend.

And Xiaoqing, under his step-by-step guidance, got caught up in it and became a third party.

In fact, if the person you like has the other half but is not married, it is understandable to confess to each other.

After all, confession does not mean being together.

So if you want to confess, what points should you pay attention to?

First of all, you should be careful that the other person is a scum man. When you confess, the other person feels the same way about you. Don't rush to be happy.

Let him deal with his current feelings first, and then stay with him aboveboard.

It is very incorrect to interfere in other people's feelings like Xiaoqing.

If the other party doesn't accept you but doesn't reject you,

Be careful, he is a scum man,

Because he probably wanted to "the red flag at home will not fall, and the colorful flags will be fluttering outside."

We must keep a clear head at this time.

Love should be clean and see the light. Don't be fooled by each other's sweet words.

Second, be prepared that you may be a passer-by. You know, what a person did to his predecessor is likely to do to you.

Unless he really loves you,

Otherwise, once another person appears, it is difficult to guarantee that he will not fall in love with each other.

So, if you don't know each other well,

Don't "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", thinking that the other person will be single-minded to you.

In this way, only oneself will be injured.

Not that all men are like this, but be sure to do it well: one day he will leave your psychological preparation.

In this way, one day, I won't let myself back down.

Third, be prepared for failure. Many people will have such narcissistic moments: the aunt who cooks in the canteen gives two more pieces of meat, and they all feel that they are coveting their beauty.

So we tend to regard each other's friendly social interaction as having a good impression on ourselves.

At this time, if you confess, it is easy to be rejected.

People with poor psychological endurance will be devastated after being rejected.

Even do things that hurt yourself,

So if you decide to confess, you must first be prepared for failure.

Now it is an open society. Without affecting the other party's family or hurting others,

It is normal to express your love reasonably.

But people must have a view of right and wrong, and don't lose your mind when falling in love.

Keep a clear head and don't do anything without ethics.

On this premise, bravely pursue what you love.

Do you think the girl who confesses when the other person has a girlfriend is green tea or brave in pursuing love?