Why some people are afraid to look at their own photos

Afraid of facing the camera? !

Seriously speaking, there are actually several elements

The most important thing is that if the person being photographed has a good sense of the lens, the photo will definitely look good

The second is Only with good photography skills can the photographer ensure that the framing, composition, and lighting can make the subject look good

The third is the ambient background light, etc.

The last thing is the photography equipment, haha. Actually, this is really The least important thing is that if the distortion of a bad lens is severe, the pictures will not look good! This is actually normal ~ Who doesn’t want to be handsome and beautiful? Nowadays, when you go to photo studios to take pictures, there are people who specialize in photo editing~ Everyone loves beauty, and you also want everyone to see that your photos are the most handsome and beautiful of you, right~ Haha.. So. Of course, upload photos. It’s the most beautiful girl I’ve ever uploaded~ Haha! However, I also object to over-publishing my own photos, which don’t look like my own at all. That would be meaningless. It’s better to just take other people’s photos, haha~

Starting from the Sphinx’s question, self is mankind’s greatest curiosity and perhaps its greatest fear. As a mortal, with the greatest expectations for yourself, you also bear the greatest disappointment. This is a common fact that everyone must face, but it is just not so willing to see it through other people's eyes. —— www.xinli001.com

An editor friend asked me to answer: Why are some people not afraid to look in the mirror, but are afraid to look at their own photos?

My first reaction was that I was probably afraid that others would find me ugly.

After a second I realized that this answer was wrong, and a little too wrong. What does it have to do with others if you look at your own photos? Even if it's extremely ugly, just keep it tightly covered and don't spread it around. Who will see it?

But if you think about it carefully, it seems that people who are afraid of looking at photos, watching videos, or listening to their own recordings are basically doing it out of a sense of shame. Shame is an interpersonal emotion, so it seems that it does have something to do with other people.

Ask this kind of person, if the photos or videos were seen by others, would they feel the same way?

It is indeed the same collapse, even more collapse - it seems that it is really related to other people's opinions.

A college student who came for consultation could not participate in any class activities because photos would be taken during the activities. He could not imagine how cruelly he would be laughed at when his photos were viewed by others. Another experienced trainer kept refusing clients' requests for video recording because he was speechless whenever he was in front of the camera. Some things that have nothing to do with appearance will drive people crazy as long as they are seen by others: a well-known online author will become a eunuch after accumulating a certain number of votes, because as soon as he sees what he has written, he will I feel ashamed of my supporters.

What’s so scary about these things? Confident people may find it difficult to understand.

It stands to reason that as long as you look in the mirror, you will be very familiar with your own face. As long as you open your mouth to speak, listening to your own voice every day will become a habit. However, looking in the mirror cannot completely restore the reality, because the posture is always deliberately arranged; the voice you are used to hearing when speaking can also be said to be a distorted sound because the sound waves conducted by the jaw are superimposed. ——The way others perceive your voice, appearance, and appearance is often different from what you perceive yourself. Don't think about this matter carefully, because it will make people feel uncomfortable: you really can't figure out what you are like in the eyes (ears) of others.

Starting from the Sphinx’s question, self is mankind’s greatest curiosity and perhaps its greatest fear.

"Although I feel pretty good about myself, I don't know if others despise me."

——People who care about other people's opinions, even when they are most proud, It is inevitable that there will be a trace of such worries.

"What others see of me is actually worse than I think?" It is even worse when I feel depressed.

By looking at photos, videos, or listening to recordings, it is equivalent to gaining a perspective to observe and judge yourself through the eyes of "others". This perspective is, honestly, both tempting and scary. You can't help but wonder what others think of you, but if you really use these eyes, you can't help but feel so embarrassed that your whole body itch.

Because I have really seen that I am like this in the eyes of others. Like the college student who was afraid of taking pictures, he said: "If you look at my photos, look at them secretly, and don't tell me after you've seen them. If you hide them well enough, I might feel that I can still face you. But I can't even think about it." , whenever I think of this possibility, I..."

Well, I resisted and didn't tell him: In fact, it really doesn't make any difference to us whether we see your photos or not. Because we are always looking at what you look like. Whether it looks good or not is an established fact in the eyes of others.

All the differences are actually only in your own eyes. You think others are watching, but in fact you are watching.

So we have a concept called "Audience Perspective", which is used to describe people who care too much about the evaluation of others. They can't help but look at themselves through the eyes of "others" and judge their performance.

It's like before a movie is released, a censor should look at it first: If I were an audience, would I think it was well shot? Will I be disappointed? Could it be a misunderstanding? Will you be angry? Do you think those who make movies are stupid?

Look and look, the more I look, the more I collapse: It’s really stupid! What should I do? I can’t be seen by the audience!

From the audience’s point of view, seeing the ugly aspects of one’s own body that cannot be shown to others is naturally extremely uncomfortable.

Well, wait... But how does this theory apply to those who have a good image? You know, many photos are not that ugly, but the owners of the photos are still unwilling to accept it. Why are they uncomfortable?

In fact, their uncomfortable points are the same: they are really stupid! What should I do? I can’t be seen by the audience!

Because this censor is often much more picky about his own performance than the real audience.

All people who care too much about the opinions of others are often characterized by too harsh review standards. They hope that no matter what angle they look at or who looks at it, there will be no faults in their performance. Their standards are unattainable, but the observed performance is full of flaws: mediocre appearance, weak voice, stiff movements, ordinary knowledge, not to mention all kinds of flaws that you know best. Oops, is this me? ...How could this guy be me!

But real life is not a movie after all. Movies can be banned directly by the General Administration, but in real life...even if you tear up the photos, cut off the recordings, or delete the videos, what should be seen by the audience has actually been seen clearly.

Walking in this world, there is nowhere to hide. You can only be the last person to see yourself clearly.

Often, he is the one who is least likely to accept himself.

Now if you ask me to answer the question at the beginning of the article, why are some people afraid of looking at their own photos? I think the answer is not that I am afraid that others will find me ugly, but that I am afraid that "others will not think as highly of me as I expect", right? As a mortal, with the greatest expectations for yourself, you also bear the greatest disappointment. This is a common fact that everyone must face, but it is just not so willing to see it through other people's eyes.