The girl is several months pregnant and her husband’s family deliberately refuses to give her a bride price. What should the girl do?

Speaking of the betrothal gift, it originated as one of the wedding procedures in ancient China, but for some reason this custom still exists in 2020. Some time ago when I was browsing Weibo, I saw a hot search topic about "sky-high price gifts", and netizens from all over the world were having heated discussions. Some people introduced the amount of betrothal gifts in their hometowns, which made me lament how difficult it is to get married in today's society!

Some people commented: "No bride price is true love" or "Bow price should be abolished" and the like, which aroused opposition and criticism from most girls. In fact, the issue of bride price has always been that the public is right and the mother-in-law is right. But no matter which position you stand on, please don't say such ridiculous nonsense as "0 gift is true love"! Regardless of whether the betrothal gift is large or small, please first understand the original meaning of the betrothal gift.

What it represents is: the man treats the woman as a treasure and sincerely seeks to marry him; it is also a tribute to the father-in-law and mother-in-law for raising a good daughter.

As for the topic of "sky-high price of bride price", I think everyone has more or less heard of, seen or even experienced breakups due to improper negotiation of the bride price. Many boys complain, "The bride price is so much, are you selling your daughter?" Damn it, whose daughter has been raised so hard and sold so cheaply? If it were you, how much would you pay for it?

First of all, the man must know that even if the woman’s family asks for a bride price, it does not mean that she is selling her daughter for money. The woman needs to know that just because other girls’ families want a bride price, it doesn’t mean they are poor. In today's society, most families have only one child, and their daughters are the spoiled treasures of the family. Most women will return the money plus their dowry to the man. In case of changes in life in the future, they can have the money in the bottom of the box for emergency needs, making life easier. Guaranteed.

Most parents who want betrothal gifts also hope that their daughters will not suffer disadvantages or hardships in the future. High betrothal gifts are certainly shameful, but don’t stress that zero betrothal gifts are better. After all, there are still many people who think: "Zero betrothal gift will make the woman seem unimportant in her husband's family." Maybe some girls don't need a betrothal gift when they get married, as long as the man treats the woman well, or as long as the man is motivated and really loves you, what about the betrothal gift? You can talk about anything. What the woman loves is people, not money. It doesn’t matter whether she has him or not. As long as the two of them live well, that’s more important than anything else. I believe that many families who do not want bride price think so.

In fact, it doesn’t matter how much gift money the woman wants, what matters is where the gift money is used. If the children’s financial conditions are good, it is reasonable for the parents to keep it for their own retirement. Compared with the hard work of raising a daughter Pay, what does a little gift money mean? What many men cannot accept is that they use their daughter's money to support their own sons. But what is unacceptable is that the woman is so greedy that she promises to turn 100,000 into 200,000 in two days, knowing full well that the man's finances do not allow it. But he just broke up a good marriage.

So the woman does not need to pay the bride price, but the man cannot refuse to give the bride price. In today's society, more and more families of men will use appropriate betrothal gifts to show respect for the hard work of the women's parents. Please remember that the man’s attitude determines everything. If he can’t even afford the bride price, his daughter will not be taken seriously if she marries her, so it’s better not to marry. Of course, if you are so poor that you can’t even afford the bride price, then you shouldn’t marry. Now, marry her and drink from the northwest wind.

Finally, I would like to warn all young people: the bride price is just an attitude that reflects mutual respect; for more long years, it depends on the two of you caring for each other, loving each other, working hand in hand, and being of one heart, loess turns into gold. , Only two people who share the same mind and heart can have a long-lasting happy marriage.

The Spring Festival is slowly passing, and the weather is gradually getting warmer. The sun is shining brightly outside, but Xiaolin inside the house feels heavy, feeling the 5-month-old baby in her belly. Should she abort it?

Xiao Lin and Zhang Hui were high school classmates. They fell in love with each other and fell in love in high school. After the class teacher found out, she strongly opposed it and said that she would contact the parents if she didn't want to break up. Although the two broke up, they were only peaceful on the surface, but secretly they loved each other fiercely.

The college entrance examination is over. Both of them did well in the exam. They feel that they can finally be together. Zhang Hui told his mother about this, but her mother firmly opposed it. There were more girls in the university and the conditions were good. Some of them asked Zhang Hui to change his wish so that he could not live in the same city as Xiao Lin. Zhang Hui reluctantly obeyed, Xiaolin went to Hangzhou, and Zhang Hui went to Shanghai.

Distance cannot bring two loving hearts apart. Half of their living expenses are donated to the Ministry of Railways. Their long-distance relationship does not bring much hindrance to them. After graduating from college, Zhang Hui stayed in Shanghai, but his income was meager and the rent was too high. Every day he was spinning like a top involuntarily, feeling exhausted both physically and mentally. Xiaolin stayed in Hangzhou. She studied to be a nurse. She can get an average of about 6,000 yuan per month in salary, bonus and subsidy, which is neither too much nor too little. Her basic life is still guaranteed.

After all, Hangzhou is not as fast-paced as Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, and the housing prices and rents are not bad. Zhang Hui thought that since they have not been together well, he would try to develop in Hangzhou. If he can take good care of her, he will not It makes yourself so tired. Xiao Lin was also very moved after hearing this. After 7 years of bitter love, they could finally be together and felt solid and happy. The two finally got together and accidentally got pregnant. Zhang Hui looked at the report card and decided to go to Xiaolin's house with his mother to propose marriage.

Xiao Lin did not tell her mother about her pregnancy for fear that her mother would be too angry, but her mother-in-law-to-be knew.

As soon as Zhang Hui's mother arrived at Xiaolin's house, she told them everything: "Xiaolin is pregnant and she is a member of our family. We don't have to pay any wedding gifts or anything like that. After the baby is born, I will give them 50,000 yuan. This way I can stay with them for a long time." They are both pretty good."

After hearing this, Xiaolin’s mother’s face turned blue and white: “My daughter is so outstanding and earns a lot a month, so I can’t give it to your family in vain. I just want it to be auspicious and I will give her a bride price. 10,010 yuan for a child, one in ten thousand, and even if you haven’t bought a house yet, you will give your child 200,000 yuan. Buying a house will cost you 1.8 million yuan. Even if you buy it with a loan, you will need 400,000 to 500,000 yuan to buy and decorate it. Even if you give the child 200,000 yuan, it’s not too much!”

Zhang Hui’s mother said: “That’s impossible, the child is still in the belly, and the cooked duck can still fly. If you can, go and have an abortion. Go and abort the child!" Seeing that the two mothers were about to fight, the two fathers hurriedly tried to persuade them, "If you have something to say, don't quarrel." "Let's be nice. Let’s discuss it, as long as the two children can get well.”

In the end, Zhang Hui's mother said harshly like a scoundrel: "If you don't need money, if you don't marry, you will be pulled down!" Xiaolin looked at her future mother-in-law who was so harsh and mean, and touched her again. He touched the child in his belly and saw Zhang Hui sitting aside without saying a word. His heart felt cold. He immediately dragged him outside and wanted to discuss it with Zhang Hui. Who knew that Zhang Hui was a soft persimmon and would talk about family affairs? It was his mother who made the decision, and it was not convenient for him to say anything.

Yes, he can't make the decision, otherwise the application would have been filled in together. Zhang Hui then said: "Just agree to what my mother said, so that we can live a better life and save you from having to have an abortion."

After hearing this, Xiaolin sneered, desperate, and asked for the bride price No, and there is no wedding room. Can this marriage still be concluded? Where does this put the face of myself and my mother-in-law? My sweetheart still had this attitude, and I immediately knew that the marriage was probably not going to happen, but there was still a living life in her belly, what should I do?

Seeing this, I think different people may hold different opinions, but what I want to say is that the bride price must be accepted. There is no doubt about this. Because what we need in collecting betrothal gifts is not money, but an attitude. People can reveal their true nature most at two special times, one is the moment of life and death decision-making, and the other is when facing money.

On a day like floating leaves, how can there be so many life-and-death matters? More ordinary days are filled with trivial things, and many of these trivial things are related to money.

The bride price is a touchstone, which directly determines the degree of attention the woman receives in the man's family and her future family status. Don't say that the mother-in-law is mean, loves money more than life, or whatever. As long as she doesn't say too much and her demands are reasonable, she is maximizing the interests of her daughter, which is what every competent mother should do.

I once heard a "quasi-mother-in-law" downstairs say: "The wife bought the horse for me to ride and beat. In our family, it doesn't cost a penny to marry a daughter-in-law." And you posted it..." His tone was full of showoff and disdain. To be honest, such words are extremely harsh to anyone's ears. I was very angry: "Your family has a throne that you want to inherit or something, and you still treat this girl like a baby?"

Sure enough, less than a year later, I saw this "quasi-mother-in-law" making nonsense again: "I can raise an old hen and it can lay an egg, but it can't even give birth to a son. If you can, get out of your parents' house and don't come back again. Go and wear red." There is a green one, there are many girls with yellow flowers..."

I recognize the daughter-in-law of this family. Both parents are teachers, from a family of intellectuals. When the wedding came about the bride price, the mother-in-law kept crying about poverty. The girl's parents thought that they would all be a family in the future, and even if they received the bride price, they would still have to give it to their daughter. Therefore, when the mother-in-law cried about poverty, the girl's parents stopped fighting for it.

Every girl enters marriage with the vision of happiness. I can live with you wholeheartedly, but the prerequisite is that we must be of the same mind. If giving is taken for granted, if being knowledgeable and reasonable is used as a bargaining chip, , then I'm sorry, you can play by yourself, we won't accompany you.