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When you accept the romantic proposal, you haven't climbed out of the moving vortex, and then there is reality-there are various levels to break through before entering the auditorium. This time I will introduce the first hurdle of marriage, "engagement".

Engagement, also known as "Wen Ding Xi", is a lifelong engagement ceremony held by newlyweds before the wedding reception. Although many newlyweds choose to hold the engagement ceremony together, there are still many newlyweds who attach great importance to the engagement ceremony, especially men and women from different cities. They need to hold the engagement ceremony separately so that relatives and friends from various cities can attend and give their blessings nearby.

Well, before it's too late, let's take a look at the current engagement obstacles and what tasks need to be solved!

Task 1 _ Depart

After the man worshipped his ancestors at home, he dressed up as a "red wooden box" and then shot at the bride's house. It should be noted that the number of luxury cars should be even, but in order to avoid unlucky numbers such as "4, 8", usually, the number of luxury cars is two or six.

Task 2 _ Welcome

When the man's limousine reaches 50 meters in front of the woman's house, he will fire a gun to inform her that the groom is coming, and the woman will also fire a gun to welcome him. When the car stops, the matchmaker gets off first, and the groom gets off last. The younger generation (usually male) of the woman's family will open the door for the groom, and the groom will give the younger generation a red envelope.

Task 3 _ Nacai

The man's relatives and friends enter the woman's house with a bride price, and the woman's house will give people a red envelope after receiving the bride price. After the bride price is arranged neatly, the matchmaker will distribute the bride price, gold ornaments and other bride prices to the woman.

Task 4 _ Introduce relatives and friends of both parties

Although almost all parents have met before their engagement, the matchmaker will still introduce their relatives and friends to each other on the day of writing. Generally, the relatives and friends of the man will be introduced to the woman first, and then the relatives and friends of the woman will be introduced to the man.

Task 5 _ Serving Sweet Tea

The elders of the woman's family will invite the man's relatives and friends to sit down according to their seniority, with the oldest sitting in front and the groom sitting last. After everyone is seated, the woman's good woman will take the bride out and offer the prepared sweet tea. The number of sweet teas should be the same as the number of relatives and friends of the man, neither more nor less; When the bride serves tea, the cup should be held firmly and not shaken. At this time, the good girl will say some auspicious words beside her, and the bride will return to her room after serving sweet tea in order.

Task 6 _ pressing tea Ou

After drinking sweet tea, the man's relatives and friends roll up the red envelopes prepared in advance and put them in the cup. Then the good woman leads the bride out and takes back the cups in order. At this time, the relatives and friends of the man will say some auspicious words to congratulate the bride. This ceremony is called "pressing tea".

Task 7 _ Wear a ring

After the tea pressing ceremony, the lucky woman will take the bride back to her room first (yes, the bride always goes in and out ~). At this time, a high chair and a low chair should be prepared. When a lucky woman takes the bride out, the bride should sit on the high chair "facing outward" with her feet on the low chair. Then, when the couple puts on the ring, the matchmaker will read some auspicious words, and the groom will help the bride put the ring on her middle finger first, because it means "pressing to the end", and the bride will bend her finger in the process to avoid being "eaten to death". When it is the bride's turn to put the ring on the groom's middle finger, she can politely put the ring on the second knuckle.

Task 8 _ Meeting Ceremony

The mother-in-law puts a gold necklace and bracelet on the bride, and then the mother-in-law puts a gold necklace on the groom; After wearing the engagement ring, the newlyweds can change their names to relatives and friends, for example, calling each other's parents "Mom and Dad", indicating that they are married and continue to worship their ancestors at the woman's house.

Task 9 _ Re-employment

After accepting the bride price of the man, the woman will also return the bride price of the man. This ceremony is called "re-employment". The steps are as follows: first, take out the bride price of the man, and then put the bride price of the woman into the empty box where the man holds the bride price. The bride will also prepare personal items for the groom from head to toe in advance, commonly known as "head-to-tail ceremony", and return part of the bride price to the man. For example, the woman usually only accepts a small dowry, and the large dowry is returned to the man.

Task 10 _ Wen Ding Banquet

After the engagement ceremony, the woman will hold a "Wen Ding Banquet". The man's relatives and friends won't eat until the end. According to custom, men leave the table when they meet fish. When leaving the table, he will give a red envelope to thank the banquet (also called "table pressing ceremony"), and the woman will prepare chicken legs with red paper and give a red envelope to the man's younger generation.

I remind you intimately: don't say "goodbye" when seeing the guests off! The meaning of avoiding remarriage; Besides, if the man doesn't eat to the end, it means that he won't "eat enough" of the bride in the future.

After completing the above 10 task, congratulations on completing the engagement ceremony! In fact, following the process, I feel that the ceremony is not difficult at all, right! What? Is there anything you don't understand? Don't worry, I have some secrets that can help you get through customs faster!

What are the taboos of secret 1 _ engagement?

Taboo 1: Any female elder with the words "aunt" and "sister-in-law" should not enter the bride's room, because the voice is the same as "loneliness" and "sweeping the floor".

Taboo 2: Usually, people who are "tigers" are taboo in wedding-related ceremonies. Traditionally, tigers are violent and aggressive at happy events.

Taboo 3: The bride-to-be can't eat her own wedding cake, because it means that the bride will marry again (except tasting).

Secret 2 _ What's the difference between "serving tea" in the sacrificial ceremony and "eating tea" on the wedding day?

According to the traditional custom, offering tea has always been a ceremony for the younger generation to show respect to the older generation. I hope that the bride will let the elders of the man's family know and leave a good impression through the ceremony, and look forward to being loved by the elders in the future; At this time, the elders also need to show their due tolerance and dignity, and prepare red envelopes for the bride to show their mood after drinking tea, which is the "pressing tea" mentioned in task 6 above.

On the other hand, drinking tea on the wedding day is a southern custom (depending on whether modern families have this custom), also known as "drinking bride's tea". It is intended that the bride will be the hostess of the man's family after the wedding banquet, so relatives and friends of the man's family will come to the door to give gifts and congratulations, and wrap red envelopes. And the bride also needs to bring tea to entertain visiting relatives and friends. Most of the people sitting are elders (or maybe only in-laws), so it is necessary to prepare red envelopes for the bride. Generally speaking, the bride doesn't have to return the red envelope of engagement tea; However, the red envelopes received by the bride when she gets married and drinks tea should be returned to her in-laws ~

Secret 3 _ How should I walk/sit in the ceremony?

If you don't arrange in advance how the elders should sit and how the bride should go, it may make people feel in a hurry and the elder of the woman may feel humiliated, so the route and seating order are very important.

There are usually three places for ceremonies: the bride's own living room, the wedding banquet hall and the hotel room. No matter where you choose, as long as you grasp three key points, you can make the ceremony go smoothly!

Key point: 1: The man is seated by seniority, no matter how many, the groom must sit last, and the number is even.

Point 2: The bride serves tea in generational order. That day, in addition to holding tea firmly, it was inevitable that it was not easy to walk in a dress. Therefore, we must let the bride walk smoothly, without going back and forth or crossing.

The third point: most newcomers will ask professional photographers to record the ceremony. If the space is narrow and there is no space reserved for photographers, it will not only bring difficulties to photographers' work, but also make it difficult to present beautiful photos. So when setting the ceremony place, be sure to reserve space for the photographer. It is suggested to discuss the process with the photographer before the ceremony, including lighting, angle, moving line, etc. Photographers will give feedback to newcomers and elders on how to better position themselves from a professional perspective.

Tip 4 _ What should I prepare for the bride price and return gift?

Bride gifts are divided into "Six Gifts" and "Twelve Gifts". Nowadays, most of them are "six gifts", and how much the woman orders and how much the man pays. In addition, the amount of money that the man needs to prepare is also different. Small prices are mostly 65,438+02 ~ 65,438+06, and large ones are 360,000 ~ 660,000. However, most modern women's families only accept small ones, withdraw large ones, and some don't charge money for reference.

Six rituals of men

1. Pancake (China Wedding Cake)

2. Boxed cake (also known as wedding cake, it is an ordinary western-style gift cake or a simple Chinese cake)

3. Four colors (gold, incense, gun, ancestor worship candle)

4. Six sweetness (winter melon candy, ring cake, orange cake, longan, rock sugar, candy, symbolizing sweetness)

5. Four gold (the bride's gold ornaments, including earrings, necklaces, bracelets and rings)

6. Head and tail gifts (6 brides or 12 dresses, symbolizing wealth and good fortune)

Twelve rites of man (including the above six rites)

7. Two dozen red wines (indicating that 24 solar terms is safe for one year).

8. Pork or ham (indicating richness and sincerity)

9. Noodle line (a line symbolizing the marriage of two surnames and a happy marriage)

10. Glutinous rice, sugar (let the woman wrap jiaozi, symbolizing reunion and perfection)

1 1. capon and mother duck (for starting a business)

12. Happy flowers (symbolizing good luck)

The lady returned the gift.

1. Two pieces of gold (necklace and ring for the groom)

2. Head and tail gifts (6 or 12 clothes for the groom)

3. The man prepared four boxes of cakes, big cakes, four colors and six sweets as gifts.

Twelve rites for women (including the above six rites)

7. Charcoal (for continuity and inheritance)

8. Wheat and grain (symbolizing food and clothing)

9. Brown sugar (sweet and pleasing)

10. Money and lead wire (attached to the husband's family)

1 1. Abdominal circumference (meaning great success)

12. Lotus plantain flowers and taro leaves (indicating many children and grandchildren)

The above is the detailed process of Wen Ding's happiness and the details that need attention ~ I wish the new people who read this article can successfully break the engagement barrier! Of course, with the continuous simplification of modern customs and habits, basically, as long as the two sides reach a consensus and reach a consensus with each other's elders, it is good to make Wen Ding happy ~ (meaning that some tasks and details can be omitted, and it is most important for both sides to be happy)

(Excerpt from: Overseas Wedding, Korean Wedding, Bali Wedding, Guam Wedding)

References:

1 Zhang 1992 Study on Overseas Photography Consumption Behavior and Potential Consumption Behavior

2 Huang 1994 Study on the Consumption Behavior of Wedding Photography of Kaohsiung Citizens

3 Ashin and Fu Huaihui 2004 Study on the lifestyle and consumption behavior of wedding photography consumers.