Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face

Yesterday was the Mid-Autumn Festival, the first day of the three-day holiday. My plan was to complete as much study and work tasks as possible during the day and have some entertainment at night.

I slept until I woke up naturally in the morning. It was just after seven o'clock, which is not too late. I started working after breakfast, reading, taking notes, coding, managing Weibo, public accounts, etc., recording songs, and processing sound effects. I was busy editing articles and pushing articles until I left home at 11:30.

According to the plan, in the afternoon, I have to listen to the photography micro-professional experience class in the cloud classroom and submit the homework. I also have to read 3-5 historical science articles and draw a mind map template, which is about three hours of work. .

At noon, I went out to have dinner with Maomao’s classmates. The restaurant was not far away and it took less than an hour to take a taxi back and forth. I calculated, took a nap in the car, and got home at three o'clock at the latest.

However, when we started chatting at the dinner table, I knew that the situation was beyond my expectation. We are old classmates who have known each other for 20 years, but have not contacted each other for several years. They have a lot to say about work, relationships, family, etc. They can talk about any topic with gusto.

I ate, listened, and quickly reflected and adjusted.

1. Prepare in advance and try to avoid falling into a situation where you are unable to control

Attending the other half’s class reunion actually means handing over control for a period of time and the activities of the party The content and time cutoffs are decided by the other half and the classmates.

Unless there are special circumstances, you must not be the villain who spoils the fun, nor can you come together and leave first.

Under the circumstances at that time, compared to the important but not urgent online course learning and course development, it was of course more meaningful to accompany Maomao and have a chat with his old classmates.

In life, you should prepare as much as possible in advance to avoid entering into passive situations.

So, what preparations should I make in advance?

1) Understand the background of this dinner party and estimate the time more accurately, instead of taking it for granted that two and a half hours of chatting over a meal is about the same.

2) Communicate your afternoon arrangements with the cat, so that the cat can be mentally prepared, and discuss a latest departure time that is acceptable to everyone.

2.? Study regardless of time or occasion, just take it as it comes

Eating and chatting without focusing on oneself is not only a good way to relax and have a rest, but also a good way to relax and have a good rest. Learning Opportunities.

While I was tasting delicious food and thinking about how to make them, I listened carefully to the chat between Maomao and my classmates, absorbing all kinds of knowledge and information.

Coincidentally, these two old classmates of Maomao, Q is from the telecommunications industry and F is from the media unit. Their work content and living conditions are relatively unfamiliar to me.

I learned a lot of things and kept them in my head one by one. I will check and understand them separately when I come back.

For example, the underlying technology of Bitcoin, "blockchain" and block train, was mentioned by Q just casually. I quickly asked questions and asked him to give a detailed introduction. After I came back, I learned about it and mastered this new term.

For example, the “big data” that sounds very high-end has its practical applications and limitations. After returning, I further investigated the application of big data in educational entrepreneurship.

For example, mobile phone network access licenses must be tested in the laboratory one by one. After coming back, I learned about the huge chain of interests behind this small logo on every mobile phone.

For example, if you only work two or three days a week, how can you achieve personal value-added in the remaining time.

For example, provident fund loans, why can they only be loaned for a maximum of ten years after the maximum payment is reached? What is the basis for national policies? After I came back, I wrote down the questions and learned more about them later.

For example, simple arrangement APP, garage band, garage band, you can make your own music with your mobile phone. While listening, I recalled the music documentary "The Secret of Music" I had watched, and reviewed the process of the birth of a song.

For example, if you injure your knees while running on the road, or injure your ankles while running on a treadmill, the difference is whether the rear or forefoot touches the ground first. After I came back, I did preliminary research and found no definite answer, which needs further verification.

For example, regarding children’s sleep problems, there are specialized infant and young child sleep consultants abroad who can obtain qualification certificates through online learning. After I came back, I investigated and found that the certification center is called International Maternity and Parenting Institute (IMPI), which is an authoritative organization that provides cutting-edge basic pregnancy education, products and services to obstetricians and expectant parents.

…………

The knowledge involved in chatting is large and complex. Only when you think about it now and verify it later can it become your own. Otherwise, it will go in one ear and out the other, and it will just be fun. That’s all.

3. Only by persistence and flexibility can you achieve your goals

When I got home in the afternoon, it was already 4:20 after washing up, more than an hour later than expected. Because I didn't take a break at noon, my mind was a little groggy, and I had to start preparing dinner soon, so I didn't have a whole block of time to use.

I simply adjusted my study and work tasks for the day. While watching the long-awaited movie "Dangerous City", I dealt with mechanical chores while searching and sorting out the knowledge points mentioned above. Some are written down in the material library of cloud notes, and some are pinned on cork boards to remind myself to follow up.

I paused the movie at around five o'clock and went to the kitchen to prepare dinner, including lean meat porridge, beef in golden soup, mixed avocado and dragon fruit, etc.

Then, while enjoying dinner, we finished watching the movie. It was exactly 7:30 when we cleared the table. For three hours, I spent a movie, dinner, studying and recording knowledge points, and doing mechanical chores. I pushed the article on WeChat and wrote the outline of this article on Cloud Notes using the iFlytek input method (to be honest, the original plan was to push an article today). Zhang’s photography assignment, I didn’t expect to write such a long article), the time is fully utilized and the efficiency is very high.

In the past, I was a somewhat fragile perfectionist. When you plan to do something, the expected result is to overcome all difficulties and complete it, and achieve a score of 90 or above.

Therefore, I am particularly resistant to emergencies. I will be particularly depressed when encountering passive situations. My mood suddenly hits rock bottom and I cannot get up. Then I broke the pot and simply gave up on everything I wanted to do.

It is conceivable that if I had encountered the situation yesterday, I would probably have become very bad in my heart, while trying to suppress this negative emotion out of politeness, and then with a heavy heart When I returned home with an internal injury, I didn’t want to do anything but shut myself up to heal.

Fortunately, I am no longer the same person as before. My heart has become more flexible. When dealing with negative emotions, I no longer suppress them blindly, but think and solve them rationally.

Therefore, not only was I not unhappy because of the unexpected time expenditure, but I also enjoyed it very much. When the plan encountered changes, I flexibly adjusted it and used the remaining time as efficiently as possible. .

At the summary of the second phase of the 30-day challenge camp and the launching ceremony of the third phase, I specifically said to my friends: If you want to complete the 30-day challenge, you need to plan and prepare for emergencies. , reserve a psychological buffer zone!

For example, some friends plan to run every morning. I woke up late, what should I do? It rains that day, what should I do? I worked overtime and stayed up late the day before and had a hard time sleeping, what should I do? …These must be considered when making plans, and we can think clearly based on our own life experience.

In the event of an emergency, you can replace running with other exercises of comparable length or intensity. For example, practicing yoga before going to bed can help you sleep, such as walking home from get off work. You can also reserve a psychological buffer zone, such as allowing yourself to interrupt your plans for a day to make adjustments, so as not to fall into the emotions of self-blame and giving up.

There are always more solutions than problems. If you can persevere, you must also be flexible.

The most fearful thing is that the idea is perfect at the beginning, but it is interrupted when unexpected situations arise. Once interrupted, it enters a negative cycle of self-blame and giving up.

"Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face", this is the famous saying of boxing champion Tyson.

My understanding is that planning is good, but don’t be afraid of getting slapped in the face.

Those who give up as soon as they are slapped in the face will never become the king. Only those who can rationally analyze, identify problems and persevere after being slapped in the face can win the gold belt!