How to respond tactfully to women's compliments

Lead: You gave your friend a gift, and his friend was moved to tears, and his tears fell on the gift box. Then he opened the lid of the box, took out the gift wrapped in it, looked left and right, and then it turned sunny and cloudy. I tell you, this watch really doesn't suit me. Why don't you take it back? ......

You shouldn't have experienced this kind of thing, and you don't want to experience it. But do we accept others'? A gift? , but often do the same thing as that friend, this? A gift? Is it? Like? .

We are all eager for praise and willing to praise, but we often put our foot in our mouth as soon as we accept it. What I'm talking about here is not just accepting praise happily and gratefully, but how to reduce, refuse and shift the focus and value of praise through artistic language.

It is relatively easy to learn to accept compliments (although it takes some time to change the inherent behavior). You just need to know:

(1) How to turn praise into invisibility;

(2) Why do you feel a little overwhelmed when you receive compliments?

Why and how to accept and thank others' compliments gracefully.

9 ways to respond to praise Sociolinguists divide the feedback to praise into three types: acceptance, transfer and rejection. Most people will not feel uncomfortable under any circumstances, but it is impolite to refuse completely, and it is not modest to accept completely. So most people take the safer middle road, which one do they choose? Transfer? Ways to dilute and moderate praise.

1. ignore

Maybe the other person didn't hear it, or didn't realize that he was praised. The latter is a sign of low emotional intelligence.

Like:? Your performance in court today was great! ?

Response:? Yes, I'm really thirsty. Buy a bottle of beer on the way home. ?

deny

Like:? You sang beautifully tonight, didn't you?

Response:? Well, yes, I think the performance tonight is terrible, okay?

argue

Accept it in a tone that he doesn't deserve such praise.

Like:? What you said in class was really profound and insightful?

Response:? No, if you have seen relevant cases before, you can come to the same point of view and conclusion.

Step 4 belittle yourself

Keep a low profile and make self-deprecating comments.

Like:? Is your hat really fashionable?

Response:? Well, my idea is, if my hat looks good, won't I notice my ugliness?

Ask a rhetorical question

The praised person questions the praised person's judgment, aesthetics and so on.

Like:? Of these photos on display, yours is the best?

Response:? Are you kidding? You must go to the art museum less.

narrow the scope (of)

The recipient narrowed down the scope of widespread praise.

Like:? Are you really dressed up tonight?

Response:? What kind of suit looks good in this tie?

seek comfort (from sb)

Those who are praised have a guilty conscience and seek affirmation.

Like:? Your speech was really eloquent and won the audience?

Response:? Do you really think so? I feel like I'm trying to waste time, you know?

8. Negative value

The person who is praised simply doesn't deserve that kind of praise.

Like:? Is your sweater really nice?

Response:? Too corny. I've been wearing it since high school, okay?

9. Transfer

Pass the compliment on to others.

Like:? Is this the best dance I have ever seen?

Response:? Xiaoming is busy and does a lot, but he is a great hero?

Patterson gave the following reasons why praise should be transferred:

Afraid of being seen as conceited. This is the most common reason for transferring praise at present. They are worried that agreeing with others' compliments will be considered as bragging.

Need to rebuild? Balance? . Praise is a positive side. You may have a psychological need to find a negative thing to achieve balance, or praise each other in turn.

How to accept praise and abandon false modesty? Accepting compliments completely won't make you look conceited. Praise from others, not your own, you are just affirming others' judgment on yourself. It is better to go downhill than to deny choking.

Be proud of yourself. A little pride won't make you arrogant or damage your quality, but honestly accept everything you do. You can be modest, but still pleasant and elegant.

How to respond to compliments is simple. Say it honestly. Thank you? Good, simple and clear, but it will definitely work.

2 inches? Thank you? It will be more comfortable to say one more sentence later, and enlarge the meaning of this compliment to you. This is a slightly advanced game, as follows:

? I'm glad this method is so effective. ?

? It can't be so good without the help of so-and-so?

? I'm glad I could help.

Compared with rejecting others' compliments, it is undoubtedly very clever to agree and support each other's views.

? You did a good job tonight, too. Well done?

? Thank you for your attention. No one really noticed before?

The most important thing is that you should let your friends feel your emotions!

Do it boldly, praise others more, and accept praise tactfully in various ways.