My husband dated another woman on our wedding anniversary. Can I still have such a marriage?

I am 36 years old. I am married to my husband, who is nine years older than me and lives with my mother-in-law.

At that time, I was working in the county seat, which was an hour's drive from my hometown. This is a large textile factory. I work as a tailor in it. I often made mistakes from the beginning to becoming the leader of our group. I made a lot of efforts.

My husband is the workshop director of our textile mill, and he helped me as the team leader at that time.

Later, I often found snacks and milk tea in my workstation, and my colleagues around me were talking about it. After I asked them what happened, they said that my husband gave them all and occasionally brought them a copy.

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I began to pay attention to my husband. He just gave me a small gift secretly, and later he often invited me out to dinner. Originally, we had nothing to do. I was heckled by my colleagues, and I also thought of my husband.

So we naturally came together. After two years of love, I got pregnant. My husband was very excited at that time, so he proposed to me, and we got married.

Now that I think about it, I wasn't ready to get married at that time, and everything was disrupted by our sudden arrival of children.

My mother-in-law has been expressing her desire to have grandchildren since she knew I was pregnant, hoping that I would have a son. As a result, I gave birth to a daughter.

At that time, in the hospital, she didn't even look at me and my daughter, so she went home to sleep. Since then, she has been neither too cold nor too hot for me.

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What saddens me even more is that I recently found out that my husband often goes to nightclubs for one-night stands. The 9th of this month is our wedding anniversary. Instead of giving me a present, he secretly went on a date with someone else. I really can't accept it. I really want a divorce.

But our daughter is only in the fifth grade. Last night, I watched her cry silently. When she saw it, she hugged me with her soft little body, comforted me and wiped my tears. I can't be cruel when I think about my children. What should I do?

Reply:

Hello, I can understand your sadness and grievance.

Actually, that's it. Falling in love is between you two, and getting married is between your two families. The reason why your husband treats you like this is probably because your mother-in-law is dissatisfied because you have a daughter, thus causing trouble.

As a person in the old days, it is normal for your mother-in-law to have her old views, but her husband's practice is shameless.

Counselor Wei Qing suggests that you:

1. Face up to real life and protect your daughter. Maybe your husband and your mother-in-law don't like this child, but you must not vent your dissatisfaction with your husband and mother-in-law on the child.

Children are young and innocent, so you should give them more love.

It is inevitable to be sad in the face of her mother-in-law's cold attitude and her husband's betrayal, but you should cheer up. Mother-in-law is an elder, you don't have to care too much about her attitude towards you, just do what you should do; As for your husband, you should sit down and talk to him. Whether to vent dissatisfaction with marriage or deliberately betray marriage is very different in nature. The former can give him a chance to turn over a new leaf, while the latter involves his bad nature.

Your child is really young. It is a pity for her to lose her father or mother when she grows up.

If your husband is willing to correct, you can consider forgiving him, but you should keep growing, don't want to rely on anyone, and be independent. Even if you get divorced in the future, you can still have a way out and not be tied behind your back.

I wish you happiness.