Anxiety factors of stay-at-home mothers

Having been a full-time mother at home for two years, I have become a very anxious person. I was struggling at first, but now I feel that I am giving up on myself.

I'm talking about my anxiety about leaving my stay-at-home mother, my anxiety about the direction of my life, and my anxiety about not having any income. I am a woman who advocates economic independence. In this family, I can't take my husband's income for granted, and I can't spend it with confidence after taking on the mortgage. However, I resist doing WeChat business, which makes me so anxious and miserable.

When my mother is very hard, it is hard to do any work, even if it is a sideline, so when I have already taken on a heavy burden, I instinctively avoid taking on another one. However, this escape is really affecting my life and life. It makes me anxious, makes me deny myself and makes me miserable.

I sometimes think, since I can't find a source of income for the time being, I'll take some time to improve myself, so at least I won't feel that I have failed my time and I won't feel that I have been standing in the same place. But sometimes people are just so ridiculous. Do things with a purpose, learn more English and do foreign trade in the future? Do more research on parenting knowledge and children's psychology and engage in early education in the future? Learn financial management knowledge and switch to the financial industry in the future? Learn photography and become an independent photographer in the future? Wait ... these are all my interests, but I can't help but use "later" to take the bait. In this way, the difficulty is increased by more than one level. Originally, it was a very easy thing. In the end, because it was too heavy to do, my brain instinctively escaped, so I finally chose to open up the theory of Qi Yuan and spend this rare hour or two of my own easily.

In a word, I have been anxious about two things: no money and no career.

None of them are that easy to solve. Now I still have three years to worry about these two problems and live in pain, or three years to solve them. Yes, I am pregnant with a second child. Sometimes I even feel that I am avoiding having a second child and returning to the workplace. Because of anxiety, I am afraid to face it because I have never been ready.

The year 2020 is coming. By 2023, have I solved the anxiety of having no money and have my own income? Or can I solve the anxiety factor of not having a career and prepare to re-enter the workplace?

Are you a stay-at-home mom? Have you ever had such anxiety? How did you get out? I would appreciate it if you would like to share with me something similar to what you have experienced or are experiencing, so that I can learn something.