How come a child’s birthday party is more grand than a wedding?

When the child celebrates his birthday, he hopes that all his classmates will come to his home as guests. He timidly tells his mother that if he does not invite his classmates, he will laugh and say that he "cannot afford to celebrate his birthday."

It happened to be the May Day holiday, and it was at short notice, so many parents had to decline, but it was not easy to invite the two children and their mother. Unexpectedly, the mother was so embarrassed before the birthday party even started.

A little boy was holding a tall Transformer that could talk and emit lasers. The price was at least 3,000 yuan. The mother of another little girl brought organic fruit. A small box of strawberries cost more than 60 yuan. , and it’s still a big box! As for her family, she only prepared cakes and cheap Mickey pens that her son bought for his friends from Hong Kong Disneyland.

Other mothers were shocked by this mother's "sincerity" and asked politely, "Are you okay?" Is there nothing going on at home? Do you need our help? Why are we the only two here? Have you offended such-and-such parent in the class?

They told this mother that the first child in their class to have a birthday took all the children in the class to the equestrian club for a horse riding birthday party.

Since then, the "war" has escalated. For the second child’s birthday party, the parents hired a children’s theater to perform a fairy tale for the children; for the third child’s birthday party, they went to a five-star hotel and rented a huge inflatable castle; for the fourth child’s birthday party, I didn’t use my own villa, so I rented a single-family villa with a large lawn, and hired a public relations company to organize the venue, including clowns, hosts, dancers, and barbecue parties...

These mothers said, Some parents in the class will not celebrate birthdays in the class due to financial considerations, so the children who are invited to the birthday party come to the door with such expensive gifts.

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Yesterday the reporter interviewed some parents and listened to their true feelings when attending their children’s birthday parties.

The scene was too grand

Ms. Liu’s son is in primary school. She said that since her first grade, children in her class will treat her to birthdays every year, and the gifts become more expensive each time. From childhood erasers, to imported toothpaste and toothbrushes, and then to school bags.

“The most profound memory I have is when a child in the class celebrated his birthday. The parents specially hired a planning company to charter a car to transport more than ten children in the class and their parents to a hotel to arrange the venue. It was very much like a sorority party. This parent also specially customized many dresses that the children loved to wear. The occasion was very grand, which made us other parents feel very embarrassed at once, because we thought it was a simple birthday party, and everyone was so excited. I was a little embarrassed because I didn’t bring an extravagant gift.”

Ms. Liu said that the parent never invited other children in the class to celebrate his child’s birthday again.

A while ago, Ms. Liu saw a post on Moments posted by this parent, “It basically said that his daughter’s birthday was coming soon, because this parent had changed his ways to celebrate his children’s birthdays before, many times. I’ve had all kinds of birthdays, but I don’t know what to do this time. I’m worried about how to celebrate my child’s birthday.”

Ms. Zhou said that the kindergarten her son attended was “slightly better.”

“Many children in my class celebrate their birthdays in a very special way. There was a child in my son’s class who celebrated his birthday and invited many children and parents to the Kerry Center for a buffet.”

Ms. Zhou’s son is in senior class. Last year, for her son’s birthday, she booked a coffee shop and invited friends and their children to have dinner together.

Ms. Zhou said that there was a child who had a birthday, and almost all the children and parents in the class were invited. Everyone put the gifts together for a lottery. Some of them were very high-end gifts, and some of them had already been played with by the children. If you buy a car, parents must have some thoughts, and parents who get toys that have been used by others may also have a gap in their minds.

Birthday parties were originally meant to enhance friendship, but now they have changed.

Yesterday, a public primary school teacher said that she was also distressed. The first is that my son’s birthday is coming soon. Do you want to hold this party? The second is that the party in the class is getting stronger and stronger. How can we stop it?

Some children have birthday parties in five-star hotels, while others have birthday parties at home. Children will inevitably compare themselves with each other. It is really not a good thing to plant such a seed at such a young age.

There was a girl in my class who spent 500,000 to 600,000 yuan on a birthday party when she was in second grade. In a five-star hotel, we booked a huge box and hired a professional team, including makeup artists, pastry chefs, stylists, etc. The birthday girl changed into four or five sets of clothes that night, and each set was specially customized. A stage was also set up at the scene, because the birthday girl likes to dance, so he walked on the catwalk and danced.

More than a dozen children from the class were invited to participate that day. When they arrived, they signed in at the sign-in desk and each received a gift in return. The birthday boy greeted his friends, cut the cake, danced, and was followed by photographers throughout the evening.

"How should I put it? Maybe other people's weddings are not so grand, but this birthday party has a lot of procedures." The teacher said that birthday parties are particularly popular among children in the lower grades. It was originally meant to enhance friendship, but now it has changed.

“I was wondering if we could invite children to do charity together on their birthdays, such as donating a set of books to mountain schools for as many hiking trips as they have completed through some organizations? This would be a long way to celebrate. One year old, isn’t it better?”

What kind of birthday party would other parents feel comfortable attending?

May 12th is the 6th birthday of Ms. Ren’s son. She invited her son’s friends who grew up in the community to come to her home. She arranged the venue downstairs in the community and bought balloons, Ms. Ren arranged all the tableware herself, and she prepared all the cakes and meals at the birthday party by herself.

“This has become a tradition among our friends. The relationship between parents should be good so that everyone’s children can participate. Children’s birthdays do not need to be a big deal. Parents of other classmates in my son’s class, In fact, we are not very familiar with each other, but there will be nothing to talk about if we all get together, and everyone has different values ??and financial conditions, so it will be awkward, so we just buy a cake and share it with other children in the class. "

Ms. Yan’s son studies in a private primary school. He is very nervous about studying. His classmates rarely get together for their birthdays.

“Our son’s primary school attaches great importance to learning, and so do the parents, so the children will not go to class for their birthdays. Sometimes I will invite a few close friends to let the children get together. When we were together, we agreed not to give gifts, and if we did, we could only give books," Ms. Yan said.

Teachers have the responsibility to guide children and parents

“At this time, teachers’ professionalism and educational wisdom are needed. Especially in public kindergartens, teachers are more authoritative and have the responsibility to guide Children should also pay attention to guiding parents. Children are so young and have no concept of many material things. They should not develop a comparison mentality in kindergarten, and do not let parents' comparison mentality affect their children, said Kong Yiping, a kindergarten teacher with 27 years of experience. .

“Some parents’ conferences invite teachers, but I don’t recommend attending. If you attend one of these gatherings, do you have to attend all the other gatherings? Otherwise, what will other parents think? It’s difficult to grasp this level.”

In 27 years of teaching, Teacher Kong has only attended one student’s birthday party, “It was at KFC, many years ago.

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