What preparations do you need to make before getting engaged?

In view of the fact that many young people don't understand the status quo of engagement and marriage in Wenzhou (urban area), I would like to introduce them to you according to the preparations before engagement and the situation on the wedding day:

Engagement: 1: Both parents attended the banquet to discuss the engagement of both parties, mainly to set a yellow gift and the dowry of the man. The amount of the gift depends on the family conditions of both parties. If both parties are ordinary families,

(The average family here means that the annual income of both families is about 654.38 million RMB. The current standard is about 88888-654.38+008,000.

There must be a long time before the engagement date. During this time, we need to buy what two people need to get engaged. Start with what the man gave the woman and make a set of gold ornaments.

Including earrings, bracelets, anklets, necklaces, a pair of rings and a diamond ring (the price of a diamond ring is about 15000). In fact, you can also go to the gold jewelry store to buy loose diamonds and choose what you like.

There is a big difference between styles and prices, which can save about 35%. Note: The premise is to ask parents first. Some parents like to buy 24K pure gold, thinking that it can preserve the value. Young people don't like it

And a pair of sugar, gold and apricots. Wenzhou wedding candy has different sizes. The man is responsible for all the wedding candy that the woman needs, including the red envelope in the wedding candy, except some friends of the woman's parents, all of which are given by the woman herself.

At present, all 50- 100 red envelopes are distributed, depending on the conditions of both parties and the number of sweets. What the woman wants to buy is a suit, two shirts and two ties that the man will wear when he gets married and engaged.

Two pairs of shoes (one pair of casual shoes), two sets of casual clothes, a dozen socks, a gold bracelet and a necklace (if the red envelope for the best man is less than 580, you need to buy another shirt for the best man)

A set of dishes has 88 pieces, 98 pieces and 108 pieces to choose from, and can be purchased according to the situation. There are six kinds of oranges, cakes, dates, longan, lotus seeds and peanuts. Return one of the preserved apricots sent by the man to the man for collection.

The gift money is returned according to the economic situation. If the woman's condition is generally 88888, it will be returned to the man, ranging from 38888 to 58888. The rest of the money will be used to buy things for the man and buy them later.

The demand for a new house. If the woman's conditions are good, she will accept all the gifts and buy a car for the man.

3. Engagement Day: Wenzhou people now have two kinds of engagement parties. One is a banquet at the woman's house at noon, attended by the man's parents and best man, and the man invites the woman back at night. Alternative

That is, the parents of both parties hold a banquet with their close relatives and friends and get engaged at the hotel. Generally, there are more people who choose the latter in urban areas. In the afternoon, the man drove to the woman's house to see her and her parents, and gave

The suitcase money of the woman's brother or sister (suitcase money refers to the explanation of the older generation that the woman's brother or sister refuses to let her get married and leave with the suitcase, and he will only let people go if you give him money. )

The suitcase cost is about 5800- 10800. After arriving at the hotel, give tea to both parents and toast to friends and relatives to witness your love. Drink ~ ~ ~)

Marriage: 1: After the wedding date is fixed, we will start to book hotel banquets. Now Wenzhou seems to book a banquet one year in advance. Oh, my God, everyone gets married on a good day. Then you must first

Let's settle down, the house price is too expensive, and it doesn't matter here. About 130 square meters about10 million RMB. Of course, the man is responsible for buying a house and decorating it. It will take at least 2 months to decorate the room.

All the furniture in the room is worn by women except what the man bought, which is a big expense, not to mention electrical appliances, even kitchen and bedding.

This is a big expense.

2. Choose a good time for two people to take wedding photos, and the weather is good. Generally, photo studios are now fighting a price war, with similar technology and strength, but they will never care about it once in their lives.

Some money, just be careful not to look at this feeling good, the more you choose, the more you spend. Generally, it is worthwhile to take pictures at 4000-5000.

With photos, almost everything will be fine. Please get married in advance, wait for the wedding with peace of mind, and contact for photos, car rental and fireworks on the wedding day, but these have nothing to do with now.

Etiquette companies are all over the street. As for personal preferences, please don't ask the host. I always think that you have too many parties, and the emcee will be busy for half a day until evening 12, so forget it. If you wait, others will wait.

I can't.

The night before the wedding, the bride only needs a facial treatment and exfoliation. You don't have to get up so early on your wedding day. Now the beautician comes straight to the door at 9 o'clock to get a hair done.

Nail and eat. After this lunch at noon, the next meal is the next day's lunch. Here, I want to remind you that you still have to eat enough, hehe. . . Then after one o'clock, the makeup artist went home and put on the wedding dress.

It takes more than an hour to put on a shawl, make up and do a hairstyle. Here I want to remind you that you should pay attention to inform the makeup artist in advance what color and style your wedding dress is, so that she can know it easily.

Prepare headdresses of the same color and style. The man is almost the same, and there is no trouble for the woman. At 4 o'clock, the groom and the best man will leave for the woman's house to pick up the bride. When they arrived at the bride's house,

The bridesmaids will come up with some tricks to embarrass the groom. In the end, of course, they will open the door after the red envelope is fixed (the red envelope is probably in 28 yuan, and there are nine bridesmaids here in Wenzhou, and the bride is just a table), and then there are nine bridesmaids.

Add all the relatives of the bride to the new house with a car. Get off here, Wenzhou is renting a car, so you must pay the cigarettes, otherwise some bad drivers will drive fast and slow on purpose, so

If you don't team up, the video won't look good. Then, when you arrive at the new house, make a video of offering tea and glutinous rice balls. When you pay a New Year call, you must remember the order of your elders, or you will be gossiped.

Next, another bus will drive to the hotel, then the lion dance, and then the red envelope (the red envelope is also 28). Next, some groomsmen will spray the couple and bridesmaids with that spray.

The bride is advised to put down her veil, and the bridesmaid is advised to prepare an old dress with a hat and put it on before going in, hehe. The last level is of course a toast. This is of course the most important thing.

It varies from person to person, and everyone plays their own role, so it's not necessary here. It should also be noted that the bride in the middle needs to change her wedding dress and hairstyle. It should also be noted that in Wenzhou, the man now gives the woman four tables of banquets including red envelopes.

The extra banquet is the woman's own care, and the red envelope is of course the cost accounting for parents to marry a Wenzhou wife. According to online statistical methods, let's also estimate how much it costs to marry a Wenzhou wife with a high school education or above (college degree or above, good figure and stable job).

1. A house (100 square meters, urban area), with an average price of 8,000 yuan, 8,000×100 = 800,000. 50% down payment and 400,000 yuan loan from the bank. If a loan with a term of 20 years can be obtained, the monthly repayment will be 2648.67 yuan according to the current preferential annual interest rate of housing commercial loans.

2. Decoration, with medium decoration, 100 m2,150,000 m2.

3. Household appliances and furniture, totaling 70,000 yuan (some women contribute in the form of dowry).

4. Cars, based on ordinary scooters, 1.4 million. At present, most newly-married families in Wenzhou are funded by women. )

5. Holding a wedding banquet, taking 25 tables in a medium-sized hotel as an example, including wine, cigarettes and sugar, is 1, 200× 25 = 30,000. The average amount of red envelopes recovered per table is 1.200 yuan,1.200× 25 = 30,000, which makes it impossible to make ends meet.

6. The main destinations for honeymoon are Hong Kong, Macao, Xinmatai, Yunnan and Hainan, and the per capita spending is 8,000 yuan, 8,000× 2 =1.6 million.

7. The period from falling in love to deciding to get married includes

Go out to eat, buy gifts, have fun, travel, give holiday gifts to my girlfriend's parents and so on. Based on an average of 65,438+0,000 yuan per month for two years, the total is 65,438+0,000× 65,438+0.2× 2 = 24,000.

To sum up, the total cost is 40+15+7+1.6+2.4 = 660,000.

Taking the man's family property of 200,000 yuan and the man's annual income of 50,000 yuan as an example, the disposable surplus is 40,000 yuan, (66-20)/4 = about 10 year. After marriage, the husband and wife work together and pay back more than 2,000 yuan of mortgage a month. The pressure should not be great.

The final conclusion is that a 23-year-old man who graduated from college can marry an upper-middle-class Wenzhou wife before the age of 33 (which is acceptable for men). If the family conditions are ok, he can consider getting married early. So don't worry, brothers. Try hard.