When a girl chats with her boyfriend, what do they talk about? ?

The solution to those who don’t know what to talk about with women - the method of connecting words in blocks

Come true:

Hello, I have fallen in love with a big guy now. Four girls, we were good friends in the early stage, but now we have entered the stage of building trust. I am very confused. We can’t find topics to talk about. We always talk to each other. It seems that the relationship cannot continue to develop. Can you help? Me? gratitude! ! !

Recently, I have received many letters similar to the above, asking how to continue chatting with women. I will not answer those letters one by one, but I will answer them together here.

Many of our brothers don’t know what to say when they are with a woman, especially a woman they like. My mind is full of thoughts about what to say, but I still can't say anything that satisfies me. The atmosphere suddenly felt awkward. I started to feel a little anxious. The more anxious I became, the less I knew what to say. This feeling is very uncomfortable. Like you, I've had it many times before. But don't blame yourself for being so useless. Because we all know that once we return to the familiar buddies and brothers, we will be

again, and we will not have this problem of being speechless at all.

But why do so many

people not know what to talk about when talking to the girl they like? Why can't I talk to my brother as easily as I do?

The simple superficial reason is that we care too much about what this girl thinks of you. In front of this woman, I became very careful about my words and deeds, thinking about what I should say and what I should say to make her like me. This is a sign of caring too much about the results. Then some people don't understand and will ask, "I like this woman, of course I care about the outcome of the conversation with her, and of course I care about whether she likes me." How is it possible not to care?

When I say I don’t care, I mean I don’t care emotionally. For example, you like a girl. Of course, if you can attract her and make her like you, you will feel happy, but if you fail to attract her and make her like you, you will feel sad. If you think about it carefully, you have given the power to determine your mood to others. Every move of others, the glance they look at you, and their failure to text you back can all determine your mood. This is definitely not a characteristic of a charismatic man who attracts women. A man who can be manipulated by others is not a man who attracts women. We all know this from life experience.

Women are naturally sensitive to detecting such men. Women do have something called

, which most men don’t have and have never known. But this

can be cultivated and learned. We will talk about this later.

Here, what I want to say is that if you care too much about the results and are emotionally involved when talking to a woman, it means that the woman will realize that if her words and deeds can affect your mood, then she will Attraction to you, even if it existed before, will plummet. Because, for women, this is a sign that you can be manipulated by others. Women detect this signal unconsciously and automatically. This is a natural ability of women.

However, for many of our brothers, it is easy to say that we don’t care about talking to women, but it becomes difficult when we see that beautiful woman. I understand very well. I've experienced this too. Even though I have this knowledge consciously, I just can't do it in practice and can't control myself. In the end, I still didn’t know what I was talking about with her. After long-term teaching and practical research, I found a method that can solve this problem very well.

For now, I will call this method Chuanqing.

There are two types of words, one is shallow level and the other is deep level. The shallow level is easier to learn and is very suitable for beginners. When chatting with women and you don’t know what to say next, this shallow level keyword technique is very useful. But those veterans who are already doing it, they should have been doing this unconsciously, because after all, this is a very simple normal conversation and exchange; at a deeper level, it seems very simple but involves the emotions of the other party. Control is very powerful and should not be used indiscriminately without knowing the consequences. Only socially responsible people with a relatively mature mind can use it after you have accumulated considerable experience in social conversation, have a deeper understanding of people, and are mentally mature. Otherwise, it will be fun and powerful at first, but it will be sure

later and will never be a joke.

The levels of conversation building relationships and emotions are divided into 4 levels. 1 to 3 are shallow level words. Level 4 is a deep-level conversational connection.

1． Simply agree or sigh. This is the last sentence said by most of our brothers who don’t know what to talk about next, and we don’t know what to say after that. For example,

The woman said, "I am so tired from class/work today."

The man said, "Really, take a good rest."

In this case, if the woman doesn’t speak, the man won’t know what to say next. After saying, "Yeah, let's take a good rest." The man began to think about what to say next. However, this sentence "Really, take a good rest." is a very normal conversation and will also increase the relationship a little bit. But start learning the next level of conversation.

2. Keyword Tips. The second level is to grasp a certain keyword in speaking to the Fa, and then talk about yourself or others based on this keyword. This conversation goes one step further than the first level.

For example,

The woman said: "I am so tired from class/work today." (The key words here can be, I am so tired from work/class, you can do whatever you want. Choose one, or both.)

The man said: "Really, it's like I didn't go to work today." (Seize "work" as the keyword, you can also use "class", and then Tell me something about your work. Women, including you, will also be curious. After you say this, you will leave the other party with many questions and ask you questions)

The woman asked: "You. How can going to work be like not going to work?”

The man said: “(You can just tell me something about you going to work) I went to a meeting this morning

< p>, I ate at a restaurant over there. I didn’t get to the office until 4 p.m. and got off work at 5 p.m.” (This simple little story about you created a lot of questions for women, such as. , what

, what school,

are you going to eat

and so on? Women will be more likely to ask you this at the same time. The chat continues. At the same time, note that here women are asking men questions, which means that women are interested in what the men say. If they ask too many questions, they are interested in the man, because what the man says is what the woman is interested in. Only then can I ask.)

The woman asked: "What school are you still attending?"

The man continued...

Of course, if there is an abnormal situation and the woman does not ask, at this time, based on the above conversation, there are many open topics that can be picked up again. For example, a man can ask, "Did you be lazy yesterday, so you have to do more at work today?" Or a man can continue the topic he mentioned above and continue talking about the intern, etc.

To give you an example of keywords,

Woman: This coffee is not very tasty. (Keywords: coffee, not delicious)

Man: (Use the coffee keyword) This coffee does not boil for enough time. It is about 5 minutes behind. If it is boiled for 5 more minutes, it will be Top quality.

(After saying this, the woman is left with room for questions: Do you know a lot about coffee? How do you know it? Why do you know it? Why do you think it will be top quality if you bake it for 5 more minutes? etc. . After you answer any question, she will give you more questions.

There will be no topics to talk about.)

You can also use tasteless as a keyword. The man said: Have you ever drank a drink called Hongle? The worst drink I've ever had.

(After saying this, the woman is left with space for questions: What is Hongle? What does it taste like? Where did you drink it? Why did you drink it? Why have I never drank it myself? )

Here I give you something: I made up the Hongle drink myself. I used to joke about this with women, saying, this is a

The island is called Niguala, and its original name is viva de cheeva. My friends and I call it red music because it tastes like low-quality Coke with flat air.

This is the keyword technique. To put it simply, take out a key word in the other party's words, and talk about yourself or something else around this key word, a sentence, a question, etc. In the training class, I ask students to do a lot of various exercises to practice this keyword technique to speed up their mastery of this technique. For those of you who haven’t practiced yet, just take every opportunity you have to talk to others to practice this skill, especially beautiful women. There is nothing wrong with this technique, it just means continuous practice after understanding and mastering it.

3． Chunks

Techniques. That's it

Man: Besides dancing, what else do you like?

Woman: I am very interested in photography.

Man: Really. Like Lebowitz or something like that or more like Mancat or something? (This is the use of the block

technique)

Woman: Oh, more like Mancat or something! (The woman felt she had found a soulmate and expressed excitement. The two found the right person and started chatting on the same topic.)

Talk blocks

The technique is to focus on one topic. Drop a little "color" to let the other person feel that you have the same topics, interests, etc. Having the same topics, having the same interests and hobbies equals an intimate upgrade in the relationship. The conversation block is a channel for deepening and upgrading the relationship.

Let’s continue to read... We will continue to deepen and expand the scope of the above conversation.

Man: Interesting.

Have you ever heard the saying that a picture is worth a thousand words?

Woman: I’ve heard of it!

Man: Maybe it’s just me, but I think a photo is equal to a thousand feelings. When I look at a painting or a photo, what usually impresses me the most is that the photo can The feeling it gives me. Reminds me that they had to use a camera to capture this scene, because there are no words to express the feeling that this scene is trying to convey...

Woman: Wow! ...

This conversation goes deeper than keywords and involves the communication of feelings and emotions. This is the deep-level method of connecting words and phrases that we will talk about below. There is a lot to talk about this topic, so I will stop here today, and I will continue writing tomorrow or the day after tomorrow.

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