Reading Happy Life lets us embrace life and not be afraid of the future.

No one's life is smooth sailing. Many troubles are caused by thinking too much and doing too little. They are really not worth worrying about. Even if you accidentally make an unsatisfactory choice, there is still a long way to go in life. You can adjust your direction and run towards new goals. In the face of major choices in life, I think the two most important points are to clarify the selection criteria and actively put them into action.

When you can't see the direction clearly, you might as well start from the end, imagine yourself before you die, take out a pen and paper, and spend a few minutes imagining that you have reached the end of your life, wandering before you die. Looking back, please complete the following sentences:

What do you spend too much time worrying about in your life?

What has culture spent too much time doing in this life?

What would I look like if I could go back in time?

Seriously thinking about these problems can help you shield the noise of customer service and create your own difficulties. By examining the current choices, we can see which ones are made under external pressure such as the eyes of people around us, and which ones really care about, so as to make more correct decisions, so that we can have no regrets and live up to your choices.

Listen to your heart.

Many people think that listening to their inner voice is a religious expression, and only religious people have this kind of psychological experience, or a beautiful phrase, a metaphor and symbol. However, the study of positive psychology finds that listening to the inner voice is actually an active lifestyle. How to listen to the inner call?

First of all, find enthusiasm and find something that excites you. Think about what to do in this world, when and where. It will make you feel full of energy. Is there anything that will interest you? What moved you? Is there anything you love? What do you want to do most in your rest or free time? What you love to do, what you are most willing to spend time doing, may be your inner call. Anything that can make us have the best positive psychological experience in the world will make us realize the meaning of life. He may be our inner call.

Secondly, create value and do what others can't do. When Mr. Peng Kaiping received 65,438+05 offers of university teachers, he finally chose to go to the University of California, Berkeley. I chose to go to Berkeley because Professor Chang-lin Tian, then the president of Berkeley, was the first Chinese president in the history of the University of California, Berkeley, and Mr. Peng Kaiping was the first Chinese psychologist in the history of Berkeley. He thinks this meaning is very important.

Finally, find belonging and give back to the society with happiness. When we do something, if we can feel the support, care and reward of the society and the envy, admiration and appreciation of the people around us, we will sincerely feel proud, proud and sacred, contribute to the people, the country and the society, lend a helping hand to others, and also wash our hearts, making us enthusiastic, positive, more confident and satisfied. I think this is the kind of integration of personal value and social value.

Looking for the joy of work.

I hope the effect is not just a bowl of chicken soup.

In this era of mourning, positive psychology has prescribed a prescription-"sense of hope". Hope is not "chicken soup for the soul", but a dynamic cognitive dynamic system. People with a strong sense of hope are not only determined, but also clear-cut. Their thinking is also more divergent and they are more responsible for their work. And there is a more detailed analysis of everyone's ideas. People with a strong sense of hope are usually more positive and optimistic.

So how to cultivate a sense of hope at work?

The first step is to cultivate goal-oriented thinking. Set clear goals for yourself. It is best to achieve those goals that can be achieved, but not so easy to achieve.

The second step is to implement behavior changes. During the lunch break at work, you need to fully relax. Lunch and the next half an hour to an hour are your rare private time. Don't order takeout, and don't chew hamburgers while eating. It's best to leave your desk decisively, relax and charge for the afternoon.

Make good use of leisure: the correct way of leisure.

Many people complain about hard work and have been looking forward to the moment when they come home from work during the day. However, the leisure they finally waited for was inadvertently sent away while watching TV, brushing their mobile phones and playing games. Even for this reason, staying up late made me more tired when I went to work the next day. Incorrect leisure methods can't help us save energy, but it is an overdraft, which will damage our health in the long run. Let us become more passive in our work. If we can live in the present and feel meaning and happiness in our work by keeping our minds focused, then making good use of leisure can only make this pleasant feeling flow and last. Mr Peng Kaiping gave several suggestions.

First, cultivate at least one hobby. When people do what they love, they are more likely to immerse themselves in it, and they can often experience this kind of happiness. For example, people who like photography, in order to shoot satisfactory works, are still tireless even if they have to cross mountains and mountains, travel across mountains and rivers, and have a picnic. People who like music enjoy the rhythm and rhythm of music, but also enjoy the feelings conveyed by music.

Taking time off from work and taking part in hobbies can not only make us experience blessings faster, but also help our brains "switch channels" and forget the troubles at work.

Secondly, take a picture of a quiet place for the soul. Each of us should create an independent space for ourselves, that is, a quiet and comfortable room, perhaps an undisturbed time, so that we can be alone with ourselves and restore happiness and peace of mind.

Third, be close to nature. We will feel tired after working for a long time. At this time, we will have a look in the outdoor natural environment or take a walk. Even if we do nothing, we will feel refreshed. "I think Qingshan is full of flattery, and Qingshan should look at me like this." Out of the study, out of the house, into nature, happiness may be just around the corner.

Finally, take an active part in physical exercise. Exercise can enhance people's happiness and inner vitality, and make people experience a kind of heartfelt passion and vitality.

Many people may say, I also want to take part in physical exercise, but I am very busy at work every day and have to take care of my family after work. I really have no time. You can combine sports with daily life, for example, you can do this:

Reduce the number of commuting by car and try to ride or walk.

If you are not in a hurry, try to climb the stairs instead of taking the elevator.

Prepare a pair of comfortable shoes and a skipping rope in the office, go for a walk during lunch break, and find a clearing to skip rope when you are sleepy in the afternoon.

Change the working environment and revitalize the workplace.

Many companies will set up a gym coffee room or a bathroom chat room in the office area, where employees can exercise when they are tired, or want to chat with colleagues, with fruits, drinks and snacks. These investments seem to increase time and economic costs, but they are actually well spent. From the perspective of management, it is very important to create a relaxed, positive and peaceful environment in the workplace. On the premise that employees can ensure the completion of tasks, improving the working environment can make everyone recover quickly and improve work efficiency.

Optimize the working mode and release the pressure quickly.

Dr. Geba recommends a simple and effective method, that is, to slow down breathing to 4-6 times per minute at work to balance the stress response system of the body, which will make the body feel calm and increased, and improve the degree of clear attention and concentration.

Life is not static, and the workplace is full of uncertainty. On the one hand, the times are developing rapidly, and the "iron rice bowl" and "golden rice bowl" in people's eyes have long since ceased to exist. We need to learn to expand the boundaries of our abilities with the thinking of lifelong growth. On the other hand, even in the same job, we have to face many uncontrollable factors every day, such as the flight delay caused by the weather, so we missed an important customer meeting, or the internal process changes of the company led to the re-approval of the project, which will make us feel anxious when we are caught off guard.

Every stage of life has different difficulties and pressures. If we are more optimistic about the future, actively embrace rather than refuse to change, and strive to cultivate the ability to keep pace with the times, maybe we will not be stuck in the same place feeling sorry for ourselves. Maybe we should meet, adapt and create changes like water.

What we should do more is to focus on the present. There is an interesting saying: if you want to make your heart as big as the sky, then when you encounter something bad, you are not indifferent, but your heart is as big as the universe, which includes the awareness of everything in life. When you think like this, other people's negative words are like clouds floating across the sky, and you won't be disturbed. And some people's hearts are like a sponge. What everyone says to them will be absorbed. Finally, their hearts will become wet and heavy, and it will be difficult to do what they want. Because they are completely immersed in other people's thoughts and feelings, you need to spend a long time practicing to make your heart as big as the sky, not a sponge egg, which is very worthwhile.

Therefore, please embrace change more actively and accept the challenges of the future with the thinking mode of lifelong growth.