How to make your heart stronger?

01. Keep smiling and learn to accept.

Keeping a smile is a manifestation of optimism and a philosophy of life. It is the ability to maintain a positive spirit from deep down in good times or bad times. This is a philosophy of life full of positive energy. Keep smiling and welcome the rising sun every day with an optimistic attitude, so that you can live a happy and fulfilling life in ordinary days. If a person wants to become mentally strong, he must learn to accept it. Accept the impermanence of the world, accept the changes, accept parting ways, accept hardships, accept the past and the present... Regardless of good or bad, everything you experience is the gift of life, and they constitute the unique you! Therefore, we must strive to accept ourselves, our imperfections and limitations. Keep an empty cup mentality, always improve yourself, and change the status quo and yourself. Only by keeping a smile and learning to accept, can you remain calm and calm no matter who or what happens.

02. Think independently and listen to your heart.

What does it mean to not have the ability to think independently? Means no power and no thought! If a person has no independent opinion and relies on others for everything, he will be easily controlled by others, or he will look down on others' faces, or he will always be surrounded by gossips, and he will not be able to gain confidence and happiness. If you rely on others easily, this dependence will become your habit, and it is also a weak cultural thinking. When separation comes, you will not only lose a person, but also your spiritual support. Most of those outstanding people are good at independent thinking. They see farther and think deeper; they work hard to control their emotions and keep themselves calm; they know better about respecting laws, respecting human nature, and thinking from others' perspective; they know their own life Whatever you are pursuing, it will be easier to achieve those goals. Everyone is one-sided and it is impossible to see the whole picture of the matter. Others' opinions and suggestions may make it easier for us to see the truth of the matter. When you can accept different viewpoints and even allow positive and negative viewpoints to exist in your heart, you will become very calm inside. Therefore, no matter when and where you are, you must listen to your inner thoughts. Only by listening to your inner voice can you find your true self. Set goals, make plans, and make your own decisions. Only by relying on yourself to solve problems can you control your life.

03. Focus on growth and face difficulties.

Growth is an unavoidable topic in life for everyone. The difference is that some people's "growth" is just self-impression. I wanted to take the postgraduate entrance examination and continue my studies, but after I set a flag in my circle of friends, the buzz was gone; I wanted to learn photography, but I bought a bunch of high-priced equipment and took photos for two days before giving up; I wanted to work part-time as a self-media writer, and I posted two pictures After the article, there was no action... It looked like hard work, but in fact there was no result. This was an ineffective effort, just self-motivation. Life is a gradual process, and it requires continuous accumulation to achieve a qualitative leap. If you want to have a strong heart, you must get through those lonely and enterprising days. Of course, it is human nature to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. When faced with difficulties and setbacks, most of us choose to escape. However, simply escaping cannot solve the problem. Only by facing the difficulties head-on can we find the solution. Don't take yourself too lightly, don't take difficulties too seriously. Whose life is without ups and downs? Most of the time we are not defeated by the problem itself, but defeated by ourselves. In fact, the starting point of a strong heart is to understand that you can only rely on yourself for everything and know how to face difficulties. You know, there are always more solutions than problems. When your mind becomes stronger, difficulties become weaker.

04. Be bearish on gains and losses and face them calmly. In life, it is better to be bearish than to see through. There is no need to deliberately pursue things that do not belong to you, and there is no need to blindly worry about gains and losses. In our life, there is no turning back, and no one can do it again. People who worry about gains and losses will not have a calm and open mind, a calm and calm state of mind, and will not have the courage to persevere. I don’t know if you have heard of a law: the Dark Effect. In short: some people are immersed in the illusion and superiority created by self-perception bias. They often overestimate their abilities and are unable to objectively evaluate others. However, these people usually have poor abilities. At work, such people abound. When everyone works hard to complete a project, there will always be some people who exaggerate their efforts, thinking that they are the soul of the team, contribute the most, and deserve more rewards; if there is a problem with the project, they will rush to blame it and complain about the incompetence of their colleagues. , try every means to excuse your ignorance. They are more likely to lament the unfairness of their fate, lament that they were born at the wrong time, and lament that their talents were not met... No matter when and where they are, those who can calm down, examine themselves, accept themselves, and reasonably judge the division of labor and gains and losses are the ones who are truly strong and powerful in their hearts. Abundance. Life is a long road, who has never been unhappy? It is a positive heart that separates disappointment and hope.

05. Learn to cherish and live in the present. Liang Qiushi said: Time is life. No one does not cherish his own life, but few people value his time. Cherish your time, cherish your life, cherish everything you have; cherish everyone who cares about you, cherish the people who have helped you, don't take it for granted. There are no ravines in life that cannot be overcome, but there are no eternal beautiful moments. Live a life of peace and contentment with a willing attitude. No matter where fate throws us, we can always take root and stand tall. Living in the moment is happiness.

May you compete with the world for many years and still remain fresh; may you still love life despite suffering.

The rest of our lives are long. May we strive to become mentally strong people, have a broad mind and enough confidence to face life, constantly improve ourselves, and shine.