How to control your emotions

How to control your emotions, Mickey Conley

A person with stable emotions must also be a person with good popularity, happiness and achievements. If you indulge or encourage bad emotions, the final result will be to hurt yourself, others, be sad and hurt your health. ? But people's mood swings are like puzzles, which are difficult to predict and even more difficult to solve.

1. Emotional equation.

Emotion equals life. The relationship between your emotions can help you better understand yourself, your life and your relationship with others. There are eight basic emotions: happiness, disappointment, anger, sadness, disgust, surprise, fear and trust. In order to break the habitual reaction, we need to recognize the information conveyed by emotions and treat emotions as information that allows you to choose freely, so we take defensive measures against fear, learn from regret and release sadness.

Two. Deal with difficult times.

Suffering is equal to resisting suffering. When you resist in your heart, pain arises. When we notice that entertainment has nothing to do with pain and suffering, our pain is alleviated; Disappointed hope reduces reality. The higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment. Either reduce hope or change reality; Anxiety equals uncertainty plus powerlessness. Most of the potential factors of anxiety come from your expectation of things or experiences that have not happened yet. We tend to overestimate the perceived danger and underestimate our ability to cope with the future.

3. Get the maximum return from your work.

Flow is a state of concentration and relaxation, and there are no other impurities in consciousness. It is a pleasant state of self-realization and otherness. Reaching a flow state at work means that you put all your emotions into an activity, which will enable you to achieve your best performance. There will be a flow of heart at any time in your life.

Fourth, who are you?

In life, you will find that the more you suppress your sad emotions, the harder it is to have other positive emotions. And a strong and independent social mask will stifle communication with others.

5. Find satisfaction.

Happy people pay more attention to "comfortable life" than a better life. Cultivating a grateful heart and keeping a diary for something worthy of gratitude will make you more aware that precious things in life can bring you more happiness.

6. Do it yourself.

Let's use the logic of emotional equation to understand ourselves and the world more clearly.