No savings, no love, no socializing: South Korea disappeared at the wedding after 90.

"Once you have a child, the child will become the most important thing in your life, and work will rank second.

Can you still work hard at that time? "

Choi Moon-jeong is a tax accountant living in the suburb of Seoul, South Korea.

She said that after telling her boss that she was pregnant, the boss always mentioned the previous problems repeatedly.

Wen Zhen almost miscarried because of the boss's yelling.

Fortunately, the child was saved, and she returned to work, but fell into a depressed atmosphere:

"He is forcing me to give up my job."

Wen Zheng, who is struggling, also found that many young people around him are prepared to live a personal life for various reasons.

They know love best. They don't love, marry or have children.

"Please get married in the same place!"

Young people in China who can't eat good candy in domestic dramas can't count how many Korean dramas CP have called this sentence.

Probably no one is better at depicting beautiful love than Koreans.

But under the surface, it is a cruel reality.

Without the classification of "post-90s" and "post-90s", young Koreans call themselves "three generations":

No love, no marriage, no children.

This concept has even spawned "five generations to one generation" and "n generations to one generation".

As for the "abandoned" objects, including but not limited to: managing interpersonal relationships, buying houses, dreams and hopes. ...

According to The Economist, 40% of young people aged 20-39 in South Korea have almost completely given up dating.

For Koreans aged 20-29, the unmarried rate is 9 1.3%.

From 1990 to 20 17, the first marriage age of Chinese women increased from 2 1.4 to 25.7. In 20 17 years, the average age of first marriage of Korean women has reached 30. 1 year.

What happened to them?

Some Korean media invited three men, three women and six young people to have a small discussion on the topic of marriage and love.

The 27-year-old Luo company employee hit the nail on the head and said everyone's pain points:

Overtime makes people have no time to fall in love.

Feelings need time to cultivate, and romance also takes up people's time and energy.

"I want to talk about it, but I never have time," she said.

Another girl said that she hoped to settle down before falling in love.

"Love can wait for a while, first of all, be independent."

They firmly believe that they should "rely on themselves without their husbands" and be financially independent in order to increase their sense of security for their future marriage.

There are also some women who pursue "independence" more thoroughly.

Jin Xianjing, 27, sometimes questioned the necessity of marriage.

"In modern society, marriage seems to be a compulsory course for women by default."

The implication is that women should have the right to decide whether to get married or not.

The girls have expressed their views, and the boys who have been silent have spoken:

"All I can think about now is whether the money in my life can buy a house."

Busy, lonely and embarrassed have become the three daggers to kill the love of Korean youth.

Life is still going on, so the "single economy" came into being in Korea.

A restaurant, a bar, a karaoke. ...

Because there are too many guests who come to eat noodles alone, the noodle restaurant has changed the original square table into a long table, and people sit side by side to avoid eye contact;

There is even a partition between the seats to further ensure privacy and reduce embarrassment.

A little boy who likes karaoke said:

"The feeling of being self-centered and doing whatever you want, rather than always listening to outside opinions, may be what singles pursue and want."

There is no room for another person in your own life, let alone a new life.

In 20 17, the natural population growth rate of Korea ranked 163 among all countries and regions in the world. (Natural population growth rate = birth rate-death rate)

People are increasingly worried about the aging and population decline in South Korea.

Once the population growth rate slows down sharply, various problems will come quietly.

In an aging society, the economy lacks vitality, which makes it difficult to stimulate consumption ... and then falls into a vicious circle.

Gradually, getting married and having children has become the "luxury" of this generation.

It's not that young Koreans simply don't want to get married and have children, but that conditions are not allowed.

A life that "generation n" can't afford.

At the end of the 20th century, South Korea's economy transformed and achieved rapid development.

The good times didn't last long. In the international financial crisis in 2008, the Korean economy fell into a sustained downturn.

Many industries have set off a "wave of layoffs" to reduce labor costs.

It never rains but it pours.

During the economic boom in South Korea, the fertility rate suddenly increased, and these children just reached the age of employment.

So there are fewer job opportunities in recent years, but there are more and more college graduates.

One more and one less, the proportion of graduates who can't find a job has soared.

Aunt Cui, 60, is a cleaner. Her son is over 30 years old and still hasn't found a suitable job.

In order to support her son, she had to find some domestic work to supplement her family.

My mother is over 60 years old and in poor health, so it is difficult to do cleaning work.

My son is very strong, but he has high expectations for his job and refuses to give in to a job like a cleaner.

Since their son graduated, their mother-child relationship has been very "distorted":

The mother blamed her son for being old, but she was helpless;

The son raised by the old mother is ashamed and unable to change.

Due to employment difficulties, nearly 60% of Korean college students dropped out of school or postponed graduation, which extended the "buffer time" at school.

The survey found that in the last semester of 20 17, there were 103 4-year universities in Korea that implemented the graduation postponement system, involving about 13000 students.

The Ministry of Planning and Finance of Korea predicts that if the employment environment cannot be changed, there will be10.3 million young unemployed by 202 1 year.

Other "lucky" people who passed the rigorous interview of deuex found with regret that they probably got only a "contract job".

Unlike regular workers, contract workers often have lower wages, no social security benefits and are extremely unstable.

Huang Zhu Min, a 26-year-old TV screenwriter, is a "contract worker".

Seven days a week, she lives in the office for four days.

Go to work with a suitcase on Monday morning and leave on Thursday night.

She eats and bathes in the office and sleeps on a bunk bed in the office.

"Get off work early at 9 pm."

Her salary is very unstable, and she follows her performance completely.

If the program is cut, you won't get a penny.

The consequence of not signing the contract is that when she goes to bed every night, she wakes up the next day without knowing whether she still has a job.

She said, "If you are rich enough, this is a good place to live. But if you don't ... "

In order to get money quickly, many unemployed young people in South Korea turned their attention to virtual currency.

Earn hard or pay hard.

27-year-old Jin Jiyuan once bought and sold a lot of digital currency and made a fortune. I plan to buy a house and buy a luxury car.

But any investment is always risky.

Later, all the money he earned was gone.

"People call it gambling. I think this is unfair, but it makes sense. "

Thanks to these unemployed young people, South Korea is still the third largest virtual currency market after the United States and Japan.

In despair, under overwhelming pressure, they frantically searched for traces of hope.

Try to be an ordinary person.

Yu Xiuzhen, 26, is a graphic designer. In order to talk about the project, she often goes to social parties.

On one occasion, she drank from 7: 00 p.m. until midnight 1.

Going home drunk, it is early morning after washing.

I couldn't sleep for long, but I was awakened by the alarm clock before I woke up, and I got up with a headache and went to work.

Overtime culture is prevalent in Korea.

According to the OECD survey, in 20 17, Koreans worked an average of 2024 hours a year, exceeding the 300 hours in Japan, which is famous for its "karoshi".

Even though the working hours per capita in South Korea are 200 hours shorter than that of 10 years ago, it is still the longest among the 35 member countries in the survey.

The Korean Broadcasting Workers' Union received such a complaint:

There is a TV station employee who works from 7 am to 3 am the next day.

After getting off work at 3 am, I was asked to go back to work at 7 am that day.

"That time was only enough for employees to take a bath in the public bathhouse and then sleep for about an hour."

Korean director Li Hanbin worked for several weeks without rest when he participated in the production of a TV series, and made his subordinates work 20 hours a day.

After the TV play, his psychological defense line completely collapsed.

Li Hanbin left a note before committing suicide:

"It is this work culture that exploited me, which in turn forced me to exploit my employees."

According to the report of Pew Research Center, compared with the youth in other countries in the world, the biggest feature of Korean youth aged 18-33 is that they are "unhappy and feel the future is dark".

In the survey, South Korea is the only country where young people are more pessimistic than old people.

57% of young people feel that they are under greater financial pressure than their parents, and 6 1% of middle-aged and elderly people say this is nonsense.

So, where is the way out for South Korea's "N-throwing generation"?

It seems that it can only be said that hard work and persistence are everything.

Although I can't find a job, I still rush to major job fairs and try my best to strive for a better life;

Although I can't escape overtime entertainment, I still haven't polished it well and am strict with myself;

……

The founder of a website dedicated to the single lifestyle in South Korea said: "Today's generation is more eager for self-realization and happiness, even if it may mean loneliness." .

Photographer Nina Ahn was deeply touched after recording the lives of many single Korean young people:

"Our parents know that after hard work and years of accumulation, they can buy a house for their families.

But even if we work all our lives, we may never get something like that.

Knowing what life may be like in the future, (my peers) will react to life more wisely.

The priorities in our lives have changed. "

This generation of young Koreans will eventually grow old.

But no one can see clearly what kind of posture it is.

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