Privacy between husband and wife

Privacy between husband and wife: based on trust, don't force to know the truth of everything.

When men and women communicate, all conversations and browsing about family, money, and people on mobile phones and computers are personal privacy. However, men and women may be able to distinguish clearly when communicating, but it is difficult to cut the distinction between husband and wife.

Some couples can tell each other without privacy and secrets, so this mode of getting along will continue after marriage. If two people get along well and be honest with each other, it is a very good way of life.

However, any mode of getting along has advantages and disadvantages. What contradictions will arise between husband and wife if they "excessively" ask each other to have no privacy except secrets?

What if two people ask each other for privacy too much?

Regarding how much my wife spent on a dress today, my husband insisted on buying a new dress when he saw it. How much private money the husband stole, the wife found out, and so on.

Or my husband's friend summoned me to send an A picture, and my wife insisted on seeing it clearly. Even sometimes the whispers of the family group have been read by both sides several times.

Good direction:

Both sides can clearly know the flow of money, make friends, pay attention to their recent preferences, and accurately grasp each other's words and deeds. Even the other family can know their impressions like the back of their hands, making it easier to deal with them.

Negative effects:

"Excessive" mastery of the other party may leave the other party with no breathing space and cause great pressure in life. However, the use of money sometimes needs to spend some personal pastimes to express stress. If you are closely monitored, it will make the other person feel difficult to breathe.

Couples don't have personal relationships, and they often inadvertently force each other to "tell the truth"!

As long as the other party doesn't tell the truth in all your questions, it's very convenient to make yourself suspicious and start unconsciously forcing the other party to tell the truth, so as to cause a dispute of random guess!

The more facts you know, the more unhappy you are! Why do you always shoot yourself in the foot? I don't want to blindly believe all the lies, just some small things. Maybe what he said is not true, but exposing him will only make me more sad. As long as things are harmless, it is better to follow the plot, especially couples, who have been too concerned about everything for a long time.

Take money as an example:

He is working and has his own income. As long as he doesn't spend money on parties, gambling, taking drugs, investing or lending money to anyone, there is no need to force him to know all his expenses. Excessive monitoring will only make him have difficulty breathing and his heart is getting farther and farther away from home.

Then if it's just a trivial matter, then why does my husband always refuse to tell the truth?

Maybe you are too motivated to review yourself. No matter how big or small, he is forced to breathe. How can he speak freely to you?

If you have completely controlled everything he said, but you still question the truth of what he said, how dare he say anything that makes you unhappy?

Marriage is the sublimation of love, not everything that controls each other.

Besides, I told you the truth a long time ago. There is no need to force him without privacy. The more forced things are, the more opposite the result is! Relax, since you are married, don't force yourself to see the light in many things. After all, you are husband and wife for life!

There can be no secrets between husband and wife, but the deepest privacy still exists.

Just like two best friends, they both know what to say and what not to say, even to their parents. If it is not good for them, it is better to say nothing. There is no need to force them to say anything that will make each other sad.

Couples may find fault with many small things, but once they enter marriage, it is a long-distance race of tolerance and patience. The two sides can be husband and wife without secrets, but the most basic privacy should be left to each other. If it doesn't hurt, don't worry too much. After all, after being married for decades, can you see all the trivial things one by one like walnuts?

Don't let marriage become a tiring shackle. Trust after marriage will be a good medicine to maintain your feelings and privacy.

References:

1 Wang Heli, Zhang Wangquan, the change of wedding photography in China. Cross-Strait Win-Win 56 (2003).

2 Ashin and Fu Huaihui studied the lifestyle and consumption behavior of wedding photography consumers in 2004.

3 Look at the cultural significance of Taiwan Province society from the rhetoric of traditional weddings.