What did Lou Dawson, a 26-year-old photographer who chose to commit suicide, teach young people?

A generation has different goals and missions for raising children. What we should do is not to condemn our parents, but to learn from them and help our children become a rich person.

Lu, a 25-year-old photographer, refused her mother's birthday red envelope on 2021128th birthday, said thank you, and left a suicide note in Weibo, quietly leaving this world.

First of all, I want to correct my statement. Lu may be a photographer in Hangzhou, but as a person with a series of labels such as "rural, left-behind children, mountain children, school bullying experience, photographer, lonely youth, dream catcher", he should come from his native place-Guiyang, Guizhou.

Not a map gun, but for better analysis. If he is a native of Hangzhou, other labels dare not say that there is a high probability that he will not become a left-behind child.

This reminds me of the tragedy six years ago-four brothers and sisters in Guizhou, the oldest 13 years old and the youngest 5 years old, died of poison at home.

When it was discovered, there were still a few kilograms of bacon and food at home. The house at home is newly built on 20 12, with three floors. According to the local building unit price, it should have cost a lot of money, so the child did not die of poverty.

Grandparents have passed away, grandparents live far away, and most relatives live far away. After their parents left home one after another, the four children changed their temperament greatly, refused to contact with the outside world, often stayed indoors, and even their relatives were afraid to open the door. They died on the night of June 9, 2005 after taking pesticides.

What we need to do is not to violently attack their parents on the internet. If there is no reflection and no change, there will be more such things.

What the hell happened?

From four brothers and sisters from Shandong to Guizhou, we can see that at the age when children need love most, some things are missing. Dr. Wu Jun said this when talking about children's education in The Beauty of Mathematics:

The content of a book can be early or late, and it can't be made up if it misses the growth stage.

Lu Dawson is a very popular photographer now. He teaches others to take pictures at the Weibo, and also makes an appointment with his friends for next month's activities. It seems that everything is normal, but no one knows that the care he once lost has continued to this day. His aunt said that his experience of being bullied was unheard of.

Behind the differences, parents' guidance and support are needed.

Lu Dawson wrote in his suicide note that it was very good and polite to read when I was a child. After going home to school, this courtesy seems out of place.

From the external point of view, politeness is not a bad thing, but for growing children, partners are important environmental factors. If it is different from the environment, it will become different. If the environment is not so tolerant, they can easily become targets of bullying.

And the person who bullies him may not do so much if he knows that there is a person who can completely protect him. But unfortunately, he finally faced all this alone.

In fact, it is easy to change from politeness to impoliteness, but he chose to follow his heart and be consistent. I refused my mother's birthday red envelope until I decided to end my life, but I didn't forget to say "thank you" to her. But between parents and children, a "thank you" also reveals alienation.

Once, my father called me and said "hello", which made me feel so sad. These polite expressions don't need to be said to your closest relatives.

What happened to Poirot?

If the world only needs prodigies, should I be treated like this?

He kicked it down, too. It is easy to hurt a person, but difficult to cure one.

This is a very sad soul torture. Most children in this world will eventually become ordinary people like their parents. Ironically, most parents' long-term goals and short-term goals are not consistent.

When I was young, I saw whether my children were excellent or not. When I was old, no matter whether they were excellent or not, they didn't get married and have children on time. It was all in vain.

Children who are not outstanding as children and children who don't get married when they grow up are the two most pitiful groups. How can you scold and point fingers when no one is in the way?

However, these are basically two different measurement dimensions.

If the purpose of life is happiness, getting married and having children, and finding a lifelong lover, most people can do it. Why are they so demanding and blaming their children from the beginning?

What can we learn from this tragedy?

As a gentle and polite person, Lu wrote in his suicide note that he hoped not to commit cyber violence against his parents. His parents are just the epitome of all parents in the whole era, but it's a pity that their children didn't survive the mental torture.

An era has a theme of raising children. Think about our parents, who lived in the fifties and sixties. At that time, whether they can eat enough is a problem, and food and clothing is the first.

When they gave birth to us, as parents, they tried to give us material conditions and what they lacked. They are just people who have just had enough to eat for a few years. Don't blame them for not considering so many emotional problems nourished by their hearts.

Cang Li knows etiquette, food and clothing know honor and disgrace. -Biography of Historical Records and Yan Guan

Our generation, living in an era when we can eat enough, basically has no memory of hunger. But if you go back to your family, you will encounter some psychological problems more or less.

There is no point in blaming parents. What we should do is: if we raise our children well, let them become people with rich hearts.

This is the responsibility of raising children in our time.

Rich material needs rich mind, which can be better controlled and encouraged by you.