What is the paving stone on the road to success?

My child cried at night. Why are you crying? Because there will be a piano exam tomorrow, this is the first exam for an eight-year-old child. Although I usually learn piano, I have been affirmed and encouraged by my teacher. But she has never experienced an exam. She is very nervous and afraid of failure. She is worried that if she fails in the exam, her mother will not let her study. She likes playing the piano.

What is the goal of life? Is there only one way to success? Can life tolerate failure? What is the paving stone on the road to success?

Recently, I read a book "Cognitive Drive-Doing Something Useful to Others", in which there is a very important word called "trial and error", which makes me feel very enlightening. Looking back on each of our lives, isn't it spent in constant trial and error?

The author of this book, Ling Zhou, is a new generation writer. He has published two books in three years, which are very popular among readers.

The starting point of cognitive drive is to pursue doing something useful to others all your life, which is a great kindness. Zhou Ling personally practiced this kind of kindness, and he patiently answered strangers' questions.

In his book, he proposed to establish the concept of trial and error consciousness and trial and error space in advance. For those who want to do things but have not succeeded for the time being, it is not easy to use the metaphor of guiding light, at least it plays the role of a small orange lamp on the road to success. No trial and error, no success. I want my child to understand this truth quickly so that she won't cry in the next exam.

What is trial and error? Trial-and-error means trying to realize all the possibilities of success according to your existing experience. The meaning of trial and error lies in finding the right method through mistakes.

Edward Lee Thorndike is an outstanding American psychologist in modern times. He first put forward the concept of trial and error, which is the same as Zhou Ling's consciousness of trial and error. Thorndike is a pioneer in animal psychology. In the process of studying animals, he found that the basic learning mode of animals is trial and error learning: repeated practice-preparing for action-getting results. He believes that human beings are essentially animals, so the concept of trial and error can also be used in human learning.

So, what are the conditions for trial and error? Who are the successful people who finally succeeded through trial and error?

The most typical successful trial and error, such as Edison. He tried 1600 materials again and again, and did more than 7000 experiments before he invented the electric light.

In this year's Olympic Games and National Games, a girl of 14 years old jumped off the platform at 100 meters, jumping out of multiple perfect scores in one fell swoop, creating a miracle of "splash disappearing" and letting foreigners look for splash all over the world.

But look at her efforts before success, and you will understand that every training before success is trial and error. At the age of seven, she began to practice diving. She practices 200-300 jumps on land and 120 jumps on water every day. She was soaked in water all day, and her hair was soaked yellow. She also stopped crying because she couldn't dance well at 207C. So without the process of trial and error, there is no success.

However, life is only a few decades, is it all used for trial and error? How frustrating it will be if you never see the dawn of success.

Don't worry, Teacher Zhou Ling reminds us to divide our limited life reasonably. He adopted Li Xiaolai's new life-span calculation method of "seven-year life" and taught us to regard seven years as a "life space". It takes seven years to do one thing, which can be divided into seven years.

0-2 years in 65438+ years are used for trial and error. Even if you fail, you can quickly turn around and try new goals. Besides, no one can guarantee that trial and error can only succeed, not fail. The result of failure is also a kind of success. I tell you that the road is blocked and you should change careers quickly.

Since the result of trial and error has both success and failure, it shows that trial and error is also conditional.

First of all, we must have a clear goal, not blindly. For example, some children have poor mathematical understanding, so it is unrealistic for parents to insist that their children become scientists. Instead, we should explore the fields with the highest understanding, and then cultivate them according to the goal of seven-year freshman. In the field of children's high understanding, if they learn quickly, it is easy to arouse their interest. The greater their interest in learning, the stronger their consciousness, and they can quickly form the habit of conscious learning. At this time, parents and teachers can rest assured that they will run towards their goals without your urging and the roar of lions.

Secondly, we should have courage and sacrifice in trial and error. When a person has a clear goal, but doesn't know the method, he should be like those flies looking for a way out in the book Cognitive Drive.

Flying around in the bottle, looking for a breakthrough, maybe you will escape from the cage and see a sunny day. This kind of trial and error is suitable for the situation that the correct successful path cannot be found. Actually, it takes a lot of courage. This kind of courage is called living to die.

In the process of launching China's first artificial satellite, Xu Liping, a "powder sculptor", insisted on carving with knives as fuel for more than 30 years. Surrounded by hundreds of kilograms of fuel, he has to carve powder with an error of less than 0.2 mm, his body is distorted because he keeps a posture for a long time, and his hair is scarce because of frequent contact with gunpowder. But his repeated trial and error finally pushed China's first artificial satellite into the sky.

We ordinary people should have unremitting courage and perseverance to treat our little hobbies in order to have a more interesting play.

Yang Dong, a post-90s boy, majored in accounting, but those are mom's long pants, and he doesn't like them. After graduation, he fell in love with photography, and won a small prize for his first photo of the Great Wall, which made him clear his life goals. From then on, he thought about and photographed the Great Wall every day, and took more than 300,000 photos of Zhang Changcheng in five years, with a journey of about 6,543.8+10,000 kilometers. In order to shoot, he will climb mountains, braving the heat and cold, and sometimes he will run desperately to "grab the sky." He insisted on "doing only one thing and doing one thing well" all his life. Finally, his photos of the Great Wall were collected by the museum.

To sum up, from Zhou Ling's book Cognitive Drive-Doing Useful Things for Others, we know that to succeed, we must try and make mistakes first, and one percent of success requires 99 percent of trial and error; Trial and error should have a clear goal, have room for trial and error, and don't do things beyond your cognitive ability; Be brave in trial and error, act on the edge of the comfort zone and rush out of the comfort zone at any time. The final result of trial and error is to discover your own ability and be a better self.

This book also talks about a lot of practical knowledge. Interested friends have a quick look. Anyway, I want to use it to train children.