Thinking about reading We always grow up alone.

This book was recommended to me by my daughter, who is a freshman. She said it was practical and well written. The phone gave me a title about something I grew up alone, and the omnipotent Taobao actually bought it.

The author Li Shanglong said: "Take this book as a gift for youth!"

What is this book to me?

A middle-aged woman in her forties, her youth has already disappeared in the endless rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. Just for fun!

This book was received the day before yesterday and I started reading it last night. I spent a night holding a book and read three quarters at a time. This morning, I spent another half an hour reading the remaining quarter, that is, the host of chapter 4, Archie.

There are only four chapters in this book, which respectively describe the "four donkey kong" of the wedding company. The so-called "four donkey kong" are cameraman, photographer, makeup artist and master of ceremonies, and these "four donkey kong" are the four key figures necessary for a perfect wedding.

Zheng Zhi, like most young people, likes playing and chasing girls. He was the last of the four to get married.

In his view, marriage is another job for people. For men, getting married means making money to support their families; For girls, getting married means having children and raising them. He simply can't figure out why he should find a job that makes him live in hell when he has a job that makes him hysterical.

He once told Ike (the host) that when they are both married, it is estimated that he will still be thinking about what his next girlfriend is looking for. At that time, he thought marriage was against humanity. Ikey criticized him and told him that marriage is the crystallization of love. Just because you haven't found love doesn't mean that marriage is wrong. Zheng Zhi was unconvinced at first, but ended up being the second of four people to get married.

Xiaoyu is his high school classmate. Before graduation, they joked that after graduation, if you don't marry me, we will get married. Who knows, after graduation, none of them has considered anyone, and no one has included anyone in the formal plan of life. They are all spare tires, so why should we prepare for each other?

But one hot summer, the two of them went to a music festival, and suddenly, they were lit. So, the next thing is logical. Xiaoyu got married after having children.

He also wanted Xiaoyu to abort the child, but Cheng Yi (a makeup artist) told him that in his Sect, letting a woman abort the child is going to hell. Although he didn't want to be a father, he didn't want to go to hell, so he married Xiaoyu.

Married life is dull, but it is also dull for my wife. When the passion of marriage is replaced by the dribs and drabs of children and life, he often escapes, not only on business trips at work, but also ideologically. But in the end, under the guidance of Aiqi, he changed his "evil" and returned to his family. Finally, I raised three children with Xiaoyu and lived a plain but truest happy life.

What he hates most is that others always say "forever". He likes to live in the present, the present is everything, and this moment is forever. He believes that only by paying attention to the present, people will not feel lonely easily, because paying attention to the present, loneliness is their whole world.

This seemingly cynical boy is actually a poor boy. I witnessed the breakdown of my parents' marriage from an early age and was soaked by my mother's tears from an early age. His father seems to be an old hand in love. He pursues the three principles of "no initiative, no refusal and no responsibility" for young girls and passes them on to his son like treasures. Therefore, Xiao Rui doesn't believe in love, let alone marriage. His mother told him from an early age that parting is the theme of life and loneliness is everything in life.

So he is a particularly free and easy young man, and even has a little game feelings. He said that he never studied after graduation, and he loved reading girls. Empresses are just a book, but girls are different. Some girls are romance novels-they can only fall in love but not get married. Some girls are reference books-he doesn't even want to read them.

His girlfriend did one thing after another, just like changing clothes, but she was not married. Every wedding activity, he is busy with his own work, while adding the beautiful bridesmaid's WeChat. He always has a way to make girls willing to add him to WeChat. In the world of love, he is the god who calls the wind and rain. Girls are willing to love him, although they know that he may love others at the same time, although they also know that there is no result. Only when Mary appeared did he think that Mary was just one of his many sisters. But Mary sold the house in her hometown for him, followed him to Beijing, bought a house in the suburbs with a down payment, and said she was willing to pay the mortgage with him. Xiao Rui is naturally unwilling to pay the mortgage with anyone, which he can't imagine.

However, he still talked with Mary while coaxing another younger and lovely girl.

Later, Mary proposed to break up, and he agreed lightly. While replying to Mary's short message "Well", she also replied to her new girlfriend's "Good morning" greeting.

Mary sold her house in Beijing and returned to her hometown. Xiao Rui's WeChat, phone and everything have been deleted from her world. However, she is always paying attention to the development of Xiao Rui, from Akina and Zheng Zhina to his current girlfriend Yang Yang, and anywhere she can know, silently watching and waiting for her prodigal son to return.

Later, Yang Yang left him a farewell letter, saying that Mary loved him more and was more suitable for him, and then she left quietly.

After Yang Yang left, like any time when he broke up with his girlfriend, he didn't shed a tear, but he felt that life was boring and he felt uncomfortable. He went to see Ike.

Aiqi is a good medicine, but bitter; Archie is sincere, but he is least valued when he needs it most. Ikey asked him, "Have you ever thought that one day you will have a home?" "This home is warm and sweet, which is different from your parents'. This family is a lifetime, and no one will leave. "

He didn't answer him. He doesn't want any "home" because he has been living in the shadow of his parents' marriage.

From hating his father at the beginning to getting AIDS at the end, he felt that this was retribution for his father.

Until his father died, his third wife told him that his father was infected with the virus because of blood donation, and he cried. Scold in my heart: "Damn, is he a hero?" He always thought his father was his curse and nightmare. He couldn't accept the nightmare and became a hero. He can't accept it. His father's shadow is the shadow of his family background. All these things have been lingering in his mind.

So, from that day on, he decided to change himself

Cheng Yi is a quiet man with a rich inner world. The reason why he doesn't like to talk is because he thinks it's hypocritical to say it, and he doesn't dare to pin his expectations on others. He is afraid to talk to others. He thinks that no one can understand his inner pain.

He is always speechless and can't swallow. He can only say to himself in his heart.

There is only one exception, and that person is Archie. Only he understands him and is willing to warm him. They grew up together. Although Archie is eloquent, he is all thumbs. Archie has a gift for languages. After the college entrance examination, he applied for a broadcast host and went to Beijing. But Cheng Yi went to a foreign school to learn makeup.

Yes, it is not the saddest thing for a boy to learn to make up. His life is like leaning on a crutch on a coal pile-either smashing coal or unlucky.

He was the last one to enter the classroom on the first day of school. Suddenly, he found that, together with the counselor, there were 2 1 student in the class, only 3 boys. At that time, my heart was full of joy, and the ratio of men to women was one to six. This university will have four years of glory. How should this quota be allocated?

The so-called joy begets sorrow, and the next self-introduction is the beginning of his nightmare. Two other boys in the class turned out to be gay. It's his turn. At that moment, his head went blank. He was worried that he was out of place with the environment, so he popped up the words "Me too". He remembered that everyone was clapping and all the girls were laughing, including his favorite Mohan, who screamed and applauded him. He was very happy, at least he thought Mohan remembered him.

Men like him change their sexual orientation for the so-called "gregarious". Therefore, he missed the beautiful love and pure and beautiful ink when he was a student.

He obviously has a girl he likes, but he can only watch her fall in love with boys from other departments, schools and classes in four years. The most painful thing is that he can only be by her side, helping her with her bag, occupying her seat, helping her answer, and listening to her tell him which boy bullied her again, which boy she fell in love with and which boy dumped her.

He didn't say those three words to Mohan until he graduated.

He came to Beijing at the invitation of Ikey. Aiqi told him that there are many girls in Beijing, and they are all beautiful.

However, although there were many beautiful girls, none of them became his girlfriend. Because he not only can't talk, but also is a very boring guy. There is usually no expression on his face except a smile. Everyone says he looks like a robot.

It was not until Mohan came to Beijing that his life changed. I lived in his rented house from the beginning, and then got married and divorced.

Since childhood, he has been in a puzzling state, and his marriage and divorce with Mohan have made him even more confused. He doesn't understand why, but he believes in Jesus. He knew that God loved him, so he brought her to him. But why did he take it away again? He doesn't want to be too clear, too clear and tired.

Mohan later married a big boss. It is said that some time ago, Mohan and Cheng Yi got married because the boss's affair with Mohan was discovered by his wife, and the boss could not divorce. However, Cheng Yi is not Mohan's type after all, and a marriage that can't even have a normal sex life is doomed to die soon. After all, Mohan became the boss's second marriage, and Cheng Yi was "notified" to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce.

At the end of this relationship, Cheng Yi couldn't get a word in, only with a notice. His divorce was unexpected, but it was also reasonable.

He can't get out of the pain of divorce, and he doesn't know what to do in the future.

Although Cheng Yi later fell in love with a girl named Xue Fei, he thought that Xue Fei would be his future, but Xue Fei told him that she was married.

Cheng Yi went to Archie in great pain. He told Archie that he never wanted to get married again. He thinks it's nice to be alone. He thinks there is something better than love in this world. You can do what you really like wholeheartedly and be yourself wholeheartedly.

Later, Cheng Yi went to Taiwan Province Province and worked as a teacher in a seminary. He has a cat, and at the age of 50, he is still unmarried and has no children. He doesn't know how he changed from a person who can't speak at all to a teacher who lives by talking.

However, he had a good time.

After reading the first three chapters, although everyone has his own personality and destiny, he still has the best home.

Through the narration of the first three people, Aiqi gave us the feeling that everything he said felt like a textbook, always with a taste of philosophy. His emotional intelligence is extremely high, and he is the backbone of the Four donkey kong. The other three people may make mistakes in their work and life. Whenever there is a problem, they always turn to Archie. He can always help with advice. When problems come to him, they can always be solved.

He has always been a leader in school and in society. School, love, marriage and career are all going so smoothly. After reading the first three chapters, I seem to have guessed how Archie is going to write. I let him sleep because I couldn't help wanting to sleep.

This morning, my daughter began to do her homework by herself, and I finished cleaning up the housework. Take out the book, too, and continue the last chapter.

As expected, there is no suspense: college classmates, love in the city, love at first sight. After graduating from college, love blossomed. Aiqi successfully married Yutian, then Yutian got pregnant, and the baby's name was chosen, called Tian Ai. In order to show fairness, I took a word from my parents' names. It also means loving sweetness, and Archie will always love Yutian until the end of time.

As the baby grows up in the mother's belly, Tian Yu's temper becomes more and more strange, sensitive, fragile and suspicious. He always loses his temper and complains to Archie.

Aiqi knows all about this, knowing that women will have all kinds of strange bad conditions during pregnancy because of the changes of progesterone and estrogen. Therefore, as a responsible husband, he always gives way to his beloved wife, never confronts him, and dissolves Tian Yu's nonsense with kisses and hugs.

But just two months before the baby was born that night, he was so tired that he went home hungry after working overtime, but he was mercilessly attacked by his wife.

Suddenly, his mood broke out.

That day, he lost control and became very angry. They were so noisy that they dropped the cups, bottles and bowls on the table. Yu Tian shouted, "I want to divorce you!" " "Then he added," You don't love me at all. I can't live this life! " "

Ikey said without thinking, "If you don't want to live with me, you can go back to your own home."

Then, he slammed the door and fled the smoky home.

Later, he bought a pack of cigarettes and gradually woke up from the smell of cigarettes. Then I regretted it, then flew home, wanted to apologize to my wife, and wanted to comfort my injured wife with my children.

In a trance, his wife was still at home, packing things, and although she was in tears, she forgave him.

After that, I hosted jam once, and was scolded by the couple and paid back the money.

My daughter should be born in two months. He sent a circle of friends to tell everyone that he is a father. Everyone is happy for him, hoping that the phone will keep ringing. But he refused to visit everyone on the grounds that the child was too young to be infected with the virus. Friends circle has never sent photos of children. Maybe the novice father is busy making money to buy milk powder and diapers and take care of his wife and children.

In the following year, there were many times when the main engine jammed. Every time I don't realize what's wrong with me, I feel too tired.

Until Xiao Rui's baby was born, everyone shouted that they had never seen Ikey's baby daughter, and there was no news of Yu Tian's sister-in-law for a long time. They must go to his house to see Tian Ai's face.

Xiao Rui also wants to engage in an early marriage, so that his newborn son can chase after his sister in the future. Everyone said Archie hid his daughter and wife too well. What a treasure house! They have gone to see Tian!

Archie agreed, and they arrived at his house the next night.

Nobody knocked at the door. After Archie opened the door with a key, the room was dark. After turning on the light, everyone was shocked. A room full of baby products, all new, and a room full of sweet photos.

Xiao Rui went to the room, but didn't find any children or sister-in-law. He seemed to suddenly realize something, and retreated to the corner, hiding his face and crying.

I finally understand why gold medal hosts who never make mistakes appear again and again.

Yes, that's right.

That night, because he didn't control his temper, because of his angry words, his favorite wife ran away from home, was knocked down by a drunk driver and flew away like an angel with her daughter.

After reading this, my heart was pulled. It hurts!

Archie has been ill since Yu Tian left with the children! He has been immersed in serious remorse and got schizophrenia.

Of course, under the careful care and care of Zheng Zhi, Xiao Rui and Cheng Yi, Aiqi stepped out bravely.

At the age of 35, he settled in Canada and adopted a Chinese-American girl. What's your name? You must have guessed it. Yes, it's called Tian Ai!

What is truth, illusion, dream, reality, existence, disappearance, sunshine, darkness, life and death. ...

In nature, many animals conflict first and then fall in love. And many contradictions and conflicts between husband and wife, seemingly the most groundbreaking things, are actually caused by some trivial things.

Yu Hongxia time on March 20th, 2022 at 22: 36.