What is self-existence?

To put it bluntly, the sense of self-existence is my own sense of certainty about the world. I feel very good and excellent, and I have a strong sense of self-existence. I always feel that I am not good anywhere, and my sense of self-existence is very poor.

I have observed a very confident person at close range. He is a family photographer. He is very powerful and talented. Although his photos are good but a little strange, and the audience is actually not many, he has innate confidence and always shows them to others. I am very good at shooting. The mantra is: I am expensive.

Coincidentally, I have also observed two very popular photographers, and their photos are also great, but I always feel that their photos are not good and there is room for improvement. Of course, at their level, their prices are low.

Such an observation point woke me up. In fact, our ability, personality and works have something to do with the price, but they have little to do with it. Because the main customers still trust you and recognize you. It is whether the relationship between this person and the world is mutual trust or mutual suspicion. It depends on whether this person communicates smoothly with the world or stutters. Therefore, self-confidence is a very important premium indicator.

But they are all of the same level. Why are some people obsessed with self-confidence and others timid? Who told them whether it was good or bad? In addition to the object of service and the echo of some exchanges, we used to rely mainly on our parents.

Children have no sense of self and existence, and they have to rely on their families, mainly their parents, to draw conclusions, evaluate themselves and exist themselves. If parents' hearts are full of love and warmth, they will often give their children rich love and positive comments. If parents have no power and sense of existence, they will find a sense of existence in their children, often suppressing them, belittling them and giving them negative or negative comments. I feel that I am much better than my children, and I find myself and confidence in my children.

Therefore, children will develop in the direction their parents expect according to their parents' behaviors and words. This is the famous pygmalion effect. Sigh, a love is empty, but every warm word, every warm hug, every touch and kiss tells the child that you are fine, you deserve to be loved, and you are the best child in the world. Children are not destined to be mediocre in this life, even if they are ordinary, don't worry, because ta may be an excellent father or mother.

There is a very good saying that lucky people use their childhood to cure their whole lives, while unfortunate people use their whole lives to cure their childhood.

What inspiration did the above long speech give our parents?

1. If we have not been treated gently since childhood, then from now on, we should be responsible for ourselves, become a strong person, give ourselves the greatest patience, gentleness and love, fill our inner desire for love, give ourselves positive evaluation and encouragement, and become ourselves.

2. Love others, love doesn't have to cost money. A word, a hug, a kiss, and a little help may illuminate others.

Be kind to your child, give him more positive comments, give him more positive affirmation and encouragement, and you will gain a positive and optimistic child.