Inspirations: For you who are confused at the age of twenty.

Inspirations: For you who are confused at the age of twenty.

In your twenties, you are confused and anxious. You want a house, you want a car, you want to travel, you want to enjoy life.

You are so young, but you look at the whole world. You are so impetuous, but you want to see through life.

You've been urging yourself to hurry up? Grow up? , but can't calm down and read an article; You blow the horn of progress again and again, but you always fall in a place not far from the departure.

Is growing up really as urgent as you think?

First, don't worry, don't worry.

Last week, I was in Nanjing on business. Late at night, I dragged myself to meet my friends and talked until two in the morning. It's almost three o'clock when I got back to the hotel. My roommate hasn't slept yet. He lit a cigarette and watched the night view of the old capital in a daze under the 65th floor. He is quiet, bald, like an artist, and has a natural indifference. His previous contact was nothing more than business, not to mention much. I don't know how to mention the young people nowadays. Mentality? I can't take it anymore.

He/kloc-came out at the age of 0/8 and never went to college. He is 38 years old and is the design director of a famous magazine. What if this is a cliche? Inspirational? I may not be interested in hearing this story anymore. But he said, I don't know what your generation thinks. I hate the distinction and labels after zero, and I can't tell many of my peers. People know each other through values rather than age. Now your generation seems to be in a hurry. You have a house, a car and a ticket, but even your peers don't all think so, do they? I nodded. He went on to say that in fact, every generation has its own depression, really, that's how it came about. I only got my own house two years ago, and my son is two years old this year. I think everything is fine. When I was 25, I worked in a public institution. I have seven or eight years of work experience, so I can't stay any longer and have to go. The leader invited me to drink. He gulped down a glass of wine and told me, you are still young, don't think so much, don't worry, do what you have to do. I have benefited a lot from this sentence so far. When I was young, I was playful and impetuous, and there were always various temptations. I will remember the old leader's words, don't think about anything else, do my own thing well, and it's now in a blink of an eye. He continued, what are you trying to say? Struggle? What? I never did. I just took it step by step. Houses, cars and things like that. Seriously, as long as you're not stupid, do what you have to do, right? Time? There will be, but it can't be. Don't think about it, don't care what others do, and trust your own judgment. Hold on. Take your time.

He said, hang in there and take your time.

A month ago, I just came and brought home more than a dozen old magazines. After flipping through it in a hurry, I fell down on the sofa in despair and sent a short message to the teacher: When can I write the four main pens? The gap is not a little. He's back. Don't worry, you're still young. I said, I'm 24 years old, and I still can't see any hope. He is only 24 years old. Our youngest is only in his early thirties, so don't worry.

Only 24 years old. He said it twice in a row. Don't worry.

Li Xiaolai wrote in Taking Time as a Friend that we always expect too much from short-term interests and too little from long-term interests.

He meant English, and he said? Life? .

After all, it is still urgent.

Second,? Become famous before it's too late How many people have been hurt?

Some people say, what kind of person do you want to be, go to that person. Not everyone is so lucky, but this sentence is not only about career, but also about life wisdom. It is easy for people to magnify their immediate pain or achievements and communicate with their older but enlightened predecessors. They will know at a glance what stage you are going through, and now it's just a screw that stumbles you. What you can't see through may be their confusion.

/kloc-During the age of 0/8-23, it is useless to read the resumes of celebrities. Every time you know someone you envy and hate, you search his experience? At what age did you graduate with a master's degree? When did you finish your doctorate? How old did you start to make your mark in the professional field? When did you achieve today's achievements?

Age, age, age, that is an anxiety about time. A word from Zhang Ailing? Become famous before it's too late , hurt I don't know how many people. I hate it, okay? Success? Study, because obviously, not everyone can succeed through hard work, but I am sure I am one of the lucky ones. I am ambitious and energetic; I am arrogant and proud of my advantages in appearance and talent; I think about all serious topics, read books related to the mystery of this world, and pay tribute to the vast civilization through the ages; I expect people to read my words in publications and talk about my name in the media; I long for fame, money and beautiful girls' long hair. I have repeatedly read Xu Zhiyuan's "Those Sad Young People", and I am full of emotion for another equally proud soul.

But I'm only 20 years old.

All celebrity books and lectures tell me that a person needs to know what he wants to do well. Today, countless articles by colleagues, Weibo and highly sought-after publications are full of similar views, which have even become anti-success and logical? Is that correct? In other words, Dayou? Have the ability to think independently? Ideologically, youth identity.

However, you ask a young man who has just left the boring high school life and just started to understand the world and life. What does he want? He wants excellent grades, a reputation among his classmates and a beautiful girlfriend. He also wants to find an enviable job after graduation as soon as possible? Make money? , fame and fortune.

Some people will ask, is this a problem? Admittedly, this is also? What do I want? But this is just a modular assembly line, trying to polish all the young people into a face. ? What do you want? It should be related not only to secular occupation and fame, but also to a deeper proposition, that is, human struggle and exploration, that is? Who am I?

Who are you? Want to get all the scholarships from the university, live a rich life, get a high-paying position and own a house in Beijing's Fourth Ring Road? Don't. Who are you?

Why did the guy who was willing to paint on all possible objects become a company employee, just because everyone said that the life of a freelance painter was unstable?

Why is there such a determination? Iron shoulders and morality, skillful writing? Girl, when I joined the state-owned enterprise, the reporter's income was not as high as that of the state-owned enterprise because of my parents' earnest advice.

Who are you? I mean, who are you, stripping off all the positioning and shackles given to you by the outside world, isolating all parents and elders from trying to influence you and interfere with your voice, and forgetting all the value judgments of mass media, celebrities and publications? Who is he, she, it, banging in your body?

Things have changed. What are you doing here?

Being in your early twenties and not knowing what you want is both a disaster and a blessing.

But you must vaguely know who you are and what you are interested in, right? If you don't know this, it's really a disaster.

If you know what you are interested in, do it bit by bit. No matter how many voices try to make you turn around and say that this thing you love and are fascinated by has no money, no future, no development and no hope, please say to him or her calmly: Fuckoff, thisismyownlife.

Not why, but because of love. A thousand dollars can't buy love.

I sent some articles I have written in recent years to Mr. Dan Qing. He was very happy and wrote back that it was better to be quiet, but he should write slowly. He didn't say that you should work harder in writing and become a famous journalist and writer one day. I know what he means: do it slowly if you like.

It doesn't matter where you go.

Third, why let life? Paint the ground as a prison?

My friend asked me, do you want to be an excellent reporter in the future? I said, I don't know. He was surprised. Aren't you from the media circle? I am also very surprised, why should I define my life in my early twenties? The definition is shackles, that is, painting the ground as a prison. At this age, shouldn't we try to stretch our tentacles, touch different and diverse things, and perceive and observe a rich and infinite world?

Definition, that is, closing the door of possibility. How do you know that you won't encounter more curious and exciting things in the future? You are only in your twenties, twenties, twenties. Why can't I become a professional traveler? Why can't you be an NGO? Why can't I suddenly fall in love with photography after coding for several years? Why not?

The advantage of reading celebrity biographies is that you can refer to your own life through the choices of others at critical moments in life; The negative effects may be even more fatal. I am determined to be a child.

If you go back and sort out your life course, you will see a seemingly clear trajectory and route, and then what? Epiphany? I embarked on this road step by step. It turns out that I wanted to be such a person from the beginning. If you have written a PS for applying to a school, you may have a similar experience. However, this can be extremely deceptive? Looking back on past resumes, it is inevitable to summarize and classify them, and it is not difficult to draw a main line. Probably, you didn't want to be such a person from the beginning, and you didn't even know where you were going. You just walk in a daze and follow your interests.

Yes, it's interest, not planning. I am determined to be a child.

If I become a video game player in some way in the future, I can also deeply review my personal biography? I have been determined to be a professional since I was a child. External gateway protocol? Because I started playing video games when I was 4 years old, and I am still an enthusiast.

Don't forget, Feng Tang was a poet and a literary youth when he was young. Later, I got a doctor's degree in gynecology, then I worked as a consulting company, and now I do business.

Don't forget, Lao Luo thought he would stay with him all his life until he was 27? Teacher? And then what? English? These two words are insulated.

My plan is always right? The word "alert", the so-called career planning, life planning, fool people.

Life depends on perception, how to plan? Career depends on opportunity and exploration. How to design? And how to plan success is even more nonsense. When Mr. Dan Qing boarded the plane to the United States at the age of 28, how did he plan his life to become a scholar and celebrity who spoke for the public? He just likes painting, just painting, painting with a brush; When Mr. Qin Hui 15 went to the countryside to jump the queue, he thought he would stay in the countryside all his life. How come? Determined to be the benchmark of China's ideological circle? And then what? He just likes reading, reading, reading one book at a time.

If I have the opportunity to be invited to give a lecture among young people in their 40 s and 50 s, it must be called? I have no plan for my life? ; What if I'm embarrassed and I'm a neglected Lu Se in the secular sense? Why don't I talk to my grandson about bragging? A life without a plan? This is an interesting story.

No one has the right to tell you how to live.

If you often attend Chinese mainland's Thought and Humanities Salon, oh no, or it's just an ordinary celebrity lecture. In the questioning session, you will hardly miss any questions. Hello, Teacher XX, what are your views and suggestions on contemporary young people?

According to the unanimous complaints of some speakers, this is almost their most disgusting and boring question. Perhaps it is hard for even the questioner to realize that this stupid question has a subtle psychological cause: please tell us how to be as successful and excellent as you.

Or what? As a scholar said, a young man begged an old man to teach him how to face the new world. Is it funny? Teacher Dan Qing said, do whatever you like, what's it to me? You are finally born in an era of free choice, but you still want others to guide you how to live.

Really don't even know what you like to do and how to live? I just want to win, but I'm afraid of losing. What to do and what road to take is not to try and make mistakes step by step with your inner voice? Come back if you go wrong; If you are in a hurry, slow down. Stop from time to time to think, look, think about it, and then go on.

Just like the preface written by teacher Dan Qing to Jia, we should all save ourselves step by step. I draw step by step, and Jia relies on inch by inch film. ?

The choice of young people is like a portrayal of the country's quick success and instant benefit. Pollution first and then treatment? Success before growth, work before interest, success before self-pursuit. A friend in the workplace complained that he was lost and confused at work. I wonder if I am suitable for this job?

I asked, what exactly do you like to do? He didn't know for a long time.

Some people have made it clear that I don't like my job. So should I sign up for Latin dance class or guitar class?

It's no problem to engage in a career that is not your interest. I just develop my hobbies in my spare time. But then I realized, than? Can't do what you like? A hundredfold disaster, right? I don't know what I like to do. .

One state in the yellow law says. Now that I think about it, China's parents instilled in him the idea that he should keep reading and studying, and that he should finish reading and then go to work. It's really killing him. This seems to be a sign of destruction, but in fact, the further he goes, the more impetuous he becomes.

It is easier for Americans to find their own life if they walk around for a year. Life is a process of precipitation. What are you doing climbing the degree ladder? ?

This reminds me of a story I heard. After graduating from college, an Australian worked as a reporter for Al Jazeera for three years, traveled around Europe, then went to study for a master's degree in philosophy and economics, and volunteered in Africa for two years, waiting for him and me to become teachers and sisters. Human rights? I was 33 years old when I got my master's degree. I don't understand why he didn't go on to study for a doctor after finishing his master's degree. He found new interests in life before he came to study for a year or two, but these interests were not as deep as those of his doctor, and his research direction is likely to be lifelong career? , teacher elder sister. Then he will be 35 years old after graduation. What would he do? He doesn't seem sure? .

This seems to be an unreliable negative example. Just like some old classmates' impressions of me. They said that they envy your colorful life and sighed sympathetically after hearing my latest plan. How old are you after studying abroad? 27 years old. Are you still studying for a PhD? I don't know, so when are you getting married? Who knows, 30? Probably got married when I was studying. You are too unreliable, aren't you? I'm a minor subject? How awesome job can you find after studying abroad? I said that going abroad is not necessarily to find a better job. I can do what I want to do now without studying abroad. Huh? What's the point of going abroad?

Personal experience, vision, self-improvement. Look at the bigger world and find more possibilities in yourself.

I didn't say that after all.

5. Do you want happiness or not? Become a big shot?

Have you ever thought that you are just a mediocre little person in your life, all of them? Dream? Didn't come true? This is a post widely circulated on the Internet.

I asked everyone in the group. Teacher Ma said, no, to be honest, everyone is great people. Follow your own pace step by step, and you won't be bad.

Some friends also asked me. If you are just a mediocre person after all, those awesome dreams have not come true, and this world has not? Change? Will you be happy?

I asked, didn't you eat and wear warm clothes? He said, that's for sure, it's not that bad. It's just ordinary, maybe just an ordinary reporter editor. At work, he doesn't have much glory. He earns up to 10,000 yuan a month, pays the house, raises children and drives an ordinary car. No pain, no glory, live a good life.

Is there enough room at home for me to hang curtains and turn on the projector for live broadcast? Of course.

Do you still like football, reading and everything you liked when you were young? be

Sometimes three or five friends, string beer, talk about wine; Sometimes on Saturday and Sunday, meet at the stadium? be

Happy.

He looked me in the eye. Happy. I nodded.

Yes, you may be a mediocre person all your life, but your attitude will still have an impact on the quality of life. You love life and work, and sincerely feel, understand and treat others. Maybe it didn't bring any real returns and changes to your life, but it softened the boundaries between you and your heart and the world. You constantly accept positive feedback from others (thanks, smiles, kindness), and then constantly release positive energy, forming a virtuous circle.

Isn't it the best reward to do what you like? Just as writing is the reward of writing, painting is the reward of painting.

Six, an hour of growth.

I used to like a friend's signature file. Become a better person? .

This relaxed but firm sentence has given me strength countless times.

Now, I feel this sentence is full of? Higher, faster and stronger? That kind of enterprising tone, I just like it in the overwhelming inspirational words? Destroy ambition? . I prefer to use it? Perception? This word. Maybe we can't create life, and we can't plan life. Perhaps, body odor, experience, feeling and understanding are the keys to growth?

Become a better person? If I sit in the sun with my mother and talk about aimlessness, childhood, growth and family chores all afternoon, will I become a better person? If you don't read Wittgenstein's biography, Han Han's latest blog and refresh Weibo today, just cook yourself a delicious meal and lie in your lover's arms in a daze, is it a waste of life?

China's generation of young people may face some specious self-contradictions. On the one hand, we are an unprecedented premature aging generation. Grow old at eighteen? At the age of twenty, I began to feel nostalgic, although I was still young. You like talking, and I like laughing. Time has become the collective homesickness of a generation; On the other hand, I desperately want to run forward, want to live a stable and carefree life, want to embrace a certain sense of certainty, and feel anxious. We want to be like people in their thirties and forties right away, with no shortage of garages and a successful career.

Step by step, inch by inch, bit by bit, day by day, slowly.

All growth and greatness? Like traditional Chinese medicine and old fire soup, they are all cooked hour by hour. ?

Life is not afraid of walking slowly, but of going the wrong way.

When I first came to America, I always heard people in China say that America is lazy. I can cite many examples. Americans will definitely go on vacation every year, or at least go to the beach and lie on the beach.

People in China want to do things, but they do them day and night. Speaking of bitterness, it is also chinese odyssey. I often hear Americans say that people in Chinese restaurants really work hard, working six days a week, and people who run restaurants even work seven days a day. In American restaurants, the daily classes are divided into afternoon classes and evening classes, and the average waiter only works for five and a half days.

However, you really need to talk to those restaurant owners. They will tell you that once you earn enough money, you will never open a restaurant again.

Because of fatigue, boring things can't last long, can't innovate, and can't become first-class. Therefore, Chinese food is almost synonymous with fast food in the United States, not a sign of high-end.

Americans seem lazy and fun, but the United States is still super strong. Although China people work hard, China is still a developing country. This is the secret.

The advantage of being slow is that you have enough time to evaluate the results and stop if there are mistakes. China's current rapid economic growth is celebrated by the whole country, but it is not without hidden worries, and the damage to the environment is amazing. Environmental pollution affects people's health, increases medical expenses and reduces people's quality of life.

People in China build houses quickly, but they don't pay attention to maintenance. After living for more than 20 years, the house is dilapidated and has to be demolished. Americans spend their energy on maintaining houses every year, and some houses with a history of 50 years are as good as new.

Hard work is better than skillful work, which is more important? Plan? Be good at using existing resources instead of simply starting a new stove every time you go to town.

Perseverance is the most important thing. Everyone in China knows this truth, but it can't be done in practice.

Students in China, some primary schools start to learn middle school content, middle schools start to learn university content, and some universities have juvenile classes. These people learn really fast. However, why are they not included in the Nobel Prize list?

The key is that many people run very fast, but often change direction and have no perseverance. Many college students stop studying as soon as they leave school. The United States advocates lifelong learning.

Therefore, I want to say that life, as long as the direction is right, is not afraid to walk slowly. Slow down, maybe you will come back later, but you will guarantee the quality of success; Slow down, you may not reach the finish line so early, but you won't give up halfway because you are too tired or too impatient. What did you say?/Sorry?

The best growth is to live every moment.

Each present is unique, it is not a continuation of the past, nor is it a linear future one after another. Time is made up of countless? Now? In series, every moment is eternal.

Therefore, when we eat, no matter what we are eating, we must eat completely: when we play, no matter what we are playing, we must play completely; When we fall in love with each other, we should love each other thoroughly, regardless of the past or the future, and devote ourselves wholeheartedly.

Just like Scarlett, the heroine of Gone with the Wind, she always said to herself in gone with the wind. I don't want to think about it now Let's talk about it tomorrow. After all, tomorrow is another day. ? Yesterday has passed, and tomorrow has not come yet. Why do you think so much? It is the truest thing to live this moment well, otherwise, where will you find the time when this moment is about to disappear?

? Everything in time, when it dies, will never come back. Just like your yesterday, it will always be yesterday, and we can't go back to yesterday to make up for anything; Just like when my father was as young as you, if you didn't have fun in such a small childhood and didn't lay a solid foundation for learning, you would never be able to go back and start again; Just like today's sun is about to set, if you miss today's sun, you will never find the original one. ?

Every day, every hour and every minute is a special moment, and every moment is unique. Because, in the past, there is no turning back.

Life, the present is true, and fate is illusory. Therefore, I want to encourage all readers and friends: every moment in front of me, we must live seriously; Do everything seriously; Everyone should be valued because? Fate became an illusion? Don't let yourself stay? Is it too late? Resentment

The dead can't be chased, and the newcomers can still wait. The most important thing to cherish is the present-the meaning of life is made up of every unique moment.

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