How to chat back the dead days (what if chatting always kills the days)

Many boys talk to their favorite girls until they die. In the long run, don't say that girls don't want to talk, just don't know what to talk about. This is actually what we call a topic terminator. As a topic terminator, how to solve this problem?

Taking the initiative to throw questions with substantive content is the first criterion to ensure that the chat can continue. If you always have no content, don't take the initiative to throw questions, just listen to the other side, then when the other side has finished, you will say goodbye.

Let's feel this conversation:

Woman: "Gubei Water Town is very interesting."

Man: "Really? Have you been there? "

Woman: "Mm-hmm, I went with my friends this weekend."

Man: "Oh, that's good."

Woman: "The scenery inside is very good, the photo effect is not bad, and there are many manual workshops. You can do your own DIY. You can go and have a look. "

Man: "Good."

Alas, such a reply didn't leave anyone a message, but only made girls feel as if they were in a hurry to find you. Of course, they didn't like it. You must give and take.

Therefore, when echoing each other, you can ask questions actively and guide them to develop in the direction of your topic:

Woman: "Gubei Water Town is very interesting."

Man: "Really? I intend to go next week. Are there any interesting projects? "

Woman: "It's a bit like Wuzhen in the north. The natural scenery is good. Taking pictures is very emotional. And there are many traditional handicraft workshops in China. My friends and I are still DIY our own printing and dyeing works in Yongshun Dyehouse, which is quite interesting. "

Man: "That sounds good. Can I see the photos you took? "

Woman: "OK, I'll send it to you."

Man: "This little photo is quite artistic, not bad. I also want to bring my camera. "

Woman: "Where else can I play with my camera?"

M: "I was the vice president of the photography club when I was in college, and later I learned a lot of photography skills." Do you want to see the photos I took? "

Woman: "Yes, send it to me quickly."

In this dialogue, the boy will ask questions that he wants to know. Finally, because of "photos", he slowly talked about photography from the beginning of the tour, which is the strength of boys. This is a clever topic change. Obviously, girls are very interested in this topic, so they talk more and more.

When many brothers pick up girls, my sister doesn't react well. This is because you didn't make a good introduction, didn't think about chatting, and didn't set up the framework of the male god, so you didn't attract the girl from the beginning, and naturally the response behind it was not good. Actually, I didn't understand this before, but I read a book about picking up girls ~ The Complete Works of Lao Wang. This book tells a lot about the dry goods of picking up girls, which puts me on the road to change and improve myself. Now I am surrounded by beautiful women, and I strongly recommend my brothers to read it. There are e-books under Baidu, so it is no small matter to apply what you have learned.

Find the right keywords. A topic is always finished. I don't know what to say after talking about this topic. Isn't this silence?

So you should learn to find the key words in the other person's words and then extend a new topic.

In fact, this trick has also been used in the correct demonstration case of "actively throwing questions". Girls mentioned taking pictures, which is good for boys, so we talked about this topic. There must be many people who have the same language.

In ordinary life, there are not so many coincidences. How can I learn to find keywords?

First, look what she did. When the other person shares something with you, you should find out what role she plays in this matter and whether what she does has anything to do with you.

For example:

Woman: "I learned to skate with my friends today, and I accidentally fell down and broke my leg." Event: I learned to skate and wrestle, and my leg was broken. Her role: someone who wants to learn skating, injured person)

Man: "It doesn't matter, has the wound been handled?" (Expressing concern and giving physical and psychological comfort)

Woman: "It's no big deal, it's already been dealt with."

Man: "That's good. Call me next time you want to skate, and I'll teach you with my hands to make sure you don't skate. " (Contact: I can skate, I can teach her and protect her)

Second, feel each other's feelings. The other person will not share anything with you for no reason, either making her sad or making her happy.

Either way, you can basically feel it from her language expression. Then you just need to follow her words and express your affection, support, understanding and encouragement to her, which will make the other person feel that you can understand her and she will trust and rely on you more.

For example:

Woman: "I'm so depressed today." (in a bad mood)

Man: "What's the matter?"

Woman: "Because I was careless, I wrote a wrong data and was criticized by the leader."

Man: "Hey, to err is human. Don't blame yourself too much. Just be serious next time. I heard that there is a hot pot restaurant nearby. Shall we go together after work? " (Express love and encouragement, and divert attention with other things)

Put an end to straight reply. Why is the steel straight man always criticized by everyone? Because they are too straightforward to understand the subtext of girls' words. Sometimes their self-righteous humor makes girls want to roll their eyes for minutes.

Here are a few small examples:

Woman: "I just went to the supermarket and bought a lot of things, which are estimated to weigh 20 Jin." I'm exhausted. "

Man: "Did you recite it yourself? Very powerful. "

Female:

Woman: "Is my dress nice?"

Man: "In this winter, why are you still wearing this sweater to show your shoulders?" Is it hot or cold? "

Female:

Woman: "How was my game today?"

Man: "Your earrings are as big as two rings. Aren't they heavy to wear?"

Female:

Don't say that boys are too deliberate, licking dogs. Think about it. Is it because your usual reply is such an aunt?

If this goes on, don't say that girls don't take the initiative, and active girls will be held back by you.

It's no good talking to a girl with a male mind. You should know more about girls' clothes, psychology and way of thinking.

For example, when she asks about your clothes, don't always use perfunctory sentences such as "it's fine" and "everything looks good on you", but learn to evaluate from the details: "Today's clothes and hairstyle are very gentle and suit you very well." "The gauze skirt is very fairy, with a small leather coat, which is a bit cool and very eye-catching."

Even if you don't think it's good, you can gently make suggestions. For example: "This skirt is a fairy. I think it is better with sandals than canvas shoes. What do you think? "

Timely "boasting" is not called licking, but the art of speaking. Straight men should study hard!

Nowadays, the social competition is so fierce that no progress means retrogression, so it is very important to keep learning new knowledge and enrich your own connotation.

Emotionally, too. Many boys always think that they are single because they have no money and are ugly, but they are not.

Women in the new era not only look at their faces, but also like smart, romantic and talented boys. So, don't lose heart if you are not handsome enough. You still have many opportunities.

When chatting with girls, show your rich knowledge appropriately, so that girls feel that chatting with you is always a surprise, and she will gradually like chatting with you.

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