What's the experience of having a girlfriend who is a model?

Zhang (pseudonym) is a home designer who works from home on weekdays and is well-known in the circle. Cai, my current girlfriend met through friends. Cai is a graphic model by profession. She is beautiful, lively and cheerful, and likes to make friends and travel. After they got to know each other, they were satisfied with each other and soon established a love relationship.

During the love period, because of the free working hours, Zhang took Cai out to play by car when he was free. She ate a big meal, watched a movie, watched a photo exhibition and went on an outing. It was sweet and happy, and their feelings quickly warmed up. Then they started living together.

Like most young couples, after more than half a year of love, their feelings cooled down and tended to be dull. Because living together and facing it every day, the freshness is getting less and less. Due to the rapid development, happiness comes and goes suddenly. Cai lost his attraction to himself, so Zhang put all his thoughts into his work. Her communication with Cai is mostly through social software, and her attitude is perfunctory, which also affects her love experience.

Seeing this change in Zhang, Cai deals with a man as he deals with you: since Zhang doesn't care about himself, I don't have to coax him around every day. So in order to earn some pocket money, I resumed the previous graphic modeling industry. Zhang is very sensitive about her career. Seeing my girlfriend back in her old job, I couldn't help complaining a little, so they often quarreled.

The fuse of their breakup originated from a suitor who died halfway. While shooting a promotional film for a company, Cai met a sales executive. The man fell in love with Caiyi at first sight and launched a fierce chase, but Cai had no feelings for him. Cai told Zhang about it very frankly. Unexpectedly, Zhang did not understand, but also gave birth to greater suspicions and thoughts all day.

Cai's freedom and privacy have been violated. No matter how she explained it, Zhang couldn't believe herself, and finally broke up when she couldn't bear it.

1. Demand is too high.

People who have high emotional demands and strong desire for control are also insecure. If you always want others to cater to your love mode, and the other person can't meet your expectations, you will start to doubt and start to feel uneasy, which is actually very unfavorable to your feelings.

In the relationship between men and women, the commonality of feelings is the premise of keeping freshness and mutual attraction. If two people have different interests and hobbies and don't change for each other, try to improve their emotional quality to manage this relationship. After a long time, I don't know each other more and more, which leads to lower and lower viscosity of love.

2. Personal value is reduced and unattractive.

The long-term freshness of love mainly depends on its own attraction. If your attraction is lost again and again in the running-in of life, then your grasp of love is gone.

The lack of personal value is not only reflected in the decline of attractiveness, but also in the lack of personal love attitude. Such a state will make women see no hope for the future, not to mention the long-term love between you.

1. Adjust the framework to reduce the sense of demand.

Relying too much on your lover and losing the framework of love will only disgust her and despise your value. Therefore, the first step to save this situation is to adjust your love framework and reduce the sense of demand.

Don't pay too much attention to each other, and allocate your energy reasonably. Pay attention to your work properly, or have time to do what you like and reflect on your mistakes. When the sense of need decreases with the shift of attention, your sense of dependence will also decrease, thus establishing a correct love framework.

2. Learn female psychology and respect women.

Love is what you want, and giving is a necessary condition to maintain the long-term development of love. You shouldn't kidnap your lover in return. Therefore, we should correct our love values, explore the true meaning of love, and learn the skills of getting along with each other, so that our contribution is sincere and loving, not utilitarian.

At the same time, in order to avoid the reappearance of materialized love, we should learn from women's psychology and respect women. The behavior in the recovery stage should be cautious, from the perspective of women, taking into account the woman's feelings, and don't blindly use your own ideas and ideas to stipulate what the other party should do.

3. Rebuild communication and seize the opportunity to save it.

With the change of behavior and concept, you should rebuild the communication bridge after the negative influence you bring gradually weakens. Take the initiative to downgrade the relationship, cut in as a friend, take her interest points as a window to maintain long-term effective communication, and at the same time show her positive changes and new posture in communication, so as to attract the attention of the other party and establish a second attraction.

Finally, a tentative invitation is issued at an appropriate time, and the feelings of the other party are warmed up through a series of redemption techniques. If the other person accepts your invitation and is fully prepared, you can prepare a gift or plan a surprise according to her needs. Then give each other a surprise during the date. It's hard for the other party to refuse at this time.

Orange Emotion (juziqinggan003), a love guide and recovery expert around you.